I have two family memebers both dealing with cancer my cousin who is only 28 has stage 3 cancer and she just had her last surgery the family was told that if she doesnt do the chemo she'll have less than a year, and my mother who hopes that after her hysterectomy she wont need any chemo.... my family is all very hopful with all of this between Dr. visit and etc...
I have two sons of my own and my job by the end of the day i am so drained physically and emotionally...any body have snything HELPFUL TO SAY....
I said that I wanted to thank all of you for your prayer and heart felt words...MY COUSIN DIED AUGUST 24th at 1:30 in the morning my mother is still very hopful onces again thank all of you.....
T. all I can offer is my prayers. Life is a test to see what we will do, will we move further from God or closer to Him.
So my advice is to pray and ask for strenght and patience, with your family members who are ill and with your kids.
I will also add my prayers.
Be strong...May God Bless you and keep strong....amen
I don't know your religous status but when I have alot on my plate I pray and ask God to help me get through the day ahead and thank Him for the keeping me sane and giving me peace. I hope everything goes well with you and your family.
Hi T.,
You sound like you're trying so hard to be helpful to everyone! No wonder you're exhausted! I'm sooooo sorry you have to deal with this terrible situation!
Remember that it's ok to say "no" to requests for your time. That said, sometimes you can be very helpful if you just sit with your mom or cousin, just holding her hand. It may be helpful to YOU if you make a specific time period available to them each week, where you're physically there, and maybe a time each day that you will call them.
This structure may help you feel less overwhelmed and more in control of your time. It may also comfort them to know they can count on you to give them specific time and know your heart and mind are with them, not just your body.
Good luck, dear T.! Hang in there and know we're thinking of you!
D.
Hi T.,
I am soo sorry to hear about the health problems in your family. You need to take care of yourself first and foremost because you can't care for others to your full extent if you are under the weather. You need to take some "me" time, even if it is just relaxing in a hot bath or reading a good book etc. Remember that it is ok to say no if it is compromising yourself.
Take care,
L.
First thing I have to say is Cancer Sucks! (there are actually t-shirts that you can buy that say this) A few months ago I lost my dear 2 year old great niece to cancer. Through my niece I have met MANY other brave little angles dealing with this awful disease. In the past two weeks 2 have died and one was put on hospice. No words I can say will heal the pain of this awful disease! But I can say stay strong. You will make it through these tough times. For me the thing that has helped the most is prayer. For me to keep going I just continue to pray for the families dealing with this on a daily basis. I will keep you and your family in my prayers. The other thing to remember is while being there for your family during this rough time it is important to take care of yourself physically and emotionally! Easier said than done in a crisis. Take care.
I lost my Mom to cancer & I can't express how much I miss her every minute of every day. My advice is to be there...even when you're tired or drained. Be there as long as you can. Hopefully everyone will pull through & when they do I promise you won't regret pushing through your own issues. You'll be forever thankful.
Good luck. I will pray for your family.
First off, let me send you a great big cyber hug.
(((((((((((((((T.))))))))))))))
I know how hard losing one person to cancer is, my mother died many years ago of colon cancer. Facing the possibility of losing two family members makes it so very much harder. My heart goes out to you. I will put all of you, both cancer patients and family members, into my prayers.
You have the responsibility of taking care of your children. Please consider the "oxygen mask" advice. If an airplane loses pressure and the oxygen masks come down, parents are told to put theirs on first, so they can be able to take care of their children. So too, you have to take care of you so you can take care of your children. Make sure you are getting enough rest, eat healthy, all the things that you need to do to make sure you are strong.
If this is overwhelming for you, consider getting some sessions with a therapist to help you learn to cope. That's what they are for, and helping people cope with difficult times is usually covered by health insurance. It's called adjustment therapy. If you are a person of faith, consider talking to your spiritual leader/minister for guidance and support. Reach out for any resource that is offered.
Losing anyone is difficult, even after you have become at peace with the loss, there is always a "hole in your heart" where you miss them. But, they will always live in your thoughts and in your love. They will be alive to you. I hope you can take comfort in that thought.
Peace,
M..
My heart goes out to you. I just lost my father June 14 2007 from esophical cancer he was 54. Its a very hard thing to watch someone you love go through this and there isnt anything you can do to make it go away, but pray and hope. Chemo has come along way, my dad did not get really sick or lose his hair, It just made him tired. There are many strands of chemo, my dads was pretty fierce. He ended up with terminal cancer stage 4 so basically the chemo and radiation was prolonging his life it wasnt going to cure him. My advice to you is stay strong I know its hard trust me its hard, but talk to someone, a friend a family member, someone because it does help somewhat. I hope all is well My prayers are with you.
Since I just faced the same thing with a dear friend and my mother in law I can say hang in there. Both have used all of the natural supplements they purchased from me and had excellent healing. Take a look at this website... www.knowthecause.com
Let me know if you are interested in any natural products to help the healing and recovery process. Keep strong, involve your prayer chains. The power of prayer is a awesome thing! Try and get sleep when you can and remember that we are here for you whenever you need!
HTH
Jenn
Mama to Bryce~9 Austin~6 Taylor~19 mnths
Step Mama to Nich~15 Christian~14
Boy - you really sound like you have a lot on your plate. I think that the main thing to focus on is to 'take care of yourself', so that in turn you can look after your sons emotional and physical health. Often people in crisis want words of confort and support, in the way of cards/ email/ letters. Cards you can either make these or buy thenm. The main thing is to let the person know that you love them and that you care aboutthem. There will be times when you can do other little things. But right now you need to take care of YOURSELF so that you and your guys can get thro' these times together.
All the best D.
