Trying to Get Pregnant - Redwood City,CA

Updated on September 23, 2008
K.O. asks from Livermore, CA
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Ok moms, so maybe I am overthinking this, but I am trying to get pregnant (Yeah!) and it is now my third month trying. I am devestated everytime I get my period (even though my doctor assures me on average it takes 4-8 months to seal the deal!) So I was just curious, how long did it take some of you to get pregnant? Is 4-8 months typical?

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J.K.

answers from Fresno on

I thin k I got pregnant by just breathing both times but I know that worring about it causes stress and will hamper the process. My daughter in law has done this and has been trying for a year so just relax and it will happen.

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J.B.

answers from Stockton on

While we did the ovulation kit we also put him in boxer shorts, he hated it but in three months time bingo we were pg. hope this helps.

J.

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C.S.

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I know from experience that the moment you stop planning and just say whatever happens, happens, you'll get pregnant. You need to relax and give it a couple of months. Good luck.

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C.D.

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It took me 5 months of trying with taking my temperature everyday and charting my cycles so that I could maximize my chances of getting pregnant. there is a great book, called Taking Charge of Your Fertility that can help with charting and give you understanding of your cycles. I also know the disappointment of getting your period, even after doing all of this charting- pregnancy is all about timing and truly is a miracle and it will happen for you- try to relax, go on a weekend get away and relax and enjoy making your baby
good luck

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C.C.

answers from Fresno on

It took us about 8 months with each of our girls! But eventually both times it happened and we have happy, healthy girls now. It will happen - give it time. Also, I think for me, the stress of my job affected me both times. So if there is any stress you can let go of, that will surely help. (Easier said than done! =)

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M.S.

answers from San Francisco on

I've got stories from both sides of the aisle on this one. We got pregnant with our first the first month. It was shocking to me - I thought, four to eight months, just like you said. The second time it took us the full 8 months. I was OK with it for the first three or four months, but after that I was also very upset and scared that something was wrong.

Looking back I personally believe that stress was to blame for not getting pregnant quickly the second time. We were trying to sell our house, sold it and moved in the span of six months. On top of that, I was working long hours, had another child to take care of, and my husband was working long hours too. Our time together was limited and not quite as focused as it was when trying to conceive the first time - not a good combination. After we moved we both took two weeks off, went camping with family for a few days, left our daugther with grandparents for a few days afterward, unpacked and just relaxed and spent time together and as a family. It was during those two weeks that I got pregnant.

You can buy ovulation kits too if you want to know when you're ovulating. I have never used one, but I know people who have and had success. Good luck.

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J.L.

answers from San Francisco on

For me, here's how it went:

baby #1:
6 months of trying with ovulation monitor (clear blue easy..the pricey one) temperature taking, position changes, sex every other day for 10 days each month and monitoring cervical mucus.

baby #2:
it took 1 pitcher of margaritas and we were pregnant

point is, relax, it is so stressful and i thought we would never get pregnant....but your body will let you when it is relaxed and you are ready. enjoy the process....it will be the last time until your babies are in college that you have all of this wonderful un-interrupted blissful alone time with your man.

PS: but i do really love the clear blue easy monitor. it was expensive, but i still use it as a method of birth control. and it REALLY helps in understanding your cycles (i ovulate at different times each cycle, so i was always missing it by a day or two).

Best of luck to you and HAVE FUN!

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C.L.

answers from Sacramento on

I have heard that it helps shorten the time if you pretend that you are having an affair. I don't know why that is.

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C.M.

answers from Chico on

Your doctor is correct...unless you happen to be what I call a "Fertile Myrtle" who can get pregnant the first day off the pill. LOL! My sister is a "fertile Myrtle", but it took me 5-6 months to conceive after going off the pill with all three of my children. Most people I know it has taken at least 4+ months. Beleive me, the minute you quit stressing out about it, it will happen. On our second, I had just about given up ever having another child...our oldest was 4 and then it happened! Enjoy your family as it is and your sleep while you can...

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J.T.

answers from Sacramento on

When You stop trying and just allow the circle of life to take place.... it will happen..... the continual stress of finding out your not pregnant and the emotionality alone from trying and not succeding will be very hard.

I did not get pregnant with my first until I was 32, I tried and tried and tried... and when I gave up and come to the conclusion I couldn't get pregnant.... Guess what!!

I don't know what you were using for protection in the past?
but just allowing the process and enjoying the passion and romance with your husband and son for now will be the spring board of someting even more wonderful to come!

cozy winter nights, warm toasty fires, and full moons bring heavenly surprizes!!!

