Help with My Little Ones Hair

Updated on January 28, 2008
S.W. asks from Galena, OH
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Hello everyone!
I have 4 little girls that are biracial...I am white and I know how to take care of my hair however, I have noticed that all of my research and trial and error is no longer working. I know that I am to stay away from mineral oil but I can not find any products that condition the girls hair, it always seems so dry. It is not to the point of breaking by any means but I want to take care of it the best I can. I have been told to put a relaxer on their hair but I do not want to put any chemicals on their hair since they are so young. I love the curls but I need something that will help manage the everyday care of their hair. Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

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Thank you Thank you Thank you to everyone with all of your suggestions...I am not sure which suggestion will work best for my girls but at this point I am willing to try them all for a period of time. Thanks everyone for your advice it was great!!!

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T.P.

answers from Cleveland on

S.,

My girls have the same kind of hair. I use a product that is sold at both CVS and Giant Eagle. It is by Bronner Brothers and is a basic hair lotion. I also use a hair detangler by johnson and johnson. COnditioning is important. Motions makes a great leave in that I have used on my girls forever. If you live near Severance or SOuthgate shopping centers, I suggest you go to Star Beauty Supply and seek out a stylist by the name of Kim Thomas. She manages the salons in Star Beauty Supply and was a representative for Paul Mitchell prior to this. She can give you some other suggestions because she is great with products. The main thing is to remember, this is a very manageable hair type with the right products. You will be so happy to have dicovered this sooner rather than later!

T.

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M.C.

answers from Cincinnati on

I would not put a relaxer on their hair. It has to be kept up too often and is harsh on their hair.. I have found a great web site called naturallycurly.com it is great!! I have learned never to use a brush only a large wide tooth comb. You can also buy hair products to fit each persons type of natural curly hair and texture(under hair types). I was also advised to only wash my daughters hair once a week and everyother wash only using condish. I hope this helps you it really has helped me and I could see a difference in the first two changes we made... Good luck..

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D.C.

answers from Columbus on

Hi Sara,
My name is D.. I am a mom of three biracial children and I am African American. I would be glad to help you out. Each of my children have different textured hair. I do have a four yr. old with curls and you have to use a leave in conditioner daily. It comes in a spray bottle. Loreals brand is good and so is Johnson & Johnson's. Loreals is a green bottle and Johnsons is in a pinkish red bottle with an upside down little girl on the front. To add more moisture you should use a cholesterol treatment every other week or so. Look in the black hair care section at walmart or Sally's beauty supply. It is a jar of orange or peach goop. It is called cholesterol. Wash their hair, rinse and towel dry, Put the cholesterol in and let it sit 10 miutes or so, rinse and towel dry. Don't be afraid to use Johnson & Johnsons 24 hour moisturizing body lotion in their hair too. I've used it for years. AND make sure you use a seperate moisturizing shampoo and consitioner, Last, Do not wash their hair more than onc a week if you can help it!!!
Cheers and good luck!

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M.B.

answers from Cincinnati on

Go to an ethnic hair supply store and ask them. I am caucasian but I have super curly hair that is resistent to most products. I was referred to a line of products called doo-gro. I LOVE THEM. I can only use the tiniest little bit, but they have done wonders for my hair.

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B.R.

answers from Columbus on

S.,

Try the Paul Mitchell Anti-Frizz products, especially the Anti-Frizz serum. Use after towel drying shampooed hair. It makes it soft and smooth and easy to get a brush through. There are other products to put on dry hair between shampoos. The Pantene shampoo and conditioner for smoothing hair is good, but you still need Anti-Frizz serum afterward.

A.D.

answers from Columbus on

Hi, I'm black and have 2 kids that are biracial. And althought I'm black i did have trouble with my daugther's hair. I myself have relaxed hair and don't want to have hers relaxed until she 's old enough and make that decision herself. And i wanted to have her beautiful curls free to be all day long but couldn't because her hair get tangled up very fast and then it's a mess. A mess to comb through and take care of. I tried moisturizers, moisturizing shampoo, conditioners,...you name it until one day i tried braiding her hair, nothing fancing just 2 braids. ..And I realized it was easier to comb thru during bathtime no tears, less time to spend combing hair thru in the bath and also softer hair..So to make a long story short..now we braid her hair. we went to target and bougth colorful elastic bands and hair clips she chose herself and now she loves her braids ... Once in a while i will leave it free after bath and she herself would say " Mom, I like to have braids with this and this .." showing me the kind of hair clips or elastics bands she wants me to use....It's been working for us and i heard from hairdresser that you can use later those ceramic hair straightener to make the hair temporarily straight without chemical. Because the thing with relaxer is it's a commitment. It's pretty much permanent and you have to keep it up every 2 months and that's too much for little girls.

