Crying Spinoff: Husbands Crying

We've been together about 7.5 years and I've seen him cry two times. When the White Sox won the World Series (yes I know, but he is sports obsessed) he had tears in his eyes. When his best friend died of a heart attack at age 34 he sobbed. It was the most heart wrenching thing I've ever witnessed. All I could do was hug him until he got it out. Other then that he's pretty stoic. I'm the crier.

My hubby cries all the time. He cries when he listens to certain music, or when he is drunk and thinks about his children.

When I first met him, he cried to a Tori Amos song.

He is also über cold rational, however, so while he can be moved, most things don't move him.

He cried yesterday. When he went around the dinner table and told each of us how much we meant to him and how much he loved us. We have been together just over 5 years and I have seen him cry maybe 3-4 times. Mostly when he talks about us and how he wants to be a good father/husband. Oh, and he does get "choked up" at emotional movies, if that counts. lol

- Our wedding
- His father's death
- Our nephew's death
- My grandmother's death
- Each of our children were born
- Whenever our children celebrate a birthday or milestone
- When his uncle told him he was proud of him (cheesy sounding, but his own parents are pretty rough on him and he is very close to his uncle. The comment was completely out of "nowhere" and much appreciated)
- My sister's wedding (they are really close)

Like I said, the older he gets... the more he cries!

ADDED: Any time we watch the movie "UP"

I have only seen my husband cry a handful of times. The most recent being when our cat of 14 years had to be put to sleep. I'm not sure if he was crying because I was a pitiful mess or what. But he rubbed our kitty's head that one last time with tears in his eyes. Which just made me cry harder. lol

My husband cries. He cries with me during really sad movies (anyone seen the movie "Impossible?"). He cries at church when the holy spirit is moving. He cried at our wedding.

He doesn't sob like a little kid. It's a very dignified tearing up. I love that side of him as much as I love the uber masculine side.

The first time I saw my husband cry when when we first started dating. And it was over a situation similar to yours. His much older sister was here visiting and came down on him for not doing more to help their aunt (who he had lived with after his mom died and his dad left). She made him feel really bad about himself and he cried. I wanted to punch her. She must have forgotten what it was like to be 18 and a busy college student. Plus he worked two jobs.

Since then, I've seen him cry at things you'd normally expect people to cry over: The births of our three children, the miscarriage of our fourth pregnancy in November, funerals.

He is also sentimental and has gotten misty when thinking back on our kids as babies and toddlers. Or when reminiscing about his parents who are now both deceased. Or even at sad movies. Two I can think of are 'Life Is Beautiful' and 'Up'.

I have been with my husband for 18+ years and have never seen him actually cry.

He has gotten misty eyed a few times:
our wedding
his dad's best friends funeral (he was like a g-pa)
when his children were born
during the movie Courageous

He sort of cried twice. When he saw me walk down the aisle at our wedding, he teared up. He had some tears when he got laid off RIGHT after I got laid off. I call those fear tears!! Other then that, nope. He's not really a crier and neither am I. He is very feeling and emotional, as most artists are. He just doesn't express that by crying. I would NOT do well with a crier, because I am not one. I kind of act like most men when I'm around crying. I feel useless and awkward...and am slightly annoyed. (Awful, I know. I wish I wasn't like that.)

We have been married 17 years and together 26 years and in that time I don't think I have ever seen him cry.

I have been with my husband for 13 years and have only seen him cry twice. One was his great grandfathers funeral (2001), he was really close to him, and his stepfathers funeral last week.

He has never been one to show emotions although I have learned what to watch out for when he does get emotional. If you catch him soon enough his eyes will water up and thats it.

In the almost 20 years I've known my husband - I have seen him cry 5 times.

1. The loss of our first miscarriage in 2001.
2. The loss of our Alexis in 2004.
3. The loss of his mother in 2006.
4. The healing conversation he had with one of his sisters in 2008.
5. The loss of his father in 2013.

It's about the same with my father....I've seen my father cry twice. When my brother and his wife were hours late (and we couldn't wait anymore - wwwaaay before cell phones) for a Thanksgiving dinner. And when we lost our baby in 2004...

