Mood Swings After Miscarriages

This is normal. Not only are your hormones all messed up but you're grieving the loss of your baby. I suggest you tell your doctor that the Zoloft is not longer working. The doctor can increase your dose and have you try a different medication. It is common for the first one to not work. It's a matter of trying different doses or different medications until you find one that works the best.

I also suggest you find a support group for women who've lost a baby by miscarriage. You may be able to find one by calling your local hospital. You need to talk about your loss and your feelings surrounding the loss. You need emotional support from other women.

I'm so sorry for your loss. For me, after I had my son, i went into postpartum depression but didn't realize it. It was the lack of progesterone that really hit me - and for all women, the progesterone is high when you're pregnant, then drops when it's over, and that's what makes me and many other women, probably you too, depressed and sad.) Long story short, I went on Depo Provera (which is a progesterone based birth control) and it made a huge difference for me, emotionally - I felt normal! I don't know if you are considering getting pregnant, but the depo shot lasts for 3 months and it could be a good thing - make you feel normal and help you grieve instead of over-grieving, and then you can reconsider (if you were considering). (Note though, it doesn't work for everyone; maybe you can try a progesterone-based pill to see how you react to that, and if that works, try the shot, maybe just for one 3-month period and see where you are after that.) God bless you and I hope you are feeling better soon!

I am so sorry for the loss of this little one that you never thought you would be able to have!! Please allow yourself time to grieve and process this loss!! Do you have a church family that could come together to be supportive of you and your husband as you go through this difficult time?
I agree with Marda that you need to find a support group of some type, your OB/GYN would surely know of an organization there in your area where you could get in touch with other parents who have experienced the same things that you are living through right now.
I will pray that you and your husband find peace and comfort soon
R. Ann

I keep you in my prayers. We have faced m/c's in the last 2 years. It is hard I am not going to say it is easy. But you can over come. Hang in there.

From a physiological standpoint, there is a lot of hormonal fluxuation with pregancy and miscarraige. It takes time for your body to find equalibrium. I am a little suprised your doctor put you on zoloft so soon. Talk to your doctor about going off the medication; sometimes zoloft can actually make things worse.

From an emotional standpoint; you have been through quite a shock. Learning that you are pregnant is suprising enough. Your experience was truely traumatic, and I am sorry this has been your experience. It is not surpising that you would have a myriad of emotions from this experience. Don't be affraid to experience those emotions. You might consider a counselor who can help give you the tools to sort through these emotions and your experiences.

As time goes on, it will get easier. Oh, and about the food. After having my son, my food tastes changed. Foods or flavours I used to like were not so thrilling and foods I hadn't ever cared for I suddenly loved and still do years later. I was pretty weirded out by it for a couple of years. Now I just shrug it off. ;)

I hope you realize that what you are experiencing, the anger, the saddness, the frustration, the confusion; these strong emotions are completely understandable for what you have experienced. Please be patient with yourself. Allow yourself the time and space you need to process through all of this. It will get easier.

Dear J.,
I feel for you. I have had 4 miscarriages and each one was hard. It takes awhile to get back to your normal self. The hormonal swings and depression are very normal. You need a support group. There are some online that are quite good. People can often be insensitive if they have not gone through a mc. It is hard for other people to understand that you are suffering a loss. I had a hard time with my husband too, but a good therapist reminded me that he was suffering too.
Since you were told you could not get pregnant you should talk to your obgyn about your options. There are so many specialists and new tests that could give you important information about getting pregnant again. Having been in your position, I know how much it hurts to want baby.
Take one day at a time. Things do get better. Find people you trust to talk too. Take care.

I'm not a medical practitioner, but I do know there is a lot that goes on hormonally when there is a pregnancy - and then a miscarriage. I suppose too it's different for each of us as our bodies respond differently. It begins to be a looping cycle that keeps feeding on itself and the frustration just feeds into that. You'll come back into a more natural rhythm, but do take care of yourself and let others lend support. Good luck J..

Hi J.,

I am so very sorry for your loss. ((gigantic hugs))). I have been through a miscarriage as well. I think you need to give yourself some time to grieve. It seems like you need that for yourself. Your hormones are all out of whack do to the pregnancy and loss. I do agree with the previous poster, that you should talk to your doctor about coming off of the medication. I would also suggest you talk to someone (therapist, good friend, pastor/priest) who won't judge you but will just listen. I'm so sorry you are going through this.
Prayers for you and your sweet baby,
L.