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K.B.

answers from Cleveland on

Hello,
4 little girls what a blessing! I am african american and so is my daughter. I suggest washing your childrens hair about once a week. I use cholesterol conditioner on my childs hair, I leave it in for about 10 minutes then rinse. Ive also used mane and tail shampoo and conditioner which works well (you can find all these products at almost any store in the black hair care isle). You should also try braiding their hair and see how they like it, I braid my daughters hair and take it out once a week to wash then redo it and then you don't have to worry about dealing with a lot of hair everyday!! Also please dont use a relaxer, it you want to straighten their hair use a flat iron or you can try a straightening comb to press their hair straight (but if you do press their hair you have to make sure it has oil in it and make sure the comb is not to hot). As far as oil, i can suggest using isoplus olive oil and lanolin (greenish color) It is not to heavy and is a good moisturizer. Make sure you oil their scalp to keep it moisturized. Good luck

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C.D.

answers from Cincinnati on

I have worked with all kinds of hair and I went to school
for hair design. And you do have to put some hair gel in their hair or it will fall out.You can buy it at the dollar
store and also remember to use conditioner after you wash
their hair and their hair does not get washed like ours
you should only have to wash their once a week,wash it and
blow dry it.It is important you blow dry it can get moldy
and start smelly and them fix it in braids or how you want
it fixed.No rubberbands use only hair assec. Hope this helps.

C.

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A.B.

answers from Louisville on

Hi S., my dauughter is 7 and biracial, and I am white. I understand your frustration, it took me years to figure her hair out! Here's what works best for me:

1. Don't wash her hair any more than once a week. Sometimes I'll go two weeks. This grossed me out at first but their hair is just way too dry to handle daily shampooing.
2. You can never condition too much. Condition daily, and let the conditioner stay in in the hair for about 5 minutes before rinsing it out. When there are a lot of tangles, I'll let the conditioner sit and then I'll comb them out before rinsing it.
3. Don't brush, use a wide tooth comb or a pick. To style, when it's wet use leave in conditioner or detangler and the comb to get tangles out and then let it airdry for really pretty curls.

There are lots of expensive products out there for biracial hair but I've found that you don't have to spend a lot of money to manage their hair. Good luck!!

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T.B.

answers from Cincinnati on

I have a biracial daughter too and I have searched and searched. I found a few products that seem to work well. I use Olive Oil grease for her scalp only (grease is too heavy for her hair). I use Sunsilk for dry hair (the pink bottle) leave in lotion. I only wash her hair once or twice a week and always use a good conditioner. When I need to comb it out I use the Thermasilk or Sunsilk leave in conditioner spray. It really makes it easy to comb out without having to wet it down. I don't know if these will work for you, but I hope it was helpful.

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K.D.

answers from Cleveland on

I am not biracial but I have clients that are! Many of them like Arbonne's products. I have samples of our Shampoo and conditionar as well as the baby line for the younger ones. I wish I had a sample of the hair protector. I spray this in my daughters hair and mine.. both of us have very thick, dry curly hair. Arbonne is one of the only things that has ever worked for me.. I love that it is pure, safe and beneficial. After I read an article on cancer causing ingredients in baby and womens products (keep the article if anyone wants it) it listed some popular companies and I was SHOCKED!
Here is arbonne site as well as mine.. www.arbonne.com www.passion4more.myarbonne.com

I have used the products for 17 yrs and just love that they get better and better!! Here is my email.. [email protected]____.com
Let me know if your interested I would ove to help you out!!

