Need Legal Advice Regarding Separation

Hi C.,

I'll keep you and your kids in my prayers! This yo-yo life is h*** o* everyone involved. Before I started my home biz iwth Arbonne, I worked 15 yrs in the legal field, primarily in domestic law. There are lots of options out there. You can contact Legal Aide and seek an attorney based on a sliding scale. Depending on your financial situation, i.e., if he makes good money and you don't, ect. you can always ask the court for him to pay your attorney fees. Doesn't guarantee that will be granted, but in come cases it has and you can talk to an attorney about that. You might look at the option of filing for divorce on the grounds of common law marriage since you have so much property at stake. If there is a child(ren) involved, he would have to pay child support through the court system and they are really cracking down on those who don't pay. SRS may be able to guide you towards some additional agencies that are out there to help without actually being on SRS. However, when I went through this several years ago I did end up getting food stamps at least for a while until I could get back on my feet. I helped my sister obtain a list of agencies that could offer her help as she is getting out of a bad relationship as well and I'll see if I can get that from her and get that to you. There is another agency and I'll get the exact info for you that you can seek help with...I believe it's O.A.R. and you can get info on that through SRS as well. Doesn't mean you have to be on SRS, just an avenue to get to them. Hope things work out for you and keep me posted. Here's a big (((((HUG))))) for you and your kiddos. V.

Let me just say that here in Kansas it seems that whoever files first "wins" so to speak. You can file with a lawyer (look in newspaper) who does uncontested only divorces and those are the cheapest, some are under $500. Although it may end up contested you will at least have filed first and get everything you ask for until a hearing which is usually 4-5 weeks away, that includes house, cars, kids, etc. Then if he contests it you can then look for a different attorney to represent you and make him pay for it since he is the unhappy one!

C., Good morning. I live in Benton, east of Wichita.
What I did for our son was call "211" the national help line. They put us in touch with Legal aide and housing options. They can help or give numbers to call for anything you may need. His attorney did cost a little over 600.00 dollars because his wife had called legal aid first. So he wasn't able to use them. Long story short they worked it out on their last court date and are doing much better. It's been almost a yr now, they just had their 9 anniversary.

Legal aid is the way to get help and the 211 number is one way to start. Your kids and yourself need stability in your lives, the leaving and coming back isn't good for anyone.

Will pray you find the best option there is for you and all concerned.
K.
PS look in phone bk and just call several and see what they charge. There is no harm in asking for advice and expenses expected.