How Do You Pull Yourself Out of a "Funk"?

Updated on July 30, 2009
J.T. asks from Mansfield, TX
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I have been in a really bad "funk" for about 4 weeks now. I've been working to get myself out of it, and I'm wondering--how do you pull yourself out of funk when you get into one?

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T.F.

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I hop on a plane and go to the beach in Miami for 2 nights and 3 days.

Other things I have done when I couldn't hop the plane was a very pampering spa day with spa pedi/mani and massage. Book a nice hotel for myself here in the DFW area and just go chill for a couple of nights.

Good for you for recognizing it and doing something about it.

Best wishes!

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K.K.

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Working out has helped me....a good hard workout. Be careful of depression sneaking in on you. If you are not enjoying the things in life that you normally did for two or more weeks you may be experiencing depression. It could also be hormones....so many things. I know if I am a little depressed working out will help....it releases the same chemicals in your brain that some of the medications do....but when that was not enough I seeked help from a holistic doctor and it has been AMAZING the change in me....I don't long for nap time anymore....who knew that could happen?!

http://chalmerswellness.com

Take care of you.....Mommies have so much other things to care for....sometimes we have to care for ourselves, guilt free.

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M.G.

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Jessica,

I often get in a funk, unfortunately. I have been better lately, though. What helps me is to VENT - about whatever is bothering me. If you have a wonderful best friend with whom you can trust and tell everything to, go for it (if you already haven't). If you don't want to "bother" your friends with your problems, go to a therapist. There is a therapy center in Lewisville called Youth and family counseling that works on a sliding scale. I went there a few times. The therapist I had was good. If it would help for you to vent to me, a complete stranger, you can send me a personal message and I'd be happy to read whatever you write and give you my opinion.

Otherwise, make sure you are eating right and exercising - take good care of yourself, and get plenty of sleep! Do date nights with your husband. Go out with good friends. Get your hormones checked, perhaps. Get a full physical - have them check your cholesterol, liver, thyroid, etc. etc. etc.

Best of luck to you. I know all about funks and they suck.

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A.D.

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Do you have any hobbies, or something you enjoy doing?

Maybe try your hand at one of those pottery painting places?

Or if you are an earthy girl, get some flowers from Lowes and plant some pretty planters for your self (and maybe share a small one with a friend?)

Try Barnes and Noble for a cool drink and look for a summer read. Identical Strangers is an AWESOME true story that I loved.

I LOVE to learn new things, so maybe learning some Italian or French on audio? They are free illegally on the internet to download (shhhh.....). There are also lots of "how to" videos out there if you are more of a watcher than a listener or reader.

How about a Rachel Ray book and WOW your family with new recipes for a month? The praise does WONDERS for our insides. Or better yet, go watch Julie and Julia and then make some of Julia Child's recipes (as you listen to your Rosetta Stone French mp3s)

Usually my funk is a result of self esteem, so if I learn something new it usually gives me a boost.

Good luck and please email me and let me know how you are doing ok?????

~A.

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K.W.

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You need to go to the doctor to make sure your hormone and thyroid levels are not out of whack. If everything is normal, this is what I do to get out of a funk.

Make sure I are home alone and put on some really sad music and cry my eyes out. Cry till you just can't cry anymore to get all those negative emotions out of you. Nothing like a good cry !!

Then I wash my face, tie my hair back and clean up my house while listening to some good music. My house usually reflects the state of my mind and when I am down my house looks like a tornado hit it. It feels so great to accomplish something after being in a funk. Then I think of something that I really enjoy doing...something physical like cooking or gradening or exercising or my favorite...shopping ! (I cant really read books even though i enjoy reading because I cannot usually focus at these times) Try your best to enjoy what you are doing and if you know someone with a similar interest, it helps to do it with them.

I try not to vent to my friends unless there is a real problem that I need to work out. It tends to just bring us both down. I know this is very different from the advice everyone else has given you, but really hope it helps if you try it. Through all this it is really important to remember that "THIS TOO WILL PASS"...like Eckhart Tolle says :)

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V.P.

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I also believe that a little outdoor time and exercise does wonders... even if it's just a walk around the block in the evening.

For me, a little "alone" time helps, too. Sometimes I just ask my hubby to take the kids out for a few hours. While he's gone, I occasionally take the time to relax or read... but mostly use the time to get stuff done: a quick house cleaning, catch up on bills or email, etc. When they come back, I'm refreshed, and feel like I have a better handle on the "to do list" that's always in the back of my mind.

I also really make an effort to focus on the positives... I look at the joy I get from my kids and imagine what I would feel like if I didn't have them. I look at the work I have to do each day, then imagine the pressures of moms in underdeveloped countries, and the fact that no matter what troubles I think I have, it's nothing compared to what they go through simply trying to keep their children safe and fed.

Finally, there's an old saying "Fake it til you make it." Basically, the premise is, if you "act" happy, you'll become happy. So when I get into a funk sometimes, I'll put on a happy face and before I know it, I'm having a good time.

Good luck!

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P.M.

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Do something for someone else. It helps to focus on someone else besides yourself. Mission Arlington is always in need of workers. ###-###-####. HOpe this helps!

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M.C.

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Hello Jessica,
The best solution, in my very humble opinion, is: helping others. Make a meal for a new mom, a friend who has been sick or has had surgery lately. Try to be "just a little better" listener today to find out what is going on in people's lives and see what they need help in. You have a 2 year old so you are somewhat limited, but even the smallest thing, done with great love, will help to bring you out of your "funk," as you choose to word it. Good luck, Jessica.
P.S. Do you know you are already doing so much in this world?! You are raising a 2 year old! That is your most important job right now and I am sure you are doing it wonderfully! Keep up the good work!

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P.W.

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That you are asking is a good sign. You are headed in the right direction already. I see you like being outdoors. I'm a big believer in going out in nature, being silent and listening.......see if you can gain insight to what you need this way.

"out in nature" could be your backyard, a park or a big tree in your front yard.

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R.C.

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Hi,
I recommend getting outside and being in the sunshine at least a little everyday. You should get some vitamin D that way and make you feel better.

Also, I have just started taking a product called "Max" that is wonderful. Max helps you feel better and I highly recommend it! If you are interested give me a call and I will tell you about it. ###-###-#### R.

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