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A.A.

answers from Lexington on

You've gotten a lot of advice! If you want to try something simple first, try coconut oil. I have super curly (and dry) red hair, and coconut oil works sooo well. You just melt it in your palm, then rub it in. It hydrates and smooths out the frizzies with out using any chemicals...it's even edible! We use coconut oil on dry skin too, and cracked nipples from breastfeeding.

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A.W.

answers from Columbus on

You might try olive oil (not a lot), to help with the dryness. Also there is a olive oil moisturizing lotion made by Organic Root Stimulator.

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L.R.

answers from Boca Raton on

Theres an herbal oil called africas best that i use on my daughters hair (she is also biracial). it works wonders, makes the hair more workable and moisturizes it. you should be able to pick it up in sallys beauty supply, or at least something similar to it.

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A.H.

answers from Dayton on

Hi S.!
I am a hair stylist. I use a lot of different products that my biracial clients use and love. The Smoothing line by Paul Mitchell has many options and works great. The first is Super Skinny Serum, it smooths and conditions unruly hair. It has conditioners in it, you can use it for them to wear their hair curly or straight. If you want to wear it Straight we have a product you would put in after the Skinny Serum that is called Straight Works. In the Smoothing line their is also a Shampoo and Conditioner. They just came out with a new relaxing balm for the really wavy coarse hair. AMAZING! They all reduce the drying time too!

I would not use oil. The oil can build up and start to block pores and make them produce more oil. I know a girl from back home who is biracial and has the most beautiful hair I have ever seen. I asked her what was her secret. She said she uses a leave in conditioner all most every day and either a gel or a foam. It was always curly and so soft and shiny.

I could probably go on with different products to try but their is a start for you and let me know how it works! Make sure if you are flat ironing them you have a good flat iron too or you will be damaging their hair.

I also have endometriosis and PCOS and had 3 doctors tell me I would never have kids and I just had my daughter in August and she is perfect!

Good Luck!

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E.M.

answers from Lima on

i know how it feels. i have a cousin being raised by my parents. she's only 2. there is certain greases that are made for hair like theirs. you can find it at walmart. yeah to you it might feel gross to put on their hair but it has nutrients that hair like theirs needs. with the strightening serium it wont hurt to put it on their hair every now and then. you'll want to do it more often when they get older.

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S.S.

answers from Cincinnati on

Hello Sara, my name is S.. I am new to this site, but so far I think it is great. When I logged on this morning your blog is what I saw. Although my girls are not biracial my oldest daughters hair is very thick, course and hard to manage at times. I have even researched putting a relaxer in her hair, but I also would rather take a more natural approach. You also mentioned that you try to stay away from mineral oils, which is smart. The molecules in mineral oil are to big to be absorbed and just lay on the surface of our skin, which prohibits any nutrients from being absorbed and any toxins to bo released. Mineral oil is also derived from petroleum, which is basically black crude oil. Yuck!
So, to help with your situation I would recommend looking into Arbonne International, they are a European Health and Wellness company that uses no mineral oil, only pure safe and beneficial ingredients. The products I have used have been very effective, the results have been wonderful.
There is a hair and body wash in the child's line as well as a shampoo with tea tree oil which also has been effective. I am a representitive with the company and would be happy to assist you. If you would like to learn more check out www.arbonne.com. I was a consumer first and was so amazed with the products, that I decided to be a consultant.
So good luck with your situation, I know what a struggle that morning hair brushing time can be:)
Have a great day!
S. S.
if you would like more information feel free to contact me at [email protected]____.com

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M.E.

answers from Lexington on

Congrats on your 4 girls. i'm sure they are beautiful. my sister in law has a biracial son and i deal with biracial/ethic hair on a daily basis where i work as a hairdresser. when they are litte you can try putting baby lotion in their. it will help moisturize and tame down frizzies. as they get older you might have to upgrade to some thing else. luster's pink oil lotion is good and matrix curl life creme is great. it's a little on the expensive side, but you don't have to use much. it's a salon product so it's more concentrated. please don't put a relaxer on the girls hair...at least not till they are older. relaxers are very drying and with them still being so young their skin might still be too sensitive for handle the chemicals, even if you use a mild one. don't wash there hair any more than absolutely needed, once or twice a week should be plenty in the winter, more often in the summer if they play hard and sweat or go swimming. but make sure to use a moisturizing shampoo and conditioner.

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