Need Prayers..Double Decker Week Wrecker Here

Libby:

I'm sorry your best friend's dad is battling with cancer. I will pray for his peace.

As for your mom - it will be good. Having a hysterectomy at her age and her attitude (as we know attitude is everything), she will come out fine!! Keep thinking positive thoughts.

When my family stresses get to much? I pray. Well, I pray every day - but there are times when I just need to go sit on my bed and ball and let God hear my prayers, pain and heartache.

I know my grandmother is dying. She's 96 and just had a pacemaker put in a few months ago. She's not doing well. This is life - you can't get out of it alive....so what I've been doing? I've been writing some memories about my grandmother...to help preserve her memory for me and my children. Maybe you can do that with your best friend's dad. Talk to her about her dad - share memories, then write them down for her. OR since you are an artist - have her tell you about one of her most cherished memories of her dad and her and then draw it out for her - get it framed and present it to her.

That's a lot to find out about in one week.
4th round of cancer?
It almost sounds like your friends father has been living on borrowed time.
Not that it makes anyone feel any better, but people have a little time to say goodbye and that can help a little bit.
If the poor man is in a lot of pain, it might be a release for him.
For your Mom, 40 was on the early side for menopause but it can happen.
When she had a problem, she checked it out quickly so hopefully there's nothing to worry about and if there is, then they caught it early enough to do something about it.
My Mom had a hysterectomy in the late 70's due to her insides falling down and she thought it was a miserable thing.
But today they have some new procedures with rapid recovery times (like 3 weeks instead of 8) and it's not always as bad as it use to be.
Try not to worry about worst case scenario's until there's some definite proof things are heading that way.
Prayer doesn't hurt and we're all hoping for the best possible outcome for you and yours!

What has always helped me is prayer, and the understanding that the outcome is out of my control. Instead of worrying I ask that the God help me deal with the situation (whatever the result) with grace. I do alsopray for the result I would like, but that is secondary.

I will say a prayer for you, your family and your freinds.

God Bless You All

Prayers for you and your friends and family.......

I'm so sorry, dear lady. I hope that Hospice will come in and help your friend's dad here at the end. They can make him comfortable and help the family through. My prayers go out to all of you!

Bless your mom's heart - I hope they can do the surgery through the vagina (tell her to ask them). A friend of mine had that done - they gave her meds to shrink the uterus and took it out that way. The time it takes to recover is minimal compared to opening her abdomen.

When it rains, it pours! Look at pictures in a picture album, share them with your family and friends, and really listen to your mom if she needs to talk. That's about all you can do right now.

I'm praying that your mom will be fine after the surgery.

Dawn

I would contact my pastor and have her come and pray with my mom and I.
I would ask for prayers from everyone, as you did. I believe in the power of prayer and it makes me feel like I am helping, when there is nothing else I can do. Good luck to you this week.

I have been both places that you are now. But it was my dad that had the cancer. So my heart and prayers go out to all of you!!! It was very emotional and I felt like a robot for a long time. Thankfully I had a very loving and understanding husband that took over a lot of my parenting dutys so I could be with my dad as much as possible. When I lost him I almost totaly shut down. I don't sugest that but that was how I dealt. This was 6 year ago. I did eventurally come out of my funk mostly because of my kids and my husbands love. When I was upset and crying (Which scared my kids a little since I was not a cryer) they would just love on me. They were my strength.

With my mom she had not gone that long but hers was not spotting. Her's was clots. They had to do an DNC in then months later when nothing else worked they took everything out. She is fine now. No problems after her surgery at all what so ever. I was in high school still when this happened. They said we almost lost here cause she waited so long to go to the dr.

Hang in there and I hope your day get's better!!

Good luck and God Bless!

Your friend's dad has battled back three times already. He may still have some fight left for this battle, right?
I will pray for peace and acceptance for your friend's father. And the same for your friend and her family and you.
There comes a time when prayers change and we realize that enough suffering is enough.
And I will pray that your mom's hysterectomy goes well. With no complications.
My mom had hers done a lot older than your mom and although the recovery took some time, she is fine.
Hang in there, kiddo!

I'm sorry you are going through this, but sorrier still for your friend's dad and your mother. As another person wrote, your friend's dad has battled back before and that's a good sign that he is strong and determined. That said, people whose cancer returns are often able to deal with things better than those around them. It's most important to focus on what the patient needs and keep them optimistic, so long as it is reasonable to do so, and to keep their lives pleasant. You pray for good results, but you pray for loving care and good medical advice.

As for your mother, it's interesting that she "sat you down" - she expects you to be strong and to rise to the occasion. No period for 10 years and some spotting is perfectly completely normal at her age! No periods are, frankly, a relief after so many years! She doesn't need her uterus anymore, so a hysterectomy is no big deal long term. The surgery is no fun and the recovery takes a while but if she has good care and perhaps some home visiting nurse or personal care attendant services, she will be fine.

It might help to think that this stuff is not on YOUR plate, but on THEIR plates. I think your mom needs you to be strong and to be available to help her during her recovery, not to be panicking about grief. There's kind of a transition when we become adult enough that we have to help our parents vs. the other way around (them still taking care of us) but it's a growth process and a new way of viewing the world. You're part of it, you have to step up to the plate, and you need to get as much info as possible so you stop worrying and figure out how to be a better source of support. Perhaps you should go to your mother's doctor's appointment with her (with her permission) to learn more. Information is power, and power brings strength. Be the help you want them to have, not a burden that they need to worry about consoling.

You get up and put one foot in front of the other and function. I have had to do this twice in a young life (loss mom at 9 and dad at 14). I am now watching hubby as he battles is advanced prostate cancer.

There is a part in your being that keeps you going at all costs. This part helps regulate your daily routine and you may need to write lists and checklists and check the completed tasks but you get through it. The weight is heavy but you must keep going as this is when you find out who you really are and what you can do.

Know that you are not alone and that you can always write us and vent.

The other S.

PS I will keep you in my thoughts