Needing a Quick Answer from Moms

We honestly have no way of knowing. Wait & take a test.

You're 19 and engaged and trying for a baby? Why such a rush? Why not be 100% committed, live life a little bit and then have a child?

If you are trying to conceive and you are 6 days late, why have you not taken a test yet? Seems like a no brainer to me.

One bit of advice....

get married first, THEN have the baby!

K., you are very young and I know you think that you have to do what you want "right now", but really and truly, if you don't have "time" for a wedding, you don't have time for a pregnancy or child. Please take a break from trying to conceive and get married first. It will make SO much of your lives easier. You just don't have any idea of that right now.

Dawn

You're playing with fire, Dear.

Since he is a great guy and husband material then why not make him your husband first before having a child? If you think there is no time to plan a wedding now, there will be even less time when you have a child.

Food for thought... I absolutely loved my early 20's. My girls friends and I had so much fun every weekend. My friends that were already in committed relationships then and were in such a rush to get married are sadly now divorced and are single working moms.

Missing a period is a pretty big sign of pregnancy. Have you tested? There is no way for anyone here to tell you whether you're pregnant or not.

I'm really wondering how you will have time for a child if you don't even have time for a wedding. Not to bowl you over with old-fashioned thinking, but there are a lot of reasons, good reasons, why people used to wait until they were older and married to have kids. What's the rush? Not trying to judge you, just genuinely curious why you want to be so responsibility laden at such a young age when you haven't experienced the world or really figured out who you are yet.

My husband and I met at 18 and fell madly in love. But we decided we didn't want to commit and settle down so early in our lives. We waited 12 -- yes 12 -- years while we both traveled the world and finished college and graduate school. We decided that if we could do all that (6 years together geographically and 6 years long distance) and come out of it still wanting to be together, then we knew it was meant to be. We've been married 14 years and together 26 and are still best friends. But we're also professionals, experienced the world, and able to approach marriage and child rearing with maturity and a sense that we haven't missed out on our lives.
Just food for thought...

You are 19 and I assume you are aware of this but........

Unprotected sex = a chance of pregnancy So Yes, you could be pregnant.

I am with the others here.. Why the rush? Are you ready to bring a child into a financially and emotionally stable home? Provide for that child's daily needs as well as college education, your retirement finding, etc?

You are only 19, you have a whole lot of years ahead of you to get yourself educated, meet someone worthwhile who will be able to be a 100% partner to being parents, have a career, establish yourself, marry, and then bring a child into the world.

It is MUCH easier to do if you are prepared financially and emotionally PLUS the child fares far better healthwise, education, etc.

Your periods have been fairly irregular to begin with and stress/illness can also mess with your period.
You just went 10 months without a period - you might go another 10 months without one and still not be pregnant.
Wait till next month.
If your period is still missing, take a pregnancy test.
If your period shows up, you won't have wasted your money on tests.
Why the rush to start a family?
You don't want to enjoy travel or parties or go to college or plan a wedding or go on a honey moon?
You've got 20 or more years to start a family.
Why not live a little before becoming saddled with responsibility?
When you're ready and have prepared - having a family can be a joyful thing.
Doing it before you're prepared can mess up not only your life but your kids lives as well.
Additional:
Well if you haven't 'had the time' to get married, how are you going to have time to care for a child?
A wedding doesn't have to be a big to-do.
You can marry at city hall with a justice of the peace and have a reception later.
Enjoy some time to bond as an adult married couple.
Then in a few years add some kids into the mix.

Before you try to conceive, you should consider whether you and your fiance have a retirement plan set up (and to which you are contributing regularly), whether you have an emergency fund (you should be able to cover 6-12 months of expenses if either or both of you lose your jobs) and how you will pay for a child and his/her college education and health insurance. I am sure you will be a much better mother when you are older. Probably at least 5-10 years older.

What is the aversion to getting married FIRST, then having children? If your boyfriend is so wonderful and perfect that you want to have a child with him (which is by far the biggest commitment you can make to another human being), then why not make the commitment of getting married? If you don't have "time" for a wedding, then go to the courthouse. I just don't get all these people that have kids together, yet aren't ready for a the "commitment" of marriage.

