I Dont Think My Husband Is Attracted to Me Since Im Pregnant

My hubby didn't do that .. but if he's 'not attracted' at 10 weeks ... just wait until your 40 weeks when you won't feel up to anything and you'll have a wonderful big basketball in your way - lol!

Now, you may not 'feel' like he's attracted and him actually telling you he's not attracted are 2 different things. You will go through all sorts of hormones while pregnant and post (as you already know) ... so I'd share your thoughts with hubby and hopefully he'll be sensitive to your needs of 'feeling attractive' to him. Hope that made sense. :-) Just remind him that he won't hurt the baby!!! Perhaps pull some 'official' info from the internet - just to ease his mind, if that's the case.

BTW - I think pregnant woman are absolutely beautiful!!!!! :-)

You are def not alone here. I went through it as well as my sister in law. My BIL finally told her that it wasn't that he wasnt attracted to her it was just scary for him cause he didn't know if he'd hurt her, or hurt the baby, or cause a miscarriage or something. Once they finally sat down and talked things were back to normal for them. :)

Hi R.,

I am sure there are plenty of us out here who feel your pain. When I was pregnant with our first child, my husband didn't see the beauty in pregnancy AT ALL. He still expected sex but didn't exactly want to do it the conventional way either (afraid of "hurting the baby") so I had to compensate in other ways which was BS! When I was about 5 months pregnant, he even had the balls to ask me when I was going to start losing weight! HELLO!!!! And he wasted no time - the day of my two week check-up after our daughter was born, his only concern was - can we have sex now?! Ergh...But this time around with my current pregnancy he is much more understanding and much more complimentary of me and makes me feel good about myself. He learned from the first time that it's unacceptable to treat me the way he did.

I think it's odd for a man to see the physical changes we go through and to understand it literally is a "growing" process and that we don't start out normal one day then have a baby bump 40 weeks later and suddenly give birth.

Hang in there. He'll eventually come around or he won't. But just know inside - hormones aside - that you vare still a beautiful woman!

-Char

Yes, my husband did not want to do anything while I was pregnant, both times. He felt it was weird and didn't want to hurt the baby, whatever that means. He just didn't feel right about it. After I had both children he bounced back to his normal self, which is wanting it everyday if possible. Don't worry too much, it is not you he probably is just weirded out about a growing baby inside your belly and doesn't want to intrude on that space. At least that is what my husband said. Hope this helps make you feel a little better. A lot of my friends experienced the same reactions from their husbands as well. Its Normal I think!

Join the club!
I went throught the same thing & it STINKS! Eventually, he'll want it again. He won't last the whole 9 months. My advice is to be sure to stay intimate in other ways. My husband is not a hugger, so without "you know what" I realized that we hardly touched each other at all when I was pregnant! When I realized that, I told him how I felt. I told him I felt lonely & isolated & needed some physical contact even if he was afraid of having sex during that time. I had to remind him occasionally, but things got better, and that non-sexual contact caused things to improve in other departments, as well!
Hang in there! I know it's difficult!

I went through something similar. We got pregnant unexpectedly...we were going to wait a couple more years, and when I got pregnant and started showing, my husband didn't seem to be attracted to me either. I truly believe in my case (not necessarily yours) that I (and my changing body) was just a constant reminder to him that his responsibility-free world was coming to an end. He didn't think he was ready for a child...although he COMPLETELY changed when the baby was born. He's the best dad I know and he LOVES being a dad. But I know how you feel. Hang in there. He will come around, just like everyone said. There's lots of cute maternity lengerie out there too.

honey,
its not that he is not attracted to you its that he feels it might hurt the baby in some way or in my husbands case he might feel its wierd since the baby is inside of you. just be patient it will pass.

its weird for a guy to think about his wife being pregnant. They just don't get it and they really can't in my opinion. they worry that they will hurt the baby or hurt you. I am sure that he is still attracted to you!!! and fixing your hair putting on make up and wearing something that you feel hot in helps your self esteem when it comes to feeling sexy and that may rub off on your hubby!!! Try it!

On a positive note.. there are a lot of men out there that are really attracted to pregnant women. Seriously... I guess it's the maternal thing in us, or something. It's just new to him right now, he's still getting used to the idea. He'll get past it, trust me!

-A.

my husband was that way too. I loved being pregnant but I always felt so hurt by him during that time. As soon as the babies were out things changed rather quickly though. With my husband I knew that it wasn't because he didn't find me attractive it was because he couldn't deal with the fact that his child was inside me. It was rather distrurbing for him and very frustrating and hurtful for me.

I thought the same thing about my hubby when I was pregnant too. He told me finally after the baby was born that he was afraid to hurt the baby, he didn't know any better. He went back to college and actually took a human development class, so now he thinks he's the expert in this area...lol and know he knows better.

H.