Best of Luck!

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J.C.

answers from Sacramento on

It took me 6 months. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a great book to help you learn about your body. Also, you can get an ovulation kit (by the pregnancy tests at stores). The more frustrated you get, the harder it will be to get pregnant. Try not to think about it when you are in the moment. I know it's hard, but it will definately help!

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N.S.

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1st relax! if you are trying to hard it will not happen. With my 1st it was 2 months, with my 2nd it was almost a year, and with the last it just happened. with the second we were trying I used the ovulation kits and everything but nothing worked. As soon as we stopped trying I got pregnant. Sometimes we put to much stress on or bodies because we want to have another baby soooooooo bad. But it just makes it worse and our bodies do not respond well. So sit back relax and let it happen.

N.

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S.L.

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Hi K.
I agree with christie, get a copy of take charge of your fertility, track your cycle for a few mos and see what the results are, could be NUMVEROUS reasons you aren't getting pregnant (as quickly as you would like) but the reasons could be very easily resolved, including you just migth be missing your peak time of the month. .additionally, ovulation kits are ok, but not always 100% in that if you do use one, test TWO times a day, sometimes a woman's LH surge may be short so if for example you tested in the morning it was negative, you could surge later (and have it only last less than 10 hrs) and then if you test the next morning, once again, you are negative, additonally, sometimes a woman's LH surge doesn't make the threshold of the ovulation test kit, meaning your sugre IF you have one wasnt high enough, so as you can see there are many reasons women miss the peak of fertility each month.. also, don't look at it as infertility (as some woman do) often women just aren't understanding their cycles enough.
believe me, once you read that book, you will have a greater understanding of not only fertility but your cycle overall and this info is beneficial for a lifetime..
good luck to you!! :)

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L.L.

answers from Sacramento on

I was off the pill for 4 months when we got pregnant with my son. It helps that I wasn't thinking about it and I was relaxed. The first couple months I was disappointed when my period came, but the month I got pregnant I was so busy with life that I wasn't even thinking about it. It took me a couple days to even realize I was late. And then I told my husband nonchalantly "Oh I'm a couple days late but its probably nothing like the other times." Then I forgot about it again hoping that I would relax and my period would come (It never failed..I would take the prego test, it would be negative, and the next day I would get my period). Then I was sitting at my desk at work and it donned on me again that I hadn't had my period and I could be pregnant. I went and got a test at lunchtime and sure enough I was pregnant.

So my advice to you, get a hobby or something else you can get really involved in. Let nature take its course and you'll be pleasantly surprised.

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G.D.

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Well, it took over a year for my husband and I to get pregnant with our now 5 year old daughter. No fertility problems, it just took that long. I am now expecting our son in October--it took us 2 1/2 years to concieve with him! I Went back to our fertility doc. just to make sure there was nothing wrong (I had a C-Section with my first), and he said everything was fine, I just needed to chill out! He was right, because we became pregnant one month later on our own.
I understand the heartbreak each month when you get your period, it can really get you feeling depressed and anxious, all of which makes the baby making process harder.
All I can suggest is too NOT focus on it so much (easier said than done). Try and put your energy into your beautiful little boy, and the baby will come soon. Good luck with everything!
G.

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A.R.

answers from Sacramento on

Hi K.,
Every woman is different. If you are truely worried you can seek medical treatment to rule things out(for both you and your husband). Also, knowing when you ovulate is good. You can purchase ovulation kits from the drug store. I don't have experience with them unfortunately, so I can't tell you how reliable they are.
You may also want to consider Acupuncture. It has a great success rate and is a helpful treatment pre-pregnancy, during pregnancy and post pregnancy!!
Good luck, and try not to worry too much!! I will keep you in my thoughts!

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K.C.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi K. - I know EXACTLY how you feel! It took my husband and me 11 months to finally conceive! It was so frustrating...And each month seemed like an eternity (escpecially when it seemed that everyone around me was getting pregnant so easily). I am a healthy 28 year old (27 at the time). I feel like it finally happened right as I was ready to give up on trying. I guess that's when I finally relaxed and stopped stressing. Good luck!

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C.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi K.,
I also recommend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. It will help you to figure out the fertile phase of your cycle (no need for ovulation predictor kits!), if and when you ovulated and possible issues that may be affecting your fertility. Unfortunately I didn't get this book until after 2 years of trying to conceive my first. It would've saved me a lot of stress because I felt that knowing what was going on (by knowing my basal body temperature and what it meant) I wasn't obsessing about trying to get pregnant. And when my temperature dipped at the end of my cycle, I knew my period was coming and somehow that helped cushion the blow.
Good luck whatever you do,
C.