You can get pregnancy tests for $1 at the Dollar Store. No need to pay lots of money.

You've had one period, last month after 10 months of not having a period. I suggest that your hormones are still messed up or that you have a gynological condition that needs attention. If you haven't already seen a gynecologist in the last few months, I urge you to do so now.

After your SWH. Please take the time to plan and have a wedding before getting pregnant. Not because that's what is expected but because you know this is the man you want to stay and build a family with. Take each step in a logical way. Are you buying a home? If not have you been in your apartment, not your parent's homes for a year? Are your jobs secure? Do you want to work at this job for the next 15 or more years? How can you be sure when you're just 19? You've not had much experience with this job or with others. Perhaps your boy friend is older so that he can be confident about the future. He's been working for several years and knows what to expect from work.

You won't have the time and energy to change careers once you have children without it being a serious hardship. Talk with mothers who are doing this and see what they recommend. Is this job a career or will you be a stay at home mom? What if you decide you want to stay home? Can your boyfriend support all of you?

Who will take care of the baby while you work? Is this the best for your baby? day care, relatives can be difficult to keep consistent. Finding a reliable day care that agree with your values is difficult. Not even a can be. It is difficult.

What if the baby has medical needs. Do you have insurance that will cover them? Would you be able to manage if you need to stay home with him?

Most importantly of all. Do you really know what taking care of a baby 24/7 involves? Are you prepared to work without much sleep for the next several months. Are you and your boyfriend stable enough emotionally to be able to handle the serious stress that a baby creates in a relationship? Have you considered, since both of you haven't made the committment with marriage to be together for a lifetime, how you will take care of a baby alone? The percentage of relationships that don't last is high even with marriage.

I suggest that most women who have babies at 19 later wish they had waited. My daughter had her first at 20. She had a very difficult time taking care of her. She's still having difficult with her and my granddaughter is 12 because they had a rocky beginning together. My granddaughter was and still is a high energy, high maintenance baby and child. She has ADHD and is currently depressed. Even at 32 her parents are in a great deal of stress and still learning how to parent my granddaughter.

Are you ready for the unexpected? Please take the time to talk to other young families, write down a financial plan for the next few years, and consider all the possibilities both negative and positive of bringing a baby into the world.

Yes, you could be pregnant! If you are, congrats! If not, some of the moms on this site have given you great food for thought. My husband and I met when we were 15 & 17. We dated in high school and then went to separate colleges (he was in NY and I was in FL). We got engaged shortly after he graduated (I was 20 & he was 22). Our parents were thrilled, but were adamant that we wait until after I graduated to get married. I graduated in 2000, but wanted to live together before marriage. So, in June 2001 we finally wed (I was 23 & he was almost 25). We had a 2.5 year engagement. We put off starting a family because we wanted to get graduate degrees, save money, travel, etc. We did all of that, lived overseas (military), and survived our first deployment. We had our first child in July 2005. We are so thankful for the "us" time we had--it will never be just us again! In March 2008, we welcomed our second son (he is 5 today!). He was born with a complex congenital heart defect. He had an open heart surgery at 11 days and another at 6 months. We spent 45 days in the hospital and he came home on a feeding tube. His first year was VERY hard--for everyone! We were friendly with another couple who were about your age and not married. Their son had a similar defect. They had all of our "problems", but were also dealing with no health insurance, no leave time at work, etc. They were just kids.

Having kids is awesome--truly amazing! But, get your ducks in a row...you have time. :)

Are you trying to conceive while on the pill? I agree with most posts... 19 is very young! Even if you are in a stable, healthy relationship and are financially ready. Having a child is a big change!! My two babies come first, meaning "me time" is like one hour between putting them to sleep and going to sleep myself. And sometimes, "me time" is doing laundry or getting stuff ready for the next day. I love my children and I do wish I had had them when I was younger...but like, 30, not 19!!

Going back to your question, Take a pregnancy test just to make sure. And if you are trying to conceive, don't take birth control and start on your prenatal vitamins, DHA, and folic acid right away!! Even while trying to conceive, no more alcohol, caffeine, or sugar substitutes.

