Multiple Miscarriages - Reading,PA

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear what a tough time you're having. I went through one m/c and it was horrible. You sound really strong! I would definitely find a fertility specialist. You should be able to do this without a referral--I did. I have very large uterine fibroids and knew that I might be one of those women who have no problem getting p/g but cannot carry to term (fortunately, I was able to)and I wasn't safisfied with my OBGYN's laid back approach.

I recently had a friend tell me that one of her friends is seeing a doctor that specializes problems sustaining pregnancy. I'm sorry, I have no idea what you call such a dr. but it seems like a new branch of fertility medicine that you might want to research. Good luck!!
K.

Hi C.,

Sorry for your loss. I too have had 2 miscarriages but the third pregnancy I ended up with a beautiful little girl who is 10 months old now. I ended up seeing a fertility specialist after the 2nd miscarriage. I can get pregnant easily so that wasn't the problem, the doctor tested both myself and my husband and determined that we should go on progesterone. I ended up taking progesterone suppositories for the first 20 weeks and that helped me carry my daughter to full term.

Please keep thinking positive and see a specialist. I wish you the best of luck.

I had a miscarriage in March as well. My due date would be this Monday the 23rd. We starting doing the Provera/Clomid regimine. I am hoping it will prove successful.

I really don't have any words of wisdom. I just wanted to say, I understand the pain. Everything will work out the way it is intended. Have faith in the process not the result. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

I don't have any advice other than I think you probably should see a fertility specialist to figure out why the pregnancies are ending. If you don't feel comfortable with the attention you're getting from your doctor, keep looking for a new doctor. I wish you good luck. Hugs.

Hi, C.-

I am going through soemthing similar. Since January I have had two miscarriages. The doctor said the same thing to me: since I am not having trouble conceiving, there is no reason to get really alarmed about the situation. Without going into detail, they really dropped the ball with the second miscarriage and treated me REALLY poorly, resulting in 5 months of unstoppable bleeding which they considered to be "just one of those things." I knew I had to get a second opinion but every new doctors' office I called had a 3 or 4 month wait for new patients. Eventually, through a fantastic series of coincidences, was able to get an appointment in a difference practice, affiliated with a completely different hospital, and he was able to find the problem within 15 minutes. I had surgery last month, and hopefully within the next month or two we will be cleared to start trying again.

I think the point I want to make is that you should seek a second opinion. Perhaps a fertility specialist is the way ot go, or maybe even just another obstetrician would have more experience or a different point of view on your situation. You know yourself and what your body is telling you; trust that and do what you feel is right! Find someone who will take a different look at your situation, run some tests, figure out what is going on before you have to go through the physical and emotional pain again.

I wish you the best!
K.

Conee,
My girlfriend and her twin sister have had like 12 miscarraiges between the two of them. Getting pregnant was not the problem, but sustaining the pregnancy was. They have both been through so much, but from what I can remember, they had to give themselves shot everyday. I can't remember what it was, but it was something to create more of a certain hormone or something. They had to track their cycles very accurately and then the doctor told them which days they should try to conceive. They also had some procedure done, like a D& C, to make sure they were "cleaned out" and there were no cysts or anything like that. After all of this, the one sister has now had twins, and the other is still trying. I hope this helps and I wish you lots of luck. Just keep on loving the little cutie you have now and thank God for her.

Hi C.! I am so sorry for all of your losses. I know how very difficult they are to go through and nothing seems to make it any easier. Just give your little darling extra hugs and kisses and thank God every day you have her. I too have lost several babies. I had 3 miscarriages and found out I had a problem with my blood clotting when I was pregnant and not enough blood was getting to the baby so my fertility dr. put me on baby aspirin. I now have a beautiful 2 1/2 yr. old little boy. I got pregnant again with a frozen embryo transfer and that one sadly died at 11 wks. One week there was a heartbeat, the next nothing. I will go in for some tests because my dr. thinks that now the baby aspirin may not be enough and my problem has gotten worse and I may need shots of heparin throughout the pregnancy. Since I do not conceive naturally, I am also on a lot of hormone injections for the first 12 wks. of the pregnancy. Maybe your hormone levels drop off while you are pregnant? Has your dr. talked to you about that? If not, looking into the Antiphosphilipid antibody thing would be worth a try. (That is what I mentioned I have that I need the blood thinner for) If you need the name of a GREAT, caring dr. let me know.
Good luck,
T.

I would have your thyroid and insulin checked, and do some research about hypothyroidism and PCOS to see if either or both of those ring true to you. Both are tied to early losses, and both are sadly underdiagnosed and undertreated, when simple medication could make your quality of life better in many ways. I took Armour thyroid and Metformin to conceive and carry my daughter, after one early loss. Best of luck and babydust to you, mama!

