Lacking Intimacy

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I thought I had lost my desire too. I have 5 children, my newest being 7 month old twin boys. I finally had my 1st period since their birth July 1st. I don't know if that helped or if it was because I finally lost all my weight and I feel better about myself. I really think that feeling sexy yourself has alot to do with it. I realized that it come back after my husband had told me how proud he was of me losing my weight so good. Feeling like he thought I was sexy made me feel alot better, and it came back suddenly.

I competly understand your problem. I'm 23 and have the same situation. I'm ging to the doctor to get tested for my hormone levels. I also might be going through premenopose. You might want to talk to your doctor. My fiance thinks it's him! I keep saying no. Then he thinks I'm cheating on him. Which I'm not. We have tried everything too. I don't even get that tinglying feeling anymore.

honey, you sound sooo busy! no wonder it's the last thing on your mind! how much school do you have left? have you tried visual stimulation(videos)? i know what your thinking but you'd be surprised the effect it has on females too! you should consider maybe too that right now you have larger priorities and your not leaving much room to put your focus on intimacy. i will say that the more you do it the more you want to. get out of the norm. all of us have a routine especially with a long term partner and that gets boring. make yourself do it somewhere you never would, at a time that's most inconvenient, or a different way you may not have considered before ( videos help here) if you don't want to with him- watch alone he'll only reap the benefits from it! i know this sounds crazy but it works! exercise does increase libido and that helped me too. drugs not so much don't waste your money. you will have to set aside a time though and make it happen even if your not in the mood or your desire WILL eventually disappear! mine did it's kinda like dieting huh? know you need to know you'll feel better but it's just one more thing! you sound ready though so keep us all posted you've touched an issue close to all of our bedrooms!!!!!!

SHHuuhhhh ,, I thought i was the only one!!!!
I have the same problem and i dont know why , I have gotten my hormones checked and they are fine,, And they even thought i might be depressed , even though i knew i wasnt i still tryed the meds but they didnt help and i quit taking them. I dont understand they have stuff to help men when they have there problems but not women ( what a rip off). But i still have these problems and the only thing that helped a little was excersise, i woulld get a bost of energy and i dont know a big head i guess from working out ,, but it didnt last long. but if you do come across something that works for you, please inform us or at lest me i really would like to know...sorry i couldnt help

OH MY GOSH! NO I am so going through this with my husband and my son is 17 months old. I am only 26 years old and before the baby I was the one who was wanting it all the time. I really am still going through it so I don't have any advice but I wanted you to know there are others out here that is going through the same thing. Maybe talk to your doctor. I am going to at my son 2 year mark i something doesn't change, but please if you find any thing that works or any really good advice that you don't mind passing along I so would love that, Thanks and Good Luck
T. D

It's perfectly normal to have little or no sexual desire after having a baby or while nursing. Your hormones are just all over the place. Sleep deprivation also plays a major role. However, I am 32 with a 19 month old and my sexual desire still has yet to return. I haven't nursed since he was a year old. I am currently exercising and trying to eat better hoping that will help. Other than that, I'm truly at a loss as well. I've been given all kinds of advice from trying to be spontaneous by surprising my husband in some way to buying sexy lingerie or toys. I just can't get past thinking it's another chore - something else I have to do. My poor husband has just quit asking. I chose exercise and diet thinking if I feel better about myself then I'll feel more sexy which would put me in the mood. That's what I'm praying for at least. Anyhow, I haven't found a solution yet but wanted you to know you're not alone and that it's perfectly normal. Several moms have this problem. Good luck and Congratulations on the wedding! Best Wishes!!

You are too concerned about others than yourself. Take a deep breath and think about what makes you happy! Get a babysitter and experiment with dinner, or a movie and things you think are naughty. Get back in the world of intimacy and think about the pleasures of making the one you love happy. You've already given them a child now think about the activities that make you and your lover one!

the same thing has happened after the birth of all 3 of my boys and its where your body has changed and well now your a mother and it takes a lot out of you plus your usually being touched by the baby all day and well even though your son is 2 you could still be tired what always work for us was just getting away from the kids and flirting with each other and acting silly and well one thing would always lead to another lol

I had the same problem. I have a two year old daughter and just didn't feel the need to be intimate with my husband. I did alot of research for something to help. I tried the product at GNC called Steel Libido it did not help plus its kinda expensive. I found a product sold on CVS called Lioness Women Sexual Libido Booster and it seems to work. It has several herbs in it that are known to help with enhancing the libido. They have a web site

www.libidoboosterstore.com or on www.cvs.com

Hope it helps