If you don't have time for a wedding, how do you have time to raise a child? Get married first!

I'm afraid you've accidentally hit some of the mamapedia communities biggest buttons, without even realizing it. The, "Could I Be Pregnant Questions", are infamous around here - the source of a great many jokes and jeers. The answers are rarely helpful to such questions, even when the original poster was looking for comfort and connection more than anything.

Further, while there are moms of all ages and backgrounds who use this site, the majority are over 35, and there is quite a lot of prejudice against young moms / moms who are young and trying to conceive. Being unmarried is yet another "strike" against you, even if you are in a committed and mature relationship. Don't take it personally.

Best of luck either way. I wish you health and happiness.

If you just started getting your periods back, they could still be pretty irregular. After I went off the pill it took a little over a year for my periods to come back, then about 4-5 months before they were anything like regular. So it's possible you're period is still out of whack. I'd go to the dollar tree and stock up on pregnancy tests.

It is very likely you are pregnant.

Have you taken a test? I would buy a couple. One to take today(just for piece of mind). 1 for first thing in the morning(because that is the best time to take them). And a third, just because.

You can have minimal symptoms of pregnancy. Not everyone has horrible sickness.

You can also have period like cramps and spotting that are all fairly normal.

You just want to make sure asap. No drinking, smoking. Pretty much no party stuff.

Good luck!! Having a baby is alot of work. Commitment at its finest!

I read many of the posts below so I'll add my 2 cents here... I think 19 is NOT too young to begin a family. I had my kids at 37 & 40 so now at 53 my kids are teens - and I'm tired! I have firends who began their families while they were youjng and now they have grandkids and are traveling with their husbands. STarting your life together at 19 is a great thing - you'll grow up together. I do urge you to get married though. It gives you legal rights & privileges that you don't get when you're not married. If you man gets horribly ill you don't get to make decisions about his care - his parents do. If he dies his parents or siblings are heir to his estate - not you. This is particularly important if you're having children. It also allows you to really meld yourself together - not only physically & emotionally but now legally.

I understand that you want to plan a wedding, - get the dress, have the party, etc. My nephew & neice who are otherwise not at all old-fashioned got married in the Fall and had their reception the following Spring. It was great becuase the pressure was off - she wore a beautiful dress, carried flowers, had bridesmaids, etc - but it was more relaxed. They had a a great time at their wedding and so did everyone else.

You can usually get a marriage licence for less than $50 (our town it's $25) and they can even tell you who in town can perform the simple civil ceremony. My husband and I got married by a retired judge at his home!

As for whether or not you're pregnant - a drug store test is inexpensive - so go pee on a stick and see what happens!

Wow! All the Ms Judgy-mcJudgersons!! Get off their high-horses and soapboxes! It's your life!
Girl, if you feel that you are ready for a kid and you have a good man, you have to do what's best for you! If you are truly trying to conceive, consult good 'ol Google for information on fertility and cycles. This is how "traditional" Catholics get around birth control--they time their "activities" around times when they are least likely to be fertile. I never bothered to pay that much attention, I just used condoms and now Mirena, but have a friend who, after 6 years of marriage and only using Natural Family Planning has managed to only conceive twice (her son is almost 4 and the other was a miscarriage). You can use it the other way around to figure out the *best* time to try for a baby.
If you've been off BC for 10 months and just got your first period, your body is probably still adjusting to being off the hormones--and YES, you absolutely can be preggers! Go buy the multi-pack and test asap! :) I was only about 2 weeks preggers (didn't even have the missed period yet) when I realized that something was "different" and my stick test was *immediately* positive (no waiting 30seconds)! I repeated the test 2 more times and still went to the doctor for the blood test!
Being sick, stressed, or having a poor diet can all affect your cycle, too.
BTW: Hubby and I started dating at 18y/o, went to college together, married at 23, had our first kid at 27. We're now *almost* 32 and planning to try for another soon! Most of the time I'm glad we waited to have kid(s), but sometimes I do wish we had started sooner... I'm going to be almost 50 by the time my kid(s) graduate from high school! Like I said, it's your life--do the best you can for yourself (and your family)!! Good luck!