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K.H.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi K.. :)

I'm thinking your doctor means the average time it takes a couple when they are trying...So, if you get a wide enough group of responses (as study is usually a minimum of 1000+), you'd get the same average. So, you could end up on the high or the low side of that average.

What's most important is knowing when you ovulate. The rest of the time making love is 'just' for fun. I'm thinking for those couples who are healthy, etc., the extra months of heartbreak are caused by the lack of knowledge of 'how'. When one gets tired of being disappointed, they may start looking around for help - or, at last get lucky that month. :)

I looked around for you - I think this website will help: (Just copy and paste) http://www.whattoexpect.com/preconception/fertility/five-...

Best wishes. And, please don't fret each month -- it's not a personal defeat. You're still young and have a full life with your current child. There's plenty of time to get pregnant with the next. :)
K.

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J.P.

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DS #1 took 5 cycles, I was pretty clueless about what it took to get pregnant. DS #2 took 2 cycles, would have been a month sooner but hubby went out of town for the weekend ;). I got pregnant on the pill earlier this year but lost it. I'm now entering cycle #3 of trying to get pregnant again. I'm using ovulation predictor sticks. There are many women who chart. From what I understand we have only about a 20% chance of getting pregnant in any given month. Most people are pregnant within 6 months.

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H.G.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi, it took us about a yr. but I got pregnat the 1st time I tried the ovulation kits. I had been counting the 14 day rule but realized I don't ovulate until day 23ish.. you may want to give them a try..

Good luck and it will happen before you know it!

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M.C.

answers from San Francisco on

Relax and enjoy your time together.

I did not want to be in the "trying" mode and disappointed every time I got a period. We didn't seek fertility counseling, we didn't try every month, and we didn't use anything to prevent pregnancy and our kids are:

7 1/2 yrs apart
5 yrs apart
6 1/2 yrs apart

Mom of 4 and enjoying it: 19, 11, 6, baby due 10/1

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T.M.

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It all depends on the female. It took over two years before I was pregnant. My doctor told me to keep track of my period, when he had intercourse and to take an ovulation test. Once I started doing that for a month - WOW I was pregnant. This was because I do not have a normal ovulation cycle. I would try that and then let your doctor know what you are doing and if that does not work then they may help you out further.

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T.D.

answers from San Francisco on

How exciting! Speaking from my own experience, I went off the pill about a year before I got pregnant. I am now 8 months pregnant and we are expecting a little girl in October (YAY). I know how frustrating it can be once you decide to have a baby and it doesn't happen "right away", but seriously don't worry, it will happen. Honestly, it can take up to a year or so, especially if you've been on birth control for awhile. I'm a little older than you, but had been on the pill for quite awhile and had never been pregnant before, so I was starting to wonder if it would ever happen. Be patient and don't stress (start taking prenatal vitamins too for the folic acid). For me, it literally happened once I stopped thinking/obsessing about it. Good luck and enjoy the baby-making process :)

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K.S.

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K. -
I feel your pain, however, three months is not very long to have been trying. I was trying for over a year before I finally got pregnant with my #2. I'm now 8 weeks along. If you haven't tried this yet, one way that might help speed things up is to use a fertility monitor. The one made by Clearblue is super easy to use and pretty reliable. The monitor will ask for test about 10 days a month. It will show you the window in your cycle that you are most fertile. It takes about two months for the monitor to learn your cycle. It is costly, I think the monitor runs about $125 and a 3 month supply of tests runs around $50. For me, my cycle was wacky, so this really helped. Clearblue advises not to share the monitor, but my sister-in-law invested in the monitor and she has loaned it to me twice and a couple of her other girlfriends have also borrowed it and we all found success using it.
Good luck to you.

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K.M.

answers from San Francisco on

I tried and failed for two years. I, too, was devastated every month. The I went to acupuncture and got pregnant in two weeks. Acupuncture heals your body and gets things working like they are supposed to again. I had MANY health benefits from it

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J.S.

answers from San Francisco on

The first time it took almost a year, the second time it took 4 years. Try not to stress out, it will work against you.

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A.V.

answers from San Francisco on

First time - the first month
Second time - three months
Third time - Ten months

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A.L.

answers from Sacramento on

With my first, we weren't even trying and it happened. Very big but welcome surprise! With our second, we tried for probably 3 months and finally got pregnant. And with our third, we weren't trying at all and now we are expecting our third in March!
From what I heard you can, obviously, get pregnant anytime but I think that your most fertile is 2 weeks after your period started. Plus, after you guys have sex, throw your legs in the air or put a pillow under your bottom for 5-10 minutes before getting up. You can also try an ovulation detector and know exactly when you're ovulating.
Hope that helps a bit!! Good Luck!