I'm so sorry about your losses. That must be devastating. Like you mentioned, it doesn't sound like you are having problems getting pregnant. I guess I don't know if the losses are a fertility issue or an ob issue. They'd know best I'm sure. I do know hormone levels can be a contributing factor to miscarriages. Maybe your ob can do tests to check what's happening there. You mentioned your brother-in-law's wife also going through several miscarriages and you not having a history of them. If your body realizes that the baby has serious health issues as a result of chromosomal problems, your body may end the pregnancy. Many chromosomal problems run in families so perhaps your husband and his brother carry a similar chromosomal problem which has been leading to the miscarriages. You might talk to you ob about the fact that his brother's wife has also suffered multiple ones and that you wonder if there could be a connection. Maybe it will help give a direction to start looking and testing. Good Luck

Hi C.,

I had two misscarriages last year. Well, one eptopic pregnancy and a misscarriage. I have two beautiful daughters...both grown, one is 20 and the other is 18. I had a son who passed away when he was only 17 and a half months and I have always wanted another child since. I now have a cheerful little 1 year old grandson (I can not believe I am a grandmother!). I was divorced from my daughters father and remarried to a wonderful man who has never had children of his own but has always wanted them. When we tried the first time it took me awhile to get pregnant but when I did, I found out I had a pallop (sorry about the spelling). Well, long story short, after only a month of pregnancy, we lost that baby due to the eptopic pregnancy. We got pregnant again in September only to misscarry after a month with that one. When I was in the emergency room they found out I had diabetes...which I am sure (and they confirmed) is a good possibility for the cause of this misscarriage. I didn't even know I had diabetes up to that point! and it was REALLY high. Now I am too old and on medications which will not allow me to carry a baby full term.

I guess I am writing more to just let you know I know how it feels to want a baby with a man that you love so very much and everything seems to keep going wrong. I am truly sorry for all your losses and I hope you hold on to the strength and hopes that someday you may find out the cause of all of this. As hard as it sounds, try not to stress about it. That sounds silly and possibly even mean, but the stress is not going to help you. In the meantime (as I sure you are) enjoy your 5 yo daughter and wonderful husband.

If you would like to just talk further or just vent, message me and I will send you my screen name and we can chat via that way.

Wishing you the best and most happiness,
B.

I too am so sorry for your loss, but I can offer a little advice as a nurse.
There is a reason that it is so hard to get malpractice insurance if you are an OB doctor. For many years, they were largely unregulated because of the thought that people having babies is a natural thing and basically all the doctor had to do was watch or guide the birth and make sure that mom didn't bleed to death.
Today, there is a very different view in medicine. Unfortunately, there are alot of old school Ob's out there that tell their patientes things like you have been told.
Please see an OB at a university type hospital. If you're in Pittsburgh like me, go to Magee Women's or West Penn both have fertility clinics and genetics labs. Remember doctors are only as good as their experience if they never treated high risk patients they don't have the knowledge to give you advice as a high risk patient. Which you definitely are.
Good luck and I hope this helps.

hi C., i definitely think you should see a fertility specialist. you and your husband both. they will do tests with you and your husband and find out what's wrong. obviously something is very wrong if you're losing your babies. one miscarriage ok not a cause for an alarm but so many? i would stop talking to your doctor. obviously he/she isn't doing the job properly.
too many miscarriages could lead to other problems. you're young and you have time and have been married for a year. for now i'd suggest protected sex until you figure out the problem.
all the best
vlora

This may sound awful, but I heard that doctors usually do some testing on the fetus after a woman has a DC&E, to find out why the baby died. I'm no doctor, but since you had no trouble conceiving once before, your fertility may not be the problem. Did you (and your husband) have any genetic testing before TTC? As someone else wrote, it could be a genetic abnormality of some sort, and thats why the baby is not surviving. If that was the case, and the doctors knew what the issue was, then maybe they could monitor you better. I'm surprised they havent taken that route yet, 3 miscarriages is TOO MUCH for any woman to have to go through.
Good Luck!

First off I think you need to find a different dr!! Fertility problems aren't just related to conceiving!! That's a crock!!
I have troubles both conceiving and then if I do, trouble hanging onto the baby. I was given a particular medication to make sure my uterus was both thick enough and the right "stickiness"! Ok I know that's not an actual thing, but... That's the way it was explained to me by the specialist!! If I were you I would seriously consider looking into a specialist and everything yourself, then if your ins. requires referals take all the info you gathered yourself and just tell your dr to just write it out and he won't have to do any other work!! I found out in my process that most regular doctors just don't want to do the work to figure something like this out!

I am sorry that you are going through this, it must be really h*** o* you and your husband.

I have a friend that went through a similar problem. Her doctor didn't feel it was a fertility problem either because she could get pregnant. After her fourth miscarriage, she did her own research and requested that the doctor do some blood work. They ended up putting her on progesterone supplements and she got pregnant. She is due in six weeks. I am not trying to suggest that this is what is happening with you, I am only saying that perhaps your doctor could do some tests to make sure there are not any problems that he is missing.

I hope you can find the answers you are looking for and that things work out for you. Please let us know how things are going.
Barbara