My heart goes out to you, as well as my prayers! Before you send off your stepson, my advice is to try some other alternatives that can make a big difference for your family. Also, I would tell your husband that you need his help now and family comes first. You are not wrong to ask him to postpone night school; you are looking out for yourself and his/your children.
Stress weakens the immune system (it's taking a toll on your body!) Unfortunately, medications are not the solution for ADHD, they only mask the problem. I highly recommend an incredible book titled Adaptogens: Herbs for Strength, Stamina, and Stress Relief by Winston and Maimes. From the book "There is a category of herbs called adaptogens that help the human body adapt to stress, support normal metabolic processes, and restore balance. They increase the body's resistance to physical, biological, emotional, and environmental stressors and promote normal physiologic function".
The 10 most potent adaptogens on the earth, with the highest therapeutic properties available are now delievered in a fast acting oral spray, called Tunguska Mist.
Go to www.VitalHealth.TunguskaMist.com to learn more.
Many parents have had wonderful results using the Tunguska Mist Pure to help restore balance in their children and improve their focus. Teachers often comment that the student's behavior is significantly improved, and grades go from C's and D's to A's and B's. In fact, one parent even reported that their child went from the worst behaved in class and then was called a "model student" by her teacher.
My husband and I have been taking adaptogens for a long time, and we're passionate about helping people reduce the damaging effects of stress and restore balance NATURALLY, without medications. Good luck and God Bless:)