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S.H.

answers from San Francisco on

It took me about 6 months to get pregnant with my 1st two girls. My third baby took me only a month without trying.

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J.A.

answers from San Francisco on

Hi, I used ovulation kits for all 3 of my children. I did find out however, that I don't ovulate at the "right " time. I actually ovulated on day 21 instead of day 14. So once I figured that out, it became easier. Best of luck, and just try to relax. It will happen when you least expect it!!

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K.W.

answers from San Francisco on

It took me 5 mths to get pregnant with my first son...and it took my girlfriend and her husband 2 years. Relax and it will happen...stress will slow down the process.

-K.

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M.E.

answers from Sacramento on

6 months the first time...10 minutes and twins the 2nd.

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K.H.

answers from Fresno on

Hi K.,
My first pregnancy wasn't planned and I was on the pill. So, when my husband I decided to try for number 2 we thought it would happen quickly. It took us 5 months to get pregnant the second time. My doctor reassured me this was normal. I had a close friend who tried for 2 years and then got pregnant with invitro. So, 5 months really wasn't that long of a wait in the grand scheme of things. But, I know how you feel, anticipating a missed period and then having it come. It is dissappointing. Just keep tryin and you will have a bun in the oven before you know it.

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C.M.

answers from San Francisco on

It looks like you've got a lot of responses... I don't have time to read them so hope this isn't too redundant... I would give it a total of 6 months... then MAYBE ask for testing... I will tell you.. I have since been turned down for private med insurance because I was tested for fertility issues. (which we had)

You could get one of the ovulation predictor kits...

It sounds like you are not the birth mother of your 5 y/o... have you experienced infertility in the past? If so... get a move on it.

It is true.. as much as you HATE to hear it... if you're stressed out about getting PG... you will have a harding time getting PG... so try to have FUN TRYING!!!!

I won't say how long it took for me to get PG with my boys... I had fertility probs... probably not relavant to your situation... and would just freak you out! But hey... even we had success... with some MAJOR obsticles!

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A.D.

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It took me a year. I am 38 so that could be part of it. I went to a fertility specialist, took clomid and was super depressed each month I got my period too! Then I stopped seeing the f.s.(too stressful), prayed and tried to surrender that the time would come eventually. After that it took about 5 months. I am now 10 weeks pregnant. I wouldn't worry - yes it can be discouraging, but it does take time. YOu may try an ovulation kit too - but then again it can cause stress which doesn't help! Good luck

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A.D.

answers from Sacramento on

With my first it took 10 months, and with my second it took 1 month. With my second I was using the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility." I found out that my luteal cycle was to short for implantation. I then went to Longs and found some natural Progesterone cream and used that long enough to allow implantation (you might get hot flashes with this, I definetely did.) My daughter is still breastfeeding but I have already started monitoring my temps so that I can know when I get pregnant again.

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A.F.

answers from San Francisco on

It took me a year to get pregnant.

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A.B.

answers from Stockton on

Hi K.,

I know what you are going through. When I was trying to conceive my son I was heartbroken every single month that I found out it hadn't happened.

I came from a family where people joked that standing next to a man would make you pregnant, so I expected that it would happen immediately.

In short, it took us a full year of trying. I monitored my ovulation and there was no pattern, rhyme or reason to my cycles.

I'm currently pregnant again. As far as I can tell, one accidental time and here we are again :-)

Keep trying, relax, and have fun with it. It'll happen again and chances are it will happen when you stop stressing and are not expecting it :-) Good luck!

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H.D.

answers from San Francisco on

HI!

I was 32 when I got pregnant with my first (only a week trying!). I was 36 when I got pregnant with my second, after 2 months trying!

Check your cervical mucous. That will tell when you are ovulating, and therefore, the best time to get pregnant.

Have fun trying! Oh, and the sex is still great once you are pregnant!

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S.G.

answers from Bakersfield on

Dear K.,
I'm assuming you and your husband both are healthy? With that in mind I want to draw your attention to HypnoFertility, hypnosis to help you conceive. I don't know your location, but you can find a HypnoFertility therapist by logging on to HypnoBirthing.com. You will notice several entries, but you'll want the HypnoBirthing institute where you'll find HypnoBirthing practioners and HypnoFertility Therapists listed. Of course, if you live anywhere near Bakersfield or environs, go to www.BakersfieldHypnoBirthing.com

Happy fetility to you, S.

