How About Using a Little Tact?!

It is a sad day when the post about tattoos gets 10 times as many responses as a post about illness or real problems. I am not trying to demean the mom who made the post or any of the moms who responded but I think it is disgusting how so many moms were so quick to criticize and/or support that mom but a mom who posts somthing about a serious time in her life or her childs' life gets no response at all.

I appreciate that you Jessica created this posting. I think maybe we all should take a minute and realize what real support and real community means.

It is a fact that women tend to gossip and be catty and yesterday's post sadly is written proof that so many on here wanted to get in on that post but ignore so many others about real issues.

i sooo agree w/ you!!

Thanks to you!!! We have so many other "serious" posts on here that get 2-3 responses and this one got almost 200! Im guilty, I responded too but not in the negative. (I have tattoos and disagree with the moms issue, but she is entitled to her concerns) I agree that everyone has their opinion, but if all you have to say is rude and offending things I suggest keeping them to yourself. We want support here, not to be judged and ridiculed by others. We need to stick together moms! We will all need each others help at one point.

I'm so glad you posted this. You worded it well, and others added to it very well also. Common courtesy and respect for one another is important, even when (especially when) we disagree. Thank you!

I agree Jessica. I was amazed at the posts but there have been others that received similar attacking responses. Not many, but a few. I got a harsh response on a question I asked once and it really hurt my feelings. I try to stay "objective" and stay positive in my response to others as I want the same for me. I love this site but since then, I pick and choose what questions I submit.

I didn't respond to the tatoo post but have kept up with the responses. I even talked about it with my husband and we just couldn't believe some of the responses I read. I generally try to think "what would I do if in that situation". I don't think everyone does that.

Thanks for the post.

I agree. Thanks for the reminder to be kind.

Great response! Helping one another in love should be everyones goal on or off mommasource. It would be sad to hinder anyone from seeking help due to fear of the crude responses they may receive. Mommasource is here to be of help not to hurt. Thanks again for your posting!

Cuddos to you for standing up and saying something about the responses. I read the post yesterday but chose not to reply. When i saw your post today I went to my deleted folder to pull up yesterdays and i just sat and read every single post! I am amazed and disgusted at what some people said. I know we are entitled to voice our opinions, but I thought twice before clicking the "report this as inappropriate" link. This site is NOT for personal attacks and I see more and more of them on here. I have been personally attacked over a car seat post because I said I put my son in a forward facing a month early and a cuple of pounds shy of the limit. I understand we can express opinions here, but the personal attacks have got to stop and that is what I think is ridiculous!!!

Some of you who posted without really thinking first, need to really think about what you said and ask yourself if you would like to be called and idiot or a bigot in response to one of your posts? I wouldn't think so.

BTW...I don't have any tattoos, I would consider getting one if it was the right one and the right time in my life to get one, I think they are OK, but I think when people are covered head to toe in them is completely disgusting!!!!

I think now I am switching to nesting.com becasue obviouslly the people at mamasource did not screen some of these answers like they did a couple of my questions about selling baby items and would NOT let my question be posted.

K.

I read and responded to that post. I was dissapointed in the way some folks responded also. One post I found quite offensive and reported it so. I hope that the mommy in the original post will continue to seek advice here.

I can say that this was the first post where I read any nasty responses.

I agree. I was shocked at some of the wording of the advice you received in what I thought was a very well worded question on your part. It makes me question using this site.

Thank you so much for this! I recently asked a question regarding my dogs biting my daughter and instead of offering up helpful advice several mothers responded with harsh words and criticism. We are not here to judge each other, we are here to help each other. No mother is perfect, we all make parenting mistakes and we all need help but not negativity.