Do Girls Always Fight like This?

I am the oldest of 3 girls, and yes we fought alot. but there were times that we got along too. I think that you are doing great by putting them together in the same room, because that way they have to leanr to play (and live together). most kids don't do that anymore and I think that is the biggest problem. if everyone has their own things then they don't have to share or work together. maybe if you get some toys that they can only play with together that might help, especially if you can take them out seperately and discuss what kinds of toys they would like then you can get one that they both like, but that if they want to keep it they have to share it. anyway,I hope this helps.
and yes girls pms their whole lives.

My daughters (8 & 4) do fight over toys and boss each other around. I talked to them over and over and .... now I just take away whatever they are fighting over or make them put it away. When I hear "now look what you did" I make that person leave the play room. With little disagreements I let them work it out, but when I hear yelling/screaming or hitting I step in and take the item away. They are doing better.
I love the shared bedroom and seperate playroom that you did. I have a sister and we shared a bedroom. I think there are many valuable lessons to be learned my sharing a room. Our play room is my dining room :( I keep trying to convince my hubby to put our girls in the same room and make the other room the play room. He doesn't get it, thinks they should have their own room. Maybe it's a girl thing.

Hi L.,
Well, I am in the same situation but with two boys and they have a baby sister. My two boys are 4 and almost 2. They fight constantly. I feel like a referee and I don't know if it's the same with girls but boy's get rough. They have to have the same of everything. I think it's cute that my younger son wants to be just like his older brother and they do play good together sometimes. But they fight over everything. Whatever one is doing the other needs to do it too. They even fight over their baby sister's attention. It's hard... and I think it's a sibling thing that everyone goes through. I have started sitting my 2 year old son in the room (the boy's share a room also and we have a seperate toy room) when I sit him alone it has really helped to calm him down and divert his attention, he had started throwing things. He even got my older boy in the head with a hot wheel. I think there is always going to be sibling rivalry, but they will also always have a special bond in life because of the fighting. Well, this wasnt really advise, I just wanted to let you know that your not alone!

And give them some time, they will start to play in the playroom together. I agree with you, it's wonderful! You need a room to just throw toys in sometimes or they consume your whole house.

I also have 2 girls, ages 2 and 4. They are 17 months apart and sometimes play very nice together but other time they fight for the same toys or over who's going to watch what movie, etc.. We use counting to 10 when taking turns. It seems to work most of the time, even when my kids have their friends over, they know they have to share there toys. Good luck. I think part of it is just the age they are at and part of development, learning to share and take turns. We also just recently put our girls in the same room and they love sharing a room for the most part.

L.,

Hello i totally understand what your going though.I have two beautiful girls,ages 6yrs old and 13yrs old. And they totally fight like cats and dogs all the time. But dont get me wrong either they totally love each other very much. It's just something that happens all the time. I think it's just something that makes them closer over the years as they get older. I know that because i have 6 sisters and we fought all the time growing up.That really just made us closer now. And we have so many memories about those times growning up.And laugh our butts of about them.It's just what sisters do. If it gets to out of hand just seperate them into different rooms that what i do.It's like a litte time out away from each other.But they cant stand it much apart they together. enjoy them.

JMO but I would stop letting your older child be a "miss bossy". Explain to her that you and daddy are the parents and that she doesn't need to be involved in telling little sister what to do. She needs to be comfortable in a role as a sister and a friend and her trying to be a little mommy could complicate that role and create tension. Its find to enlist her help with tasks such as getting a diaper out for changes, helping little sister learn to pick up toys etc, but I wouldn't let her tell sister what to do and what not to do. Little kids at your youngest daughter's age are in the "mine" stage anyways so it isn't uncommon that they are arguing over toys and movies. To keep the peace you might assign certain rules that they have to go by. For instance, on Monday, Wed and Friday Lana gets to pick what movies that we watch and on Tues, Thur and Sat Lyla can decide. Use this rule for anything that comes up that they can't agree on. That way you don't have to pick sides and since it's already decided and there will be no room for an argument. Having them share a room is not a bad thing. It will teach them how to respect each other and get along in the long run. This is a tough age for any two siblings but be consistent with them and keep trying, this too will pass!

Hi L.,
I also have two girls two years apart and a little boy as well. Non-sharing is not negotiable. My theory is that if your a part of a family then "sharing" is something you just live with. In my house if they don't share, that item is taken away. Try it next time to see if it works. I don't have a sharing issue here because they know I will even go to the extent of throwing it away. We will not let material things come before feelings and love. If is something drastic as putting the whole toy room into boxes then storing into the garage until they can share, I think I would do it. They would get the point then. Hope that helps.

well i am 23, my sister is 22, we didnt stop fighting until this year. with my two, they fight, but since my son is the oldest, i have tried to teach him first and foremost that it is his job to protect his sister. i dont usually mind a little sibling rivalry, my mom didnt usually step in unless there was blood involved, as long as they are laughing again within a few minutes i wouldnt worry... try to take into consideration how your oldest reacted when the new baby came, and the behaviors that changed, then consider what changed when the little one started playing with big sisters toys, having to change things in their routine is always a difficult adjustment. how do they react at bedtime? do they talk before they fall asleep... if they talk themselves to sleep now that they are in the same room, thats a good thing, quite annoying but perfectly ok... its bonding... i would for during the day to try to show your older one that her little sister wants to be just like her and its her responsibilty as the older sister to set a better example... and to back it up, try giving her big girl responsibilities that the little sister isnt allowed to do yet, like fold towels and stay up 15 minutes later... those are the things that i have been successful with, and i learned them from other moms.