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G.P.

answers from Modesto on

K.,
I only planned one child, but I do have 3. I know we ovulate a week before our menstrual cycle. I guess our bodies are different, there is a device at a pharmacy that tells you when your ovulating, & when its a good time to get pregnant. Ive seen the commercial a few times.
Maybe you check it out. Good luck!

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C.A.

answers from San Francisco on

It took us a year to get pregnant with our daughter and we've been trying since January (with no success as of yet) for our second. I completely understand your frustration, sadness, anger, etc. Every month it's a huge cycle, wait for my period to wait to ovulate to wait to have sex to wait to see if I have my period (or in my case, take about 10 pregnancy tests because I want the results before my period starts). I use the ovulation predictor kids because I have an irregular periods. There's also a couple web sites out there that helps you track. Have you gone to the doctor and had any blood work done? My doctor didn't do any fertility stuff until we had tried for a year, but when I told her at my annual exam that we were going to start trying she had me do some blood work and start prenatal vitamins. The month we got pregnant with my daughter was the month I had a total meltdown with my husband about how upsetting everything was for me. If you ever need to talk to get any more information from me, feel free to message me. However, I wouldn't start worrying too much right now!
Best of luck
C.

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B.M.

answers from San Francisco on

We had heard that it would take a while to get pregnant. I was 34 and this horrible chart in Time magazine told me that it would take an average of eleven months. So we started before we were really ready...and got pregnant two weeks later! We used an ovulation predictor kit, and boy did it work. One thing though- using the predictor kit you're more likely to have a boy because you conceive closer to the time of ovulation. Not that that would be a bad thing :) Good luck to you!

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V.R.

answers from Sacramento on

Enjoy the journey with your husband - if you're meant to have another child, it will happen!

It took us 6 months to conceive our first & only child. Did nothing special, was only using condoms before conception & I was 33 when I conceived. I do remember once or twice remaining in bed, on my back, after a few love-making sessions, for about 20 minutes or so. I had read somewhere that it can help move things along - but I have no idea if that's what did it. Also, using any kind of lubrication can also affect conception. Once we cut that out, within 2 months we were pregnant. Hubbs also wears boxers.

Have fun & try not to be disappointed every month - you're still very young!

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S.B.

answers from Redding on

Dear K.,
Everyone is different. I have friends that I tease about not even washing their underwear together or the wife will end up pregnant. It took me 6 years then 4 years. But that was after being told I would never have children. I never used birth control...didn't see the need. I wanted babies, but we didn't do anything heroic like in vitro or anything. I didn't even start my period until I was 15 and by 16 I was already in trouble. I was diagnosed with endometriosis and had numerous surgeries to try to burn some of it off. I was put on birth control pills for a solid year...never taking the ones that allow you to have a period. I was shut down totally for a year. It helped quite a bit with the constant pain I was in. Then I went off the pills and about a year later, I got pregnant. I was back in the hospital again when my daughter was still a baby. I lost track of how many surgeries I had. I re-married and it took 4 years for the second baby. I was actually scheduled for a hysterectomy after the first of the year and started feeling funny. I was pregnant.
One thing I think is good (although easier said than done) is not worrying about it too much. I have a friend who even went out of state numerous times to see specialists for in-vitro. All attempts failed. She was told she would never get pregnant and her heart was just broken. So, she and her husband bought a brand new house and they both got new vehicles and just accepted their fate. 3 months after her house was finished, she got pregnant. She had a beautiful bouncing baby boy. Enjoy the trying. Don't worry so much. Barring anything wrong with your system, it will happen.
I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.
Best of luck!

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K.S.

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Hi K., You have probably received a lot of advice already, but I just had to chime in. I am not someone who tends to give advice but in this case I believe strongly that EVERYONE should read 'Taking Charge of Your Fertility'. It is amazing that women are not taught enough about their own bodies. We not only need to know how to monitor our own fertility, but our own health as well. Your doctor is right that it takes 4-8 months to conceive, but only when you don't know what is going on with your own cycle! At 35 we conceived our daughter the first month we tried, and with our son I knew that my luteal cycle was too short. I explained this to a wonderful fertility doctor (Dr Philip Chenette at Pacific Fertility in SF), basically took tiny synthetic hormone pills for a week and conceived our son the next cycle, when I was 38 years old. Of course it may not be this easy for everyone but we can always arm ourselves with as much information as possible. I sincerely hope this helps, and wish you all the best.

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J.W.

