Bi-Racial Hair Tips

I have a friend who is white and adopted an african american baby. This was about 25 years ago, so when it wasn't quite AS common. Anyway - she was even worse than you - she had NO clue at all. It appears that you at least have a little knowledge. So, she made an appointment at a black beauty shop and said to the girls "ok - teach me" and they were so impressed that she wanted to know, they spent several hours instructing her on how often she should wash it (or NOT wash it, as it seems to white people) they taught her the should and should nots of black hair, showed her how to do simple braids, etc. I've always admired that she put herself out to do the best thing for her daughter.

Anyway - I'm no help to you, I know. I do know someone else in Grand Prairie that is white, married to an african american, and has a little girl. If you'd like to contact her, PM me, and I'll ask her if she is willing to help you.

I have several friends w/ bi-racial kids (Hispanic/AA; German/AA; Caucasian/AA). Several use Kera Care hair products. Also, you cannot wash her hair as you would yours. You should wash hers maybe every 3 days to only once a week. You have to condition, preferably leave in conditioner. Also, you can do great hair styles for her at home w/ a flat iron with temp. control 'cause you don't want it too hot. Since her hair texture is course/thick, you should stick to using ethnic products. Also, a new site I read about in Essence mag. is Mixed Chicks they make products hair products for people who are bi-racial. Good Luck.

If you use rubberbands, use the ones that are wrapped in cloth as the rubber ones will cut the hair. Have you tried olive oil? I know it may sound weird but it has a weight that just might keep the frizz out as some of the products you have used are for adults' hair. You say her hair looks great for a day with the heavy leave in but you would have to wash it every day to keep it that way. You may have to use a pomade hair dressing not the wax stuff on her hair. I am trying to think of some other products to use as my grandson is mixed and when he was a baby I couldn't even braid his hair as it crept aloose and would not stay.

When you go to the salon ask them what they use and how they may help you get it under control. It can't hurt. Besides they may become your friends (such a trim and things).

Good luck to you.

The other S.

Have you tried Indian Hemp (it is a herb hair dressing that works well.) You should be able to find it in the beauty supply store. Apply to shaft/root of hair and comb thru. See if that helps.

First of all, stop using shampoo on her hair. It is very drying for curls. You should co-wash her hair about every 3 days. What this means is you get a conditioner that does not contain sulfates and you wet the hair, apply the conditioner (normally a LOT), let it stay in the hair for 10 minutes while you bathe her, then rinse at the end of the bath. I use Organix on my daughter and WEN on my hair. After I get her out of the bath, I put Organix Coconut Oil (about a nickel size amount) working from end to root then comb with a WIDE tooth comb from root to end and let dry naturally. Since she has thicker hair, you can section it and train the curl. To do this, separate sections out with a comb, comb from root to end, then twist from root to end toward the back of the head.

I never use heat or drying products on my daughter's curls.

To refresh the next day, I just spritz it with water and comb through.

I have a son, not a daughter but here's what works best for us. I NEVER shampoo (well except for when he rubs PEANUT BUTTER or something in his hair!) I just rinse with warm water and the use Herbal Essences Hello Hydration (and let it sit while we do the rest of the bath!) then I rinse it out and use the Garnier Fructis Leave In conditioner....