Thinking About Getting Tubes Tied????

Tube tying is not really something you "reverse." You need to be 100 percent positive that you are done having kids before going this route. There are other long term hormonal forms of birth control (the implants in the arm, iuds, etc..) and even one hormone-free IUD that you can use for protection for at least 5 years. I would look into these options first.

I regret doing it after my last one. The reversal is more painful than the tubal and there is no guarantee you will get pregnant (best friend's Mom did it.) I would wait until you are at least 33 or 34, if you still feel the same, do it. Good luck and good job on going to school, work and being a full time Mom. I know it is daunting sometimes but it is worth it in the end. cb

I got my tubes tied at the age of 25 after my second child was born. I have antibodies against my babies platelets so I thought this was best. It caused a terrible hormone imbalance that I couldn't live with AND I regretted that I couldn't have any more children. I ended up reversing it 3 1/2 years later. I'm from AZ and I flew to Tennessee to have the surgery because it was so much cheaper. They cut along my C-Section and opened me up to reverse it. I had 3 more kids (4 including a miscarriage and actually I'll deliver the 3rd one in 2 weeks!) after I reversed it. Reversing it was the best decision I ever made. Not only did my symptoms go away and I was free from a hormone imbalance but I got the most precious gifts in the world, my children. Our family is forever blessed because of our decision to reverse my tubal ligation. My doctors want me to tie my tubes again because I'm having a C-Section but I absolutely will not ever put myself at risk of having another hormone imbalance. I'm going to be 40 this year and having my 5th baby so we're not planning on anymore but TL is out of the question for me. That's for sure! I hope my story helps you! Good luck to you!!

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I can tell you this.. MUCH does and CAN change between yours 20s and 40s.... those years in between cause you to constantly re-evaluate and re-consider LIFE. In as much as you may not think you more kids NOW.. I can tell you this, your mind may very well change in the future.. don't mess with nature IF you don't have to. Why go under the knife if you don't have to...IF you are looking for a better means of birth control, why not try charting and begin to understand better how the body works.. it's a more natural approach and doesn't require your having to pop a pill...
I would really consider long and hard about tying ones tubes..... Again, the person you are now in your 20s...... may think very different from the person you are in your 30s... don't do anything drastic if you don't have to. :) best of luck

This: "I don't know if I want more kids" is the answer to your question. Definitely find an alternative.

Best wishes,
B.

IMO, if you have any reservation about having more children at some point, having a tubal is not the best option. There are many other methods which aren't permanent; just in case you meet a man and want to have children with him.
I was 33, had 3 children and no husband and knew I didn't want any more so I had my tubes tied 10+ years ago.
I did meet a man that I fell in love with several years after the procedure but I still didn't want any more children though he did. I was firm with him that yes I did love him but going through the IVF process or any other method to have a baby was not for me.
Bottom line, you have decide whether or not YOU want to have another child regardless if there is a man or not.

All the best to you and your girls.

Until you are 100% sure, I wouldn't have the procedure done. Good luck!

i recently had my tubes tied. i really really did not want to carry anymore babies. my husband and i make big babies,we cannot afford them and my husband has a heart condition. basically i dont want to be left with a ton of kids. i was and am sure that i really didnt want to go through a pregnancy again. i told my husband if we can afford more we can adopt. if he does pass and i remarry i still dont want to carry any more. so that was that. since you said you dont know if you want more kids...then tubes tied is not the answer for you. in some cases i belive the tubes can be untied but what if there is difficulty and they cannot untie your tubes? these are questions you need to talk to your doctor about. good luck. hope you find true love.

I see that many have already responded to your question. I don't have personal experience with tubal ligation. However, I did have one of my tubes removed because of an ectopic pregnancy. TL increases the chances of a tubal pregnancy and it was HORRIBLE I would never want to do anything to increase that. Also, the months that I ovulate from that ovary I have much harder cycles then I ever have, so I believe the woman who said that her cycles were bad after a TL.

I do know MANY women who have had a TL and now regret it. Some have gone on to have the expensive reversal but most have thus far been unable to get pregnant. It is generally considered irreversible. That said, my grandmother and a few others I have spoken with did get pregnant after a tubal (not reversed) so it's also not guaranteed to be permanent.

I have cesareans and already have four children, but given that my husband has cancer I am actually in the situation that I could possibly remarry one day. I have met so many women who have had 2nd husbands and were joyous with the birth of a new baby. I could never cut off that possibility. I pray that if I do have to remarry one day that I could bear at least one more baby.

Anyway, definitely look into other options, consider this permanent.

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I see that many have already responded to your question. I don't have personal experience with tubal ligation. However, I did have one of my tubes removed because of an ectopic pregnancy. TL increases the chances of a tubal pregnancy and it was HORRIBLE I would never want to do anything to increase that. Also, the months that I ovulate from that ovary I have much harder cycles then I ever have, so I believe the woman who said that her cycles were bad after a TL.

I do know MANY women who have had a TL and now regret it. Some have gone on to have the expensive reversal but most have thus far been unable to have it reversed. It is generally considered irreversible. That said, my grandmother and a few others I have spoken with did get pregnant after a tubal (not reversed) so it's also not guaranteed to be permanent.

I have cesareans and already have four children, but given that my husband has cancer I am actually in the situation that I could possibly remarry one day. I have met so many women who have had 2nd husbands and were joyous with the birth of a new baby. I could never cut off that possibility. I pray that if I do have to remarry one day that I could bear at least one more baby.

Anyway, definitely look into other options, consider this permanent.

Please do not have this done!!! My two friends have side effects! You are young and may change your mind later...Many other birth control methods that are better.

I would wait. If you are not in a sexual relationship right now, then why even worry about it? Abstinence is 100% effective.
Or you can use natural family planning to chart your cycles to let you know more about when you are fertile and about the health of your body.

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I would soooo not have that done. Too much life goes on at your age. Discuss with your doctor more long term, less permanent solutions. I commend you being a single mom and working and going to school full time. Heck, I'd want my tubes tied too.

Hang in there. Never know where God will lead you. He will also get you through this time.

Best wishes!

If you are not completely sure do not do it. And it is not as easy as going in saying I want this done and the dr doing it. You will have a meeting with the dr to talk over everything involved. Also, it will but you in bed for a tleast 24 hrs and then several weeks that you are not to lift etc....To my knowledge no way to reverse the surgery.

Add on I just read about the side effects. I have noticed very bad cramps since then- I had almost none before having it done.

My cousin had it done at 30. Her and her husband were both "done". They had 2 girls and had her tubes tied with the c-section birth of their second. (She hated being pregnant and they didn't want more than 2 kids.) Their youngest is now 1 1/2 and they both regret it! They both want another child now. But a reversal does NOT gaurentee that you will be able to conceive.

And if you are not in a relationship why do you have to worry about birth control????? (If the man you end up with can't wait until you two are married, then maybe he's not going to be the right guy..........)

I agree with everyone else, if you are not 100% sure then don't do it.
Have you considered an IUD?
Talk to your Dr about long term rather than permanent solutions, they're out there.
Besides, even a tubal ligation is not 100% guarantee, have seen several "miracle" babies born to mothers who thought they were finished... :)

If you have any doubts at all, I would not get your tubes tied. There are so many different birth control options out there that I am sure you can find one that works. Sometimes you can't reverse a tubal and that would be really sad if you decide later that you want to have more kids. Best wishes!