My Three Year Old Still Sleeps with Me

My two and three year old still wander into my room at night and try to crawl into bed with my husband and I. After having another baby, I realized that I can't have 3 kids in my bed!!!!, So I made a bed on the floor in my room, and when my toddlers wander in, I direct them to the "alternate" spot. This way they can be close and I can have my bed back!!! They seem to respond to this pretty well, somtimes even giving up and heading back to their own rooms. I prefer to have a comfy place to lay my head down at the end of the night, and that does not include my son's back nor does it include trying to snuggle with my daughters feet....

maybe slowly get the 3yr old into his or hers own bed. maybe slowly do thing of laying with them and slowly seperate yourself from them as days go on. from laying there or slowly getting out of the room til he or she is comfurtable to do so by themselves or give them a toy they feel is comfurtable and say its there protector while they sleep if that does not work they have alot of thoughs on the nanny shows or ask your dr. they usually grow out of it, but dont let the child keep doing it after 3 get help if nothing works. cause some do not grow out of it.

I started putting my son to bed in his own bed when he was about 2, but he's 3 now and half the time will end up in my bed by morning. Usually I just put him back in his bed. They like to know you're there for comfort. However, I would definitly start putting her in her own bed to begin with, and dealing with the crying/screaming for a week to a month until she gets used to it. By that age, she should at least be starting to go to sleep in her own bed, even if she gets up in the middle of the night and crawls back in with you.
It's an age/stage thing too. A lot of kids go through this at this age. Just be consistent with what you do.

that is just a tough love issue. it just has to be done and cold turkey! i know people that have serious issues because their 8 and 9 yr olds are still in their bed! Any dr. you talk to will say just cut it off...........it's hard. good luck!
**also i would never say anything bad about peoples parenting skills but it seems that when people start this process in the begining there is always a "trauma" getting them to change. That is why my girls went straight into their cribs from day one. They come crawl in after waking in the am on the weekends and that is fun. Again, good luck!

crysatl,
I believe that are children are for our safe keeping. My sone will be 3 in April. He has never slept anywere but in bed with my husband and I. They will one day grow up andnot want to even kiss on us let alone sleep with us. So my husband and I look at it as if we are just letting him be a child. He does have his own room with his own toddler bed and TV/DVD player. sometimes he says "daddy, mommy me sleep in my room this time." so we let him go to his room and sleep (ironaclly, we are the ones you can't sleep). Of course we wake up & he is in our bed, but the secret to him making that choice on his own is that we have never pushed him to sleep in his bed & we have never belittled him or made him feel unwanted in our bed. They are going to be grown up there whole life, we need to allow them to be children NOW!
~N.

My daughter just turned 7 in Oct. She started sleeping in my bed when her dad left a couple of years ago. Being single, I worried that I'd never get her out. But her problem is that she is scared of the dark. So, I had saved quite a bit of money and I treated her to anew bed set very nice one and so began the process of her sleeping in her room. But I leave a lamp on, door open and TV on low. Some people may have issue with this but it brings her comfort and most nights she will sleep in her bed all night. You may also want to try a reward system and really talk about about being a big girl like her sisters. But the other lady was right. You must also be consistant and use tough love if you want to cut the behavior quicker.

It's perfectly normal! My four-years old son still sleeps next to me. Be sure to not use "sleep with", because it causes misunderstandings at the school and with other parents. Some people are naive and thinking in***t which we are NOT part of. I explained to my kid some sleeping positions are ok, and some positions are only for "big people". He understands. I also told him that maybe kids at school may laugh at him and for him to please stand up for himself if that ever happens. He knows. I've never heard of a 15-years old kid sleeping next to their momma, so I'm positively 99% sure that your and my kid will outgrow this attachment with mommas at night. Don't worry.

C.,

If it were me, I'd just go with it. I happen to like sleeping with my kids. LOL And I seriously doubt they are going to still want to sleep with me as they get older so I just don't worry about it. If, for some reason it bothers you, try laying with her in her bed until she's asleep. If she comes into your room in the middle of the night, repeat the process. She'll eventually get the hang of it.

:-)T.