So my daughter is a tom boy.Loves to dress up like a boy,asks for a lot of boy toys.We let her watch all the super hero movies.But recently she watched "Hulk" and when she is remided of it she will punch,hit kick,yell,scream!I put her in time out,taken away toys but it does not work.Any advice??
Sounds like she needs to find out how David Banner made decisions about acting like that. He hated how Hulk took over and hurt stuff. He was a super hero because he used his strength for good and not acting out.
Help her to learn about "who" Hulk was.
Have you heard of the Love and Logic parent training? It helps teach parents skills and tools to deal with situations like this. Very valuable and worth the time to at least look into.
It sounds like she's pretending to be Hulk!! lol I don't mean to laugh at your situation, I know it can be frustrating, but this is one of those things that you're going to look back on and laugh your butt off. She's old enough to know that it's not okay to hit, punch, kick, ect.., so it's just a matter of getting your point across. I'd take away the movies/tv for a few days. During my kids pre-school days they were constantly reminded to make "good choices." Maybe you could use something along those lines... I know you like the Hulk, but hitting is never a good choice. Now we have to put the movies away for a few days. Whatever you do, just be consistent. Every single time she hits, kicks, punches, ect, use whatever you decide (ex: time out) and stick with it. Good luck!
You have to help her understand that the HULK is fictional and fun to pretend to be, but you still have to be responsible. BRUCE (Sorry Gamma G*) Banner is a mild mannered person who "Hulks Out" from time to time does she understand WHY?
To quote Spiderman ... "With great power comes great responsibility." Maybe that needs to be introduced.
My son has been big into the superheroes since he was very young too, but one of the things we stressed was that they were FICTION.
So, I will suggest you find a safe time/space that it's ok for her to "Hulk Out" and when she is not doing it appropriately talk to her about it.
EX:
LO: GRRRR HULK SMASH!!!
You: We are at the grocery store, we do not Hulk Out at the grocery store, but you can when we get home - time to be "Little One" again.
If she does not comply then a consequence. This way she can be the Hulk but there is now an appropriate way to do it.
*His first name was only "David" in the old TV series, in the comics and anything based on the comics he is referred to as Bruce Banner
It has nothing to do wit the Hulk, really. You need to enforce that when you say NOT to do something, like hitting or acting aggressively, she needs to obey. Including when someone says "Hulk". That takes consistent discipline after one calm warning so she knows she'll never get away with it.