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It took me 10 months to get pregnant. I think the average is actually closer to a year. I hope this info. doesn't upset you. I know how hard it is when you're trying to get pregnant. I highly recommend the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" - http://www.amazon.com/Taking-Charge-Your-Fertility-Annive...

It will help you to understand your body so you know when you should be trying. Not everyone ovulates on day 14 of their cycle.

Good luck and hang in there!

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L.O.

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I got pregnant in my 3rd month trying then had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. It is a frustrating process but you have to relax about it so that your body can work the way it needs to. I'm currently going to accupuncture. It's great. It keeps me healthy and builds my immune system and focuses on the things that are necessary to get your body ready to get pregnant. Go to someone who specializes in women and pregnancy. Also, it feels like you are doing something proactive. It takes a lot of patience. I'm hoping to get pregnant soon too!

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M.B.

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K.,

I know it is hard, but try to relax and be patient. It took us about 9 months both times!

Good Luck and Have Fun Trying!
M.

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G.B.

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I got pregnant with my second child by using the book "Taking Charge of Your Fertility". You chart your morning temps and check for other body signs that are predicting you are going to ovulate. After two months of charting my temps, I could see my pattern and what day I usually ovulated. In month three, copulating every other day around my ovulation time, we ended up pregnant with a boy.

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K.M.

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Hi K.,
It took my husband and I over a year with our first and I was only 21! We finally went to a fertiality dr to see if there was anything wrong with us, turns out I got pregnant the same week we went to see him! It will happen when your bodies ready and when you stop stressing (remember the saying a watched pot never boils?) just have fun and let it happen...we like to say pratice makes perfect and our son is deffiently perfect!

good luck!

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K.T.

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Have you tried taking your basal body temp (BBT) to narrow down when you're ovulating? I did this and was able to get pregnant both times the 1st month trying. It's quite easy to do. Go to any pharmacy and buy a basal body thermometer and take your temp before getting out of bed each morning (preferably at the same time). Sign up at a free website like www.fertilityfriend.com and enter your temp there. Typically between CD (cycle day) 11-18 you'll notice a slight dip and then spike in temp. That dip coupled with cervical mucous that resembles either water or egg whites indicated ovulation and that's when it's best to get pregnant. You'll notice that your temp after ovulation will remain noticably higher than your pre ovulation temps until a drop in temp (usually around 14DPO...days past ovulation) indicates that your period is going to arrive. Good luck! BTW - it's best to begin a chart on the 1st day of your period (CD1) but you can start one in the middle if you have to.

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M.S.

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K.,

When I was trying to get pregnant with my first child it took me 8 months. I was like you and was getting sad when I would take a prgnancy test and it would come up negative. I think 4-8 months is typical. Part of the problem is also stressing about it. As soon as I started trying to get pregnant my period stopped. My prolactin ended up being too elevated (which can be caused by stress). So have a glass of wine and relax. It will happen! I got pregnant with my 2nd baby without even trying!

Good Luck!

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J.S.

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K.,
I know how you feel, because you want it to happen instantly. Because I am so impatient, i bought an ovulation predictor kit. Some are tricky to understand how to read, so read carefully. This helps you be sure you are trying at the right time. This will increase your odds of making it happen sooner.
Also, what I did was plan something special for myself if my period came. Something to look forward to. Shopping, the movies, girls night out. What ever.
Good luck to you!
J.- a mom of 3

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K.R.

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I am a fertile myrtle so I was suprised when it took me several months to conceive my fifth pregnancy but fourth baby. (I lost my last pregnancy at 4 months along) But now I'm pregnant again and thrilled as ever. All I can say is God knows the perfect timing. If for some reason you are not getting pregnant there may be a reason you do not even understand. I wouldn't force it despite your desires. Because I would rather not be pregnant than to go through what I went though with the loss of my last pregnancy, that was devastating. Also I would only want it to occure naturally so there is no risk of side effects (known or unknown) to my baby. Hope this encourages, and I recommend prayer would be the best thing.
Shalom

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B.M.

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I went through the same devestation each month for 6 months in 2006. It didnt make sense to me because I did not intentially get pregnant with my first. I was on birth control, never missed a pill, and took the pill at exactly the same time everyday, and I still got pregnant. Anyway, thats not the point, but you can see why I was so upset. I started thinking that maybe it was my husband. (My first preganacy, I got pregant on my honeymoon at 19yrs old. It was the first time I had intercourse, with my now ex-husband, without making him wear a condom.) So I figured maybe we were not ready yet. My husband and I had been married for a year, and dated for three years prior to that. To make a very long emotional story short, on the 7th month my husband and I stopped trying. And low and behold, I got pregnant.

