Any Boy Scout Moms or Dads Out There?

Updated on July 06, 2018
G.♣. asks from Springfield, IL
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Our son just crossed over to Boy Scouts this past March. He is scheduled to go to Camp next week and needs to do his prerequisites for camp. They seem a bit challenging for someone who just finished 5th grade, and I find myself helping him.

Is this normal? Did you help your son his first year? I don't want him to be completely overwhelmed, but I also know that he will benefit from challenging himself.

I guess I just want to know if this is a realistic thing for him to do without parental assistance.

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So What Happened?

He's going to be working on two merit badges at camp next week. I don't fully understand what the "prerequisites" are. We were given a book and a workbook for each badge (the boys are all working on different badges), and just told to complete the prerequisites. I took that to mean answer the questions that we are able to based on reading the book. Only, I didn't make my son read the whole book. I found the answers and showed him which paragraphs to read.

This is so much more work than Cub Scouts! And it's like pulling teeth to get him to focus and actually do it.

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C.C.

answers from New York on

Big picture about scouting, I think it can be easy to forget that "advancement" is not mandatory. Like with so many things in life (other than school!).

The "prerequisites" you describe are for merit badges. And merit badges are only required for advancement to certain ranks in scouting. There is no prohibition against existing as a scout at the most basic level...a boy can stay at the "lowest" rank (with no merit badge required) until he ages out of scouting at 18.

It's like playing an instrument - a child can practice, can be in school band, can compete...or can just learn how to play a few songs for fun.

Related to mamazita's response below, give some thought to whether you want to advocate for your son's scouting experience to be more fun/doing stuff he enjoys or more challenging with requirements. Either way of scouting can be rewarding. (I say "advocate" because obviously there is a whole group of boys involved around your son...you should try to get a sense of the other boys' and parents' attitudes...it might be uncomfortable for your son to be surrounded by boys with a more competitive attitude about scouting if he does not want to be that way, competitive peer pressure can make advancement *seem* mandatory.)

ALSO: I would encourage you to think carefully before you "assist" your son with obtaining merit badges. Think about it the same way you would approach "assisting" your son with his homework.

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M.6.

answers from New York on

Yep, I remember having to "help" our kiddos - however, I also remember them doing much of it during pack meetings (especially the camp stuff). Did he miss some pack meetings that he ended up getting behind on his camp stuff? Also, make sure that he isn't doing stuff that he is supposed to wait to do at camp :)

Good luck!

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T.S.

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Yep it's normal. And frustrating. We tried to do as much as we could at den and pack meetings because it was more manageable to do it together. My son ended up dropping out in sixth grade because the requirements got so rigid and school was hard enough. It's too bad because he really enjoyed the camping and hiking and nature aspect of scouts.

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