Really Dissapointed

Updated on June 14, 2011
K.M. asks from Streamwood, IL
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So, typically I am able to "get over it" when I am dissapointed however for some reason I just can not seem to see the upside or light at the end of this tunnel. So, I just started going back to eating in a healthy manner when for the past year I just let it go, really bad choice. My body is not happy with me for this ... the first few weeks of healthy living seem to tear up my insides and no matter what I eat I can not stay full, even with protiens (grumble). So, that has snowballed into my dissapointment ... I have been cleaning all day - catching up on laundry - new puppy has me behind on things - I need a shower, a decent meal (don't get me wrong I like what I am eating I am just not full, it's like eating Chinese Food!) a nap - and now I find out that we re not going to a friend's gathering nor am I going to see UFC 131 at our friends house later tonight :(. I really look forward to UFC night, it's one of mine and daddy's date night activities and instead he is taking his friend since the grandparents are not going to be able to watch the little one. I can bring him to our friend's but that is just misery since we do not get home until after midnight and he will not sleep at our friend's house, and part of the point is to enjoy the fights (can not do that when you are chasing an active 4yr old, and to have a night out! So, anyhow ... I am dissapointed that my "night out" has been cancelled for me with little warning, how do you deal with days/nights/weeks like this where it just feels like nothing is going your way and you can not seem to find pleasure in the little things? I know it's temporary but I want to shorten it :)
Ordering the fight is not an option ... we do not have cable that is why we go to our friend's house and pitch in on the 50 bucks it costs ... I do not want him to miss it either it is a big fight, I just do not want to feel this way either.

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I did share with him, and we are normally on the same page, but since he has been working all week and worked over time today and I do not work, and it's his friend more than my friend he gets to go. Oh well, it happens in life, we can't always get what we want. No friends are able to watch the boy since they will all be at the gathering we were supposed to be at now and a few may be going to the UFC fight at our other friend's afterwards. I have no one that I can pay to watch him avail. Grrrrrrrrr Wow, I feel like I am justifying his going out and my staying home, I know a lot of it has to do with my grumbles due to lack of full belly (doesn't just make kids cranky) thanks for the messages, I will probably just call it an early night.

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K.I.

answers from Los Angeles on

I hear you, that is a total bummer! I would be so disappointed...I LOVE the UFC fights too!!

~When things do not work out for me I try to look on the bright side (maybe the kid will go to sleep early and you can have some quiet time?) or tell myself that there is a reason for everything...sometimes it makes me feel better?! If I were you, I would tell my husband that before he leaves you would like him to watch the kid while you get a shower and have him run out and get you something tasty for dinner :)

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L.C.

answers from Washington DC on

Put the little one to bed and do whatever you want to do for yourself. You aren't going to see the fight and be with adults, but you can do something for you.
It's all about attitude.
LBC

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A.C.

answers from Jacksonville on

I know you said you don't want him to miss the fight either, but I bet if you told him what you just told us, he would willingly. You can put the kid to bed and have date night in.

If you decide to go it alone, have a date night with yourself. Splurge on something that will fill you up, and do something you love (read, watch a movie, mani/pedi, long shower).

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L.A.

answers from Austin on

Once your child is in bed, Go and rent a grown up video make some cocktails or drink a white wine spritzer and just enjoy a nice night at home. Or you and your husband sit outside and hold hands and talk. Or make some woopie..

I am like you, I really look forward to doing grown up things, but it happens when you have kids. If it wasn't baby sitting, it would be our child was super ill..

Maybe go out during a week night?

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C.B.

answers from Boston on

Speak up and let him know what you wrote here. Why would you have to be the one to watch the kid since you obviously both enjoy this outing. Why can he not be the default person to watch the little one. How about calling a babysitter you have to pay for, or explain to a friend and swap babysitting?
Dissappointment is one thing, but it sounds like you looked forward to this and you are being taken advantage of by hubby, who does get to go out but not you? Not fair.
As far as eating goes - try weight watchers - there is always something you can eat to fill you up if you spread the points out well, or otherwise there is always a plate of veggies or their special fill-up soup to have at the end of the day. I haven't done WW in years but it was the only "diet" that made sense to me. If you do have to stay home, do something fun with your 4 year old, get him/her in bed on time, and order something on pay-per-view or take a good book to bed, or call a girl friend to vent. Hang in there!

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B.K.

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Maybe you are a little depressed? Sounds like it from the "light at the end of the tunnel" comment and wanting to find happiness in little things. I think being a stay at home mom can make for long days that seem to melt into each other and i'm sure you really need adult interaction too; that's why you look forward to the fights. (can it be recorded and he can watch it with you the next night or something?) Should find another babysitter for next time, plan more date nights and things to look forward to, and your little one will grow up very fast anyway - you'll be able to do lots of this stuff before you know it.

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answers from Dallas on

It's normal for your body to go through that. It's been given one thing for years, so now it's in freak out mode. The really good news, is bodies are incredible at healing. You probably had some pretty bad gut issues, and now it's trying to fix itself. Soon, you will start to feel really great...I promise!! Great job on changing your eating habits, when you start to feel good, it's so worth it.

Why can't your husband stay home and watch with you there? I mean, you're night is ruined. Why wouldn't he just choose to stay within you, instead of you being forced to stay at home with your child alone...missing out on something you really look forward to?? It seems like a no-brainier, but men can be like that. Speak up!! Tell him you want to watch it, and you want to watch it with him!! If he has a problem staying home...well, that's not really the problem then. He should WANT to share this with you.

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M.P.

answers from Pittsburgh on

I can't really answer your real question but have advice for feeling full: you should try glucomannon. It is a natural plant product and you take 3 pills about 20 minutes before you eat and it really helps making you feel full fast. I learned of this on Dr. Oz. You can get the pills at GNC. They are perfectly safe.

What is UFC btw? Never heard of it.

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