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N.C.

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One member of my family had great success with an ovulation test. She had been trying for almost a year when she finally used one and got pregnant that month. Good Luck.

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A.L.

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I tired for 2 years to conveive teh first time. We did the whole fertility thing and nothing was wrong. It was not till we stopped trying, stopped focuing so much on it and getting worked up every month that we got prego. The 2nd time around it took 7 months and again when we said let's top thinking about it and stop focusing on ovulation, we got pregnant.

So relax, yes it takes time and I feel the more relaxed about it you are the more quickly it will come.

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Z.M.

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Out of 6 pregnancies (one terminated, 3 failed, two adorable boys) It took 2 months twice, 6 monts, 7 months, and 2 'oops's-- broken condom (how funny is that for a married couple?) and failed IUD.
It'll happen!

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W.H.

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Well, 4-8 months of trying before each pregnancy would be nice if that were the case for me. 10 years of marriage and only one kid to show for it. Don't use any birth control. :-/

There is a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler. It's a great book and lots of helpful info in there. (although I only had 1 kid in 10 years...)

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P.C.

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Try reading the book "Taking Charge Of Your Fertility" - it's an easy read, very informative, and although the "Fertility Awareness Program" (FAP) is what I'm using to *avoid* getting pregnant, it is usually used the other way around :). Several friends have used it and recommend it to others trying to get pregnant, and it has totally worked.

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J.M.

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The first time I got pregnant it took two years, then I miscarried, then it took another full year to get pregnant again with my first child. Hang in there!

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L.C.

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It took me a year to just get my period back after going off the birth control pills. After that it took another 3 months to get pregnant.... that one ended in miscarriage. After that it took another 2-3 months I think. I have several friends who have tried for up to a year and many for 4-8 months. It is normal. The best thing you can do is relax and let nature take its course.

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J.W.

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I think I win, ha ha, it took me 12 years to get pregnant. We tried every infertility procedure, we even adopted a little girl. Then, surprise surprise......But I do not agree with "just relax". Your time will come when it's right. Until then, try not to get too hung up on the baby at the end, focus on the fun "trying" part, and keep it fun.
Good luck!

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W.O.

answers from San Francisco on

I ended up buying an ovulation predictor kit and it did the trick. I heard if you have been on the pill it can take 6-12 months of being off it to get pregnant. Hang in there!

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R.V.

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Hi K., OH how I remember the pain of every month hoping your pregnant only to start your period again. It was such a surprise to us because our first 2 pregnancys were so easy and happened right away no real trying, much to my husbands dissapointment. But then the 3rd baby took us three years . we had finally acepted that our family wasn't going to grow and we were thankful for the 2 children we had and surprise ,it happened. I chalk it up to Gods perfect timing which isn't always what I think it should be. But everything worked out perfectly and we are so happy the way it turned out.I did buy an ovulation kit because I was curious about my cycle and when I ovulated and if I did. Now that little girl is almost 3 and we were'nt to worried about it happening again because it took so long... and whoopsy a baby sister is almost here. We really were convinced that we couldn't get pregers again because we are older ( me 38, him 46). But like I said things happen for a reason and we are very happy to be blessed with another. I think like so many of the moms have said to just relax and it will happen when you least expect it. Take comfort in knowing your body has already produced a beautiful little person and surely when the time is right theres another baby ready to bless your family. Best wishes to you.

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P.B.

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Hi K. - It took me 6 years before my husband and I were blessed with our only child - now 14 and just started High School! YIKES! Please don't worry. I truly understand how you feel when your period comes. Every month I prayed, tried to time my cycle, do it at the right time, and still I felt I failed. It wasn't until I decided to give it up to God. I relaxed knowing the decision if I was to have a child was in His hands, not mine. And the decision I made also included accepting His will if I did not get pregnant. My Husband says conception happenned on his Birthday (which could be correct!). Try to relax, if your religious - pray about it because God does answer prayers. All the best, Pattib

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V.S.

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Hello the last time I tried yea it took about 6 months.Dont give up it will happen when you least expect it.

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A.C.

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Your doctor is right. Most people do not get pregnant right away. With our son, we conceived on the first month that we tried, but with this pregnancy it took 8 months. Also, I was pregnant in between (resulted in miscarriage), and that time it took 4 months to conceive.
If you have tried for a year and you still aren't pregnant, then you should see the doctor. For now, though, just try to relax and see what happens. I know that's a lot easier said than done, but it really does help!
Good luck!

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D.M.

