# 2 Issues

My little boy did the same thing! It wasn't till he was 3 1/2 till he went poop in the potty but once he decided to do it he hasn't had hardly any accidents since. So it's just one of those things where you gotta give them time to do it on their own. Good luck and be patient b/c when it comes it will be great.

Hi J.,
My daughter used to have the same problem, in fact she would hide from me because she did not want to get in trouble. I did in fact allow her to run around without any pants- which for me made it worse, because she would just go anywhere she was!
We found a video done by The Bear in the big blue house, and it helped her out alot, It was all about the "Potty" and cleaniness. You can probably rent it from the library-
Don't worry, I believe this is a struggle for every parent, you are not alone!
If you have any questions, you can write me anytime if I can assist you . :) L.

Hi J.,
This may sound wierd to you but, when my daughter was potty training the #2 was her biggest problem too. Because she was to busy to stop and go. #1 is fast and over with. Try giving her a coloring book and crayons to use while she's on the potty or maybe a story book. Another thing I had even tried was putting her potty in her play area so that when she had to go she would see her potty and automatically be reminded to go. I hope this helps

I had the exact same problem with my daughter. She would always go pee, but would never go poop. My pediatrician said that at that age they don't understand what poop is and feel as if it is part of their body that is coming off and being flushed away forever. Here is what we did:
1.) Try explaining to her (even using a book) how the digestive system works and letting her know that this is the waste her body needs to get rid of and where it needs to go. 2.) Then, create a special basket with new toys and books and put it in the bathroom. Whenever she sits on the potty to try to poop, then she can play with her special potty toys.
3.) Have her sit on the potty every night for 5 minutes before bathtime. Tell her this is her potty time.
We had to tell our daughter that she didn't have to poop, but she did have to sit there for 5 minutes. She didn't even want to get on the potty in the first place when she knew she had to go. You can try that or see if your daughter will try to sit there for a bit.
My daughter had to go one night and couldn't help but poop since she was there. We made a huge deal about it. She still got upset and told us that she didn't want to do it again. But we told her how great she did and what a big girl she was. Have some other special gift on hand for when she does this. Once she did it and we encouraged her, she had her 5 minutes each night on the potty and she started doing it all the time. I admit though, in that first week when we knew she had to go and didn't want to, she did sit there a bit longer (until she pooped). The first week was the hardest.
Try not to get frustrated and don't blame yourself. You're doing the best you can. It's always good to get tips from people who have been through this before.

We had the same issue with my son. He was 3 when we had our daughter.

Keep in mind your daughter has had a BIG change in her life with an 8 week old in the house. When all else is beyond the control of a child there are 3 things he/she can control: eating, sleeping and eliminating. So there is a tendency to see issues with at least one of those when a major change (like a baby, or a move or starting school occur).

We didn't make a big deal about pooping issues. Did a lot of postive reinforcement with sticker charts. But when it came down to it--he started pooping in the potty when he was feeling more in control of other areas of his life. Actually allowed him to put a "pull-up" on to poop in (got tired of cleaning poopy underwear--yuck).
D.

have you tried letting her go around without pants?that's how i had to potty train my son.i let him go around the house with no bottoms on and he went every time.never went on the carpet.you also might want to see if it's whatever potty seat she's using.make sure it's comfortable.my son wouldn't use a portable potty seat at all.he was almost scared of it.i had to get one that fits over the big potty.he didn't mind that so bad.as for the bribing,most kids will do anything for something.you just need to find out what that something is.for my son it was m&m's.but you may want to try something like special "privleges"letting her do something that makes her feel grown up.letting her pick out the design on some new undies,or something.sometimes,you can just ask them and they will give you the perfect tool.just ask what will make you want to poop in the potty?sometimes it works ,and sometimes it doesn't.but it's worth a shot.hope this helps!good luck!

Fortunately I didn't have much of a problem with this with my oldest because he didn't like the feeling of being wet or dirty. But I've known several people with this same issue and here's just a few things: first, no way is any of this YOUR fault. There's no fault or blame necessary. She's just taking a little extra time to be fully trained, and with a new baby in the house it's not so surprising. I think you're doing all the right and expected things. Maybe not pushing the issue at all for a few weeks is the way to go. Of course that may involve gritting your teeth and just changing her pants when she makes a mess, but maybe the LACK of attention about the situation will actually prompt her to be a big girl and do everything in it's appropriate place, so to speak. Good luck and best wishes. Hopefully you'll get some good advice on other ways to tempt her into potty use!

Hi J.. Have you tried taking her to pick out her very special big girl panties. I don't have experience with girls yet. (mines only 4mths) but my sister-in-law had the same problem. She took her out and let her pick them out (princess) panties and she wouldn't go in her prized big girl pants. But then my niece is a girly girl. Does she have her own potty? My son was scared of the big potty,but had no problem with his little one. Good luck .

Hi J.,
I do know that is so normal. Kids just have a hard time doing that in the potty. It feels weird to them for some reason. She is still relatively young and with some gentle coaching and reminders they all get it after not too long. After my son turned 4 and he still wasn't consistently going on the potty you start to get angry with them, and say, "Now, I know you know what you are doing and that that is a "No No", and you can start to get stricter with consequences. But, for some it takes longer with the reminders and training to let them know that big people do not go in their pants but they go in the potty.

the issue with my kids was that they didn't want to stop what they were doing and take the time. you could make it more interesting in the bathroom. also, who cleans up after the mess. my oldest was stubborn about #2 issues, but i always cleaned up the mess. i caught on quick and made him help clean him self up and watch what i had to do. he was so grossed out it stopped within a day or two.