I've heard him cry when his dad died and when his "mom" (his step mother who raised him) died.

My father allowed me to hug him and console him - and when we cried over the loss of my baby - we consoled each other. My husband asked to be left alone. got to respect those wishes. He knew I was there for him.

I have seen my husband cry a handful of times.
Death is usally what gets him. Also we have a friend who's son is going through Leukemia for the third time, that was tears.
But, truly....it freaks me out when people cry. I am like a deer in headlights and I don't really know what to do. I am not much of a hugger and I don't know what to say when someone is crying. It's horrible.
But, when his family has died and he has been crying I have just hugged on him and made him something to eat.
L.

My husband cries at "major" life events. Deaths, etc. He teared up at our wedding but didn't "all out cry". He makes fun of me because Pampers commercials make me tear up. What can I say, I love babies.

hubby and I have been married 11 years, i have seen him cry only a handful of times.
the birth of our two children, when his aunt died, after he was injured at work and had been home for three months recovering he finally broke down and when he was explaining to his children why the newtown shootings happened. My hubby is very unemotional but I love that he works hard to show emotions around his children.
what a great question
many blessings

Maybe twice?? Like really just a tearing up actually, don't know if I have seen tears actually fall..... Once was when we were watching this really touching movies about a teacher helping some disadvantaged kids and once during some really nice music about God. Other than that I really can't think of a time, he just isn't a cryer.

Three times in 17 years. Birth of your youngest after problems and a scary c-section, when his mom was ill in the hospital, and when we were having some marital issues.

Married 17 years; my husband cried when his dad died. We also got into a raging fight once and we both cried. Don't remember what it was about, though. But I *really* hurt his feelings.

ETA: Oh, that's right. He cried when our first fur baby had to be put down. He was the one who held her while they gave her the injection.

Never (married 15 years).
My dad, however, crys at the drop of a hat for sentimental reasons - sappy commercials and movies, every wedding he attends (not just the weddings of his own kids), funerals of course, birth of babies. BUT - he's a life-long fireman and was a paramedic, and can maintain his cool through any kind of crisis. It's only the sentimental stuff that does it.

Funny how different people (men and women) are so different from each other in this way.

I have been with my husband 13 years (dating, then engaged, then married for the past 9), and I have never seen him cry. Not once.

His ex said the same thing. Except for when their first son was born, she saw 1 tear fall out, and that has been it. When our daughter was born, it was an emergency c-section that I had to be put under anesthesia for and he was out of the room, so I couldn't say what his reaction was when she was born and everything turned out okay.

In general, he can be emotional, but when he is stressed, worried, frustrated, upset, whatever, it tends to come out more as anger, and often a tendency to lash out or find fault with someone else for whatever is causing him to feel the way he feels. I think as a child he was just expected to have to squash his emotions too much, had too many let-downs and disappointments, and now has a tendency to feel more defensive and closed off rather than allow himself to feel more vulnerable and open.

Not often.
He teared up when he saw me walk down the aisle at our wedding.
He cried when our son made his entrance into the world.
He cried when we had miscarriages.
He cried when my stepfather died.

Can't think of many other times. He's a warm, caring man, but not a crier by nature.

I think the only time I have seen him cry was once when we had been arguing (one of our biggest worst ones--of which there are very few) and I was crying, and he started crying with me.
Other than that, I can't really think of any.

I have been with my husband for 16+ years and I have not yet seen him cry.

He still has both his parents...I lost my Father almost 10 years ago and I know for a fact, that when he looses his parents, he is gonna lose it too!

Wow, so many touching stories/memories. Hugs to everyone.

Twice in 24 years. Once when we broke up the first and only time, and the second when his mom died. He only lost it for a minute then gathered himself. He was taught by his dad at young age that boys don't cry. Not sure if that had any influence, but he's not terribly emotional by nature anyway.

My husband and I have been together 15 years. The times I've seen him cry in order are: When his Dad died, when our son was born, when my daughter had a heart attack and nearly died, when she got her transplant, when his Mom died and then when my Dad died.

25 yrs, I've seen him cry twice, at the birth of both boys. Never at a death.