He Just Wont Stop!!!

Reply with the words 'Stop texting me. I don't want to have any contact with you.' If he calls and you answer hang right up. Note the number and let it roll to voice mail after that. Save all the voice mails. If he continues go to the police and give them the entire history of this relationship letting them know you are in fear of this person doing something to injury you and your children. They'll probably tell you to get a restraining order and you should.

I know you want to set his straight on the lies he is spewing but don't. He's not in his normal brain with normal thoughts. The drugs has removed the ability to think so nothing you can say is going to make him realize he's being a jerk. Just continue to focus on yourself and your children. Don't give him any of your time and attention. Not worth it.

Good for you taking the advice here, bettering yourself, and being a good mother to your girls. Do not let him get to you! Keep a record of his calls or texts, go to the police to get a restraining order.

Do not respond. Seek support for yourself from a domestic violence agency. There is no reason for you to defend yourself from him. You know he is wrong!

it sounds as if you already know the answer. you'd think that your experience with him would have taught you emphatically that engaging with him is exactly what he wants, and will immediately burst into a conflagration.

is that what you want?

is it worth it to expose your girls to that?

do you think that 'arguing and defending yourself' will actually change his mind?

i'm concerned that his opinion of you still holds such sway over your emotions. that after all this time- two years!- you are still hurt and provoked by his words that were hurled at you precisely to hurt and provoke you.

for your own sake and the sake of your kids i hope you get some help in learning how to stop allowing manipulators to manipulate you. this is a terrible example to set for your girls.

demonstrate for them instead how to be strong, confident and utterly un-fazed by a$$holes.

khairete
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I suggest that you talk with a counselor to learn why you want to defend yourself. Why does it matter that he says you're a bad mother?

Someone suggested you buy a gun. Do NOT buy a gun! Because you have no experience with a gun having one is very dangerous. Training is not enough to keep you and your daughters safe. If you're considering buying a gun, talk with the police first.

1) Do not reply.

2) Do not let him hurt you with his stupid, uninformed comments. You don't have to make him like you or respect you. Do not "defend" yourself - he's not worth the effort and he won't change his mind. You do not have to go to every fight you're invited to. And you don't engage like this with an angry and aggressive man! It can make him escalate into violent behavior! He's volatile. You don't need to be. You must control yourself on behalf o fyour children.

3) Keep a record of every text and email. If he calls, don't answer. If he leaves a message, write down the date, time, and the exact message (save the recording if you can).

4) Take this info to the police and ask about a restraining order. If your ex displayed aggressive behavior in front of the judge or court officers, there will be a record of this. And it's good to let them know that he's back and making menacing moves. This has nothing to do with you proving you are a good mother. You have to rise above that, stop being defensive, and take action with a cool head, which will prove that you are the sensible one. Stay calm about your abilities but do show the accurate level of fear you have of his anger.

5) Call the National Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE. They have fabulous counselors available 24/7. They are knowledgeable about resources in your area and will give you both advice and specific phone numbers to get help immediately. Please call today.

No. Don't reply. Why start up drama on your end? Don't get involved. Keep a record and get a restraining order.

Ignore him, he is just trying to taunt you because he wants your attention. I would contact your lawyer and ask for advice about custody, and in addition, I would present his threatening messages to the police for them to deal with him. Getting a restraining order might be helpful. Yes, you can get a restraining order for harassment through texts, it does not even need to be a threatening text, but the fact you have threatening texts will definitely bring more urgency to the issue and assist you in getting a restraining order, prohibiting him from contacting you further.

get a restraining order against him. Get a gun to protect yourself and learn how to use it.
record his phone calls. record his actions if you can so people can see and hear the threats.

Don't respond to him when he's being verbally abusive. You can tell him you're sorry he feels that way. Your best bet is not to respond. He wants to push your buttons and make you react. Don't fall for it.

Good luck!

You need to do 'Rockylike' and get out there, run, punch into the air and perhaps go home and punch a few pillows to get out your own need to respond. You are clearly being prompted to get angry and it is working. I know exactly how it feels, and you want to fight back-to prove you are the best mom! Well, clearly you are to your daughters - you are the best and they need you. So do not absolutely do not contact him. Even a little peep. That is what will cause him to respond back and the cycle continues. Your daughters don't need this. They need their mom and we know there are a few moms who have lost life and limb for even simply trying to be nice when they are contacted.

If it’s been two years why does he have your information? How has he contacted you? Change your email, block on Facebook and move on. I’m not sure why you want to respond so badly. He’s obviously a looser don’t waste your time or energy. Ps if your working on your bachelors work on spelling ;)