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Hi K.,

Yes, I think it's very typical. It took me a year with my first baby and I just found out I am pregnant again this morning and that took us 8 months. I think it is very a-typical to concieve the first month you're trying. That only seems to happen to teenagers. ;-)

What did help was the Clearblue ovulation tests. We've only tried those for the past 2 months and like I said - it worked.

Good luck. Relax and enjoy the trying. Also, eat healthy, but enjoy the lovely things you'll miss when you're pregnant. For me it's margaritas and peanut butter...not together. Though I did have some odd cravings with my first.

D..x

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K.H.

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It took me 1 month to get pregnant by taking femaprin pills which is used for women with irregular menstrual cycles or menopausing women. I bought the pills at my closest gnc nutrition store. Im 37 years old and oh i must not forget to tell you i put a pillow underneath my hips for 20 minutes following sex. much luck to you nboth

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B.D.

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It took me 14 months after I got off the pill to conceive.

I actively tried for last 6 months of that, and I ended up conceiving the month that I had given up. :-)

I guess between my uterus healing from the hormone effects of the pill and the stress I was putting on myself, it just wouldn't happen.

Give it some more time, and when you feel its been too long, go see your doctor. It might be something physical from either of you.

But to answer your question directly, 4-8 months is typical. :-)

Good luck, and please let us know when you do get pregnant... we'd love to share in your happiness!!!

~B

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T.F.

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it took us 4 months of trying before we became pregnant with our second. i too was really disappointed since i thought it would be so easy since the first was. once you relax and realize that it might take a few months it will probably just happen.
good luck,
T.

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J.C.

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This is totally normal, even if it is super annoying. It took my husband and I more than 3 years of trying and finally doing IUI w/ my first child. There wasn't any medical reason they could find why I wasn't getting pregnant but we had the coverage (totally unheard of in most places, we were on the East Coast), so we did 3 rounds of IUI and got pregnant w/ triplets on the third round. LONG story short, I have a beautiful son from that pregnancy. Now, I'm prego w/ #2. This time it only took 5 months of doing the ovulation kits and having fun w/ my hubby. Someone mentioned earlier to test twice a day, and I agree. That seemed to be our biggest problem w/ the first. I was only testing in the morning and my surge was happening at night so I was missing it every time. Thanks to my awesome doctor now, I now know this. So, that's my story and a little bit of advice. Good luck, have fun and don't stress, it WILL happen.

take care,
J. C

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K.J.

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RElax and the time will come.. and before you know it you'll have 4 like me.

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K.L.

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Stay positive K.. It took me 6 months with both my pregnancies. I would recommend using ovulation kits to confirm your ovulation day and then start trying 4-5 days before you ovulate. Good Luck and remember to Have fun trying! :-)

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S.M.

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It took me a year to get pregnant I had to go to a Fertility specialist you may need to ask your Dr if you should go to one. I ended up going to a fertility specialist in Daly City and accupunture in San Francisco she also gave me herbs to take pre-pregnancy and a few sessions as I was pregnant.

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T.W.

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I was starting to stress about not being pregnant until my third weekly pregnancy test came back positive. I've always been irregular when I'm off the pill and after a rocky first six weeks of trying (three weeks really, we both had to travel separately half that time) it apparently took a few drinks and day of driving my Charger around a race track for me to get pregnant. Bottomline, like everyone says, you gotta relax. Your body doesn't perform as well as it should when you're under stress and most folks take as much as a year to get preggers. Best of luck and remember to have fun "practicing". :)

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J.S.

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Yes it can take a while to get pregnant. I can give you some tips nutritionally to help stack the odds in your favor. Feel free to email me if you're interested.

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L.M.

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Hi, I am a Nutritional Consultant that works with Toxic Body
Burden. I would encourage you to watch a 10 minute documentary.

www.sharethecause.com/live

This documenary is an incredible source of information provided by a BioChemist and a triple board certified M.D.

Heavy metals are causing challenges with our estrogen systems.

There is a comnment section at the end of this documentary
that will allow anyone to ask questions and seek solutions.
I would be happy to answer any questions and assist in any way I can.

Also, the Environmental Working Group.. www.ewg.org
did an umbilical cord study in 2004 on the toxicity of our unborn children. I encourage everyone to take a look at this study. There is no question we are all toxic and our body burden is over taxing our immune system.

I am available.. L. M. ###-###-####

cadmium

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G.M.

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hi K.,

i know a great acupuncturist who specializes in infertility. she has an office in mt. view and i think redwood city. let me know if you want her contact info. she has helped so many couples!!

best of luck to you,

G. RN