Using a Strange Potty...

Hi,

I went through this. I carried around a small emtpy juice bottle with a screw top for any emergency. Great on buses, planes etc. you can go into the bathroom and just use bottle instead of tiolet, dump and rinse. The other thing that was a huge help was this folding seat.

http://www.pottytrainingconcepts.com/Cushie-Traveler.html

It really did the trick.

After a while, my son just got over it. I suggest you don't worry or make a big fuss over it. He'll know when he's ready.

Oh and don't forget to feel very fortunate to have a child who learned toileting so easily! I had that experience too, it was great, and a little fear of strange toilets is probably nothining compared to what some parents have to go through.

All the best,
C.

It's really just a phase, and completely normal. Don't force him, and just let him decide when he wants to. You absolutely can't make him, and going outside(seriously???You'll spend the rest of your life apologizing to the neighbors for that one!!) or threatening diapers isn't working, so please stop. You can't win and you're just making it traumatic for him.

We went to target and had our daughter pick out a potty seat, she picked princesses, and that's the one we take to other people's houses, like Grandma's, for her to use. That helped.

First of all let me start by saying this is Normal. A lot of kids go through this and with your help he will come around. When it comes to standing my suggestion is to let him observe his male role model. No matter if it is
dad / grandpa /uncle who ever, this gives them an example of what they are supposed to do. My son was reluctant to stand at all, until he watched daddy a few times. Then he wanted to be a big boy like daddy. When it comes to the "strange potty" you may just have to give him more time. At least he will use his portable potty, see if you can find out the reason why he refuses other potties.

I went through this with my daughter. She would freak out. Don't get me started on port-a-potties!

I just took her in with me where ever we were and went first to show her it was okay. She got the hang of it and lost the fear aspect...she likes the blue water in the port-a-potties now because mommy said it turned green when you pee...lol.

IN MY PRESCHOOL CLASS WE HAD A LITTLE GIRL WHO WOULDN'T USE THE TOILET AT SCHOOL. WE ASKED HER WHY AND SHE SAID SHE DIDN'T LIKE THE NOISE.
THE SCHOOL HAD TOILETS THAT AUTOMATICALLY FLUSHED AND THAT IS WHAT SHE WAS AFRAID OF. TO REMEDY THAT SHE WOULD BRING A POST-IT AND PLACE IT ON THE SENSOR AND AFTER THAT SHE USED THE TOILET WITH NO PROBLEM. mY NEPHEW IS SENSITIVE TO THE LOUDNESS ALSO OF THE LUSHING, SEE IF THAT IS THE REASON. GOOD LUCK!

It's normal. I'd stop playing games, making bribes, etc. If you're at someone's house and dad is there, Dad can take 3 year old along when dad uses the bathroom there, your son is more likely to stand and pee in their toilet if dad is in there doing it too. Otherwise, I would take him to the bathroom when you think he has to go. If he won't pee there, let him have an accident (not while sitting on someone's couch or carpet of course). He may find that if the choice is between peeing his pants in front of whomever you're visiting or using their toilet, he may start using the toilet

Normal....my son got over it when the fascination of the urinal began. Can hubby take him to the men's room with him somewhere?

My son does this at times as well. He'll be 3 next week. I sometimes say- Mommy is going to go, then you can go too' And I do just that. It seems to help. Also, I have a travel potty seat that folds up so its easy to carry around. He feels comfy with that and will go in public places as long as he has it. Maybe getting one will help.

Stop with the incentives/punishments/threats etc. Sit down and talk to him. Find out what scares him about toilets away from home--individually if necessary. If he can't explain, start with one at your family's house (or somewhere else you visit frequently). Walk into the bathroom with him when you get there and help him explore it. Ask him to check for anything that makes him uncomfortable/scared. Then ask if he can think of a way to make that bathroom less scary. (For example, if it's dark, maybe bring a flashlight. If it's the smell, see about opening a window. Ask if having company will help him. etc) Remind him that you will help him if he needs it and if he has an accident, it's not a big deal. In the end he will grow out of it though.