There Is a Lego on My

Updated on May 08, 2017
S.W. asks from Birmingham, MI
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Hello to all :-)

I find myself saying this in two different ways... one is emphatic and one is somewhat saddened. The first one is incredulous because how much longer will the legos be part of my and my family's lives. The second one is the telescoping one that experiences the speed of his last 15 years: how fast he's growing up. He's finishing his freshman year and yet I remember he was just napping on my shoulder what feels like a moment ago. He's a baritone and yet he still calls me mommy at times. He is working so hard and yet still needs real playtime with his friends. I'm not sure how to end this except to ask....Is there ever a not inbetween time?

I adore my darling boy. :-) S.

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Hello again,

First let me thank you all for sharing your opinions. I really don't need a hobby, I work full time, have a rich social life with friends and family, and keep busy living life like everyone else. Yes, I do expect age appropriate responsibilities from him and he is stepping up in a genuine way. He has chores, manages his school and homework, is learning to drive (almost there), manages his social life and brings home excellent grades. Don't get me wrong...there are no rose colored glasses on me. I see him for the person that he is and of course I'm proud of his accomplishments. I think I just had a moment of what I call telescoping where he's all sorts of ages kind of all at once for a moment. If you haven't seen the brilliant Subaru campaign, it's kind of like that, here you go. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dU0jkP2cSV8

As always, your input and insight are genuinely appreciated. :-) S.

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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

I know just how you feel!
Ours is graduating and heading off to college in Aug.
I think Legos will always be with us.
I used some to model how I wanted to build my raised garden bed out of cinder blocks last year.
I try to look at the empty nest time of life as an exciting change.
It will be different, I'm not sure exactly how I'll feel once we've dropped him off at school, and I have to look for a new job - it'll keep me busy.
I've got 10 yrs till I can retire and I need to help pay for the college bills - I want him to graduate without much debt.
We'll survive and find a way to thrive!

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J.S.

answers from St. Louis on

You really need a hobby

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W.W.

answers from Washington DC on

i'm watching my men fix our front yard....digging and turning the dirt to plant grass....using REAL shovels and picks....I remember when they would "help" with plastic shovels...

time moves fast...

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S.S.

answers from Atlanta on

your son is 15 and still working with LEGOs? WOW.

Your son seems to be the center of your world. You really need to get a hobby so you can be prepared when he leaves the nest soon.

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answers from Miami on

I kind of found this post sweet, though I do agree that you might need a hobby...(and I mean that in a good way...)

My kids loved their legos and felt comforted that they were in the house. When my older son was in college, we moved and I gave them to Goodwill. I had warned him that I would be getting rid of lots of stuff, and he didn't tell me to keep them. When he found out they were gone, he was pretty upset. But for people who move every few years, it's too hard to do what some who live in the same house for years and years do - keep everything...

What you might do to help you feel better is put together a scrapbook/picture book of important milestones/awards etc for your son. I did that for one of my kids. I kept adding to it so much that I had to go to the Hallmark store and keep buying extension posts and pages. He's out of college now and it does mean a lot to him. I gave it to him right after he graduated high school. It featured baby up to present day pictures, awards, college acceptances, SAT/ACT scores, and all the cards he received from friends and family for graduation, along with pictures of him and them together that I was able to find.

It's really important for you to let him grow up, even though you see him as a "darling boy". He needs to learn to be responsible. He can't learn it if you do everything for him or bail him out of problems. Love doesn't mean do, do, do. Love means letting him learn, even if it's really hard for you to stay to the side and not jump in to help him all the time. And that also means letting him fall on his face some...

Enjoy this time. It does go fast!

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