Help - Fort Worth,TX

There is also the option of starting a home based business you can start right away. I am involved with a couple of different ones and can give you the information if you are interested. There are a lot of different and legitimate ones out there.

great advice to try and save your marriage. that's all great and wonderful. My motto - Hope for the best, plan for the worst. Right now you need to make steps for 'just in case.' Go online to texas department of human services and sign up for food stamps and medicaid. go to tarrant county website and sign up for HUD, Section 8, and whatever else they can offer, so you can get a place of your own. the waiting lists can be years long, so, get onthat list and saty onthat list. you never know where things will be with your husband the day you get that letter saying they have a place for you. Once you get all that taken care of, go see a counselor at Tarrant County College about taking some classes and getting financial aid. There is so much help out there for a single mom going to school. You don't ever want to find yourself in this position again.

You need an emergency order of child support (an emergency order is a temporary order that stands until a court date / mediation can determine 'final support'), possibly an emergency order or spousal support (depending on how long you've been married), if you own your home you need a few other emergency orders (to make sure the mortgage is paid) AND an emegency order of custody.

All of this breaks down to needing a Lawyer.

On the 7th of July you said you were looking for some free marriage counseling. Now, on the 11th, you are separated. You both need to give marriage and counseling a chance.

You have a lovely child. Almost all couples have a hard time when they first get married. The younger you and he are the more difficult the adjustment is. Babies are a lot of work. I think God gave mothers a huge capacity for love to overcome the huge amount of work that comes with a baby. Go to a church, and ask the pastor or preacher for some help for you and your husband. Its not easy being parents that are as young as you are, but its not only you you have to be concerned about. Its your beautiful baby and husband too.

You don't mention the issues you and your husband have that caused you to separate. If you had love, love means sacrifice for the one you love. It means putting their happiness before yours. It means caring for them before you care for yourself. It means a lot of things. Selfishness and self centerdness are not indicators of love, its immaturity, but not love.

Keep trying. Don't give up now. Good luck to you and yours.

Well you have support with a friend right now. That is good. A church is a great place to start......good advice on bethany's doing. It is a separation so try to keep the communication going and get a lawyer to work out a visitation situation for him and the child. Get some advice from other moms ( maybe here ) as to what rights you have on getting some child support to keep on your feet while you work things out. Is there Anger between the two of you ? Can you lean on him for some finacial support ? You are very lucky to have a good friend........ can you apply for state help ?

Call my church. Lifechurch.tv and ask to speak to one of the campus pastors.
The numbers are on the website at lifechurch.tv and select the Ft. Worth campus. They may be able to help you out or point you in the right direction.

Look into the paper or the states dept of workforce services (there may be some name variation) and look for a job. Try to stay calm and not worry about it (I know it's hard). Do you have any mechanics in the family or can you read instructions and put it in? If you get a starter and your car's manual (look in it first) it should tell you exactly how to take the other one out and put the new one in.
Keep your head up, time heals all. Keep yourself busy with your little one :)

I agree w/the moms who said to try harder to make it work. Did u call that counseling center I referred you too earlier in the week. So many people just give up on marriage when they hit a rocky patch. But I work in a Law office and our family law attorney's office is just feet from my desk. So needless to say I overhear a majority of conversations and let me tell you I wouldn't wish divorce on anyone especially w/kids. It can get sooo ugly in so many different ways, I often wonder if it was "that" bad when they were together. When child support, visitaton, in-laws, all comes into play it can really get ugly between the parents, and the ones that suffer thru it all the most are the children. I pray you and your husband find strength and courage to work at your marriage and may you succeed! Even if you have to go to counseling alone for a while it may help you work through some things and maybe he'll see your trying and that its working and may then give it a shot. That's how Church was for me. I had to go for a while by myself, and when he started to see what God was doing in my life, he started to join me. In the meantime, definately get a job. Having financial stability is sooo important and if your not dependant on that support entirely from someone else you will feel so much more in control and have better self-esteem. And you won't get further behind! Prayers for you and your family!

I've been there so this doesn't come from a place of judgement but a place of "been there". First, I say do whatever you can to salvage your marriage short of putting yourself or your child in danger. That way no matter what happens, you know you did everything you can. And who knows, it could pay off. I promise, leaving a marriage is just as hard as staying in a bad one. If you still can't make it work then GET A LAWYER. No matter how much think you can't afford one, no matter how fair things seem to be going - get one. You can't afford not to. Good luck, praying it all works out!!!

I am guessing that you will be the primary caregiver of your baby, which I would then think that you should be the one to stay in the home. I would try to work out some of the details with you husband. Hopefully the two of you can still communicate about the logistics. If you have been a SAHM, he should be paying for your needs along with the babies.