Grandson Not Listening

His hearing may be OK but he may not be processing what he hears. In other words, the sounds go in his ears but his brain doesn't know what to do with it. Especially since he had hearing problems in the past, his development may be behind in this area. I'd talk to his doctor or get a referral from the school district for a therapist to help him catch up before he starts kindergarten next year.

This falls in the normal range. He is just so involved in other things he wants to do, he blocks every thing out. Remember this will be a GOOD skill when it comes to studying or working..

I suggest you call his name, then wait for him to either answer you or look at you. Then tell him whatever. Then ask him "what did I say?" or "What did I just ask you?"

Another thing is to give him a heads up about what will be happening next. Playing a video game? Let him know he has 10 more minutes, then he needs to stop and get ready to go to the store. It can be hard to stop on a dime, when you are involved in something.

"When dad gets home, you need to stop what you are doing and wash your hands for dinner." Then ask him, what did I just say?

The other thing "I do not like yelling across a house. It teaches kids to yell across the house. I always walked towards our daughters room and called for her. Same with our daughter.. I never answered yelling from all the way across the house. I wanted to be able to hear clearly what was being said.
Of course she knew if she was mortally wounded or extremely ill, that was an emergency.

Outside, I would call for our daughter (using her name) and she was to either walk over or at least look at us letting us know that she heard us.. then she was given a moment to stop what she was doing and come over.

My son had mutiple ear infections unitl he was 4. He too has "perfect" hearing. BUT----That does not mean he hears me. He does not have certain human sounds.
In a noisy room he can get completely confused. He cannot differentiate sounds.
I have to turn off the tv, radio, Wii, and say P I need you to clean off the table, feed the dogs, whatever.
I cannot talk to him while he is in the back seat, we have to turn around and speak directly to him.
He will routinely hold his ears when there is too much input, noise, etc.
He gets confused easily, I will explain something to him, (we homeschool) and he will just give me the "deer in the headlights" look. He has no idea what I am saying.
It's very frustrating. Sometimes he doesn't respond unitl I am literally yelling at him.
Your grandson may not be processing the sounds he does hear correctly.
Look directly at him and have him repeat what he is to do in his own words.
Be consistent with discipline.
Work on listening skills at home. Speak quietly in a quiet room, have him answer in a quiet way. Get him used to responding to you then gradually increase the noise level. TUrn on a classical radio station, the tv on real low, a quiet restaurant.
When he is on the field have a signal that he is to come to you or coach always if it is raised, an orange or yellow flag.
With practice he will start to understand how to read your face and to pay attention to you.
Good luck.

Well, it's a tricky age for testing boundries anyway, right?

Still, at any age, kids respond more readily to body language, tone of voice, and facial expressions more than words alone. Eye contact helps as well.

And like someone else said, it's helpful to ask him to repeat what you just said. Not just 'do you understand', but, 'did you hear what I said?' If no, say it again, and ask him again if he heard what you said. If yes, say 'tell me what I just said'.

Just keep up the expectation. When is doesn't acknowledge you, get down on his level, look him in the eye, repeat what you need to and make him repeat it back. Do this consistantly, and he will respond. He doesn't always listen because he knows he doesn't have to. He doesn't need to be punished or scolded. Just let him know that it's expected and that if he doesn't do it, you will stop everything else to get down on his level and force the issue. He'll catch on!

Try checking out this book, "Beyond Time Out" by Beth Grosshans: http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Time-Out-Beth-Grosshans-Ph-D... Basically the premise of the book is you ask a child to do something twice, if they don't do what you ask then they get to spend some time in their room. I would bet after spending some time in his room, he'll change.

Also, if I suspect my daughter isn't listening when I ask her to do something or tell her something, I always say, "Did you hear what Mommy said?" She usually says yes. So, he may be hearing you but using " not hearing" as an excuse if he thinks it will keep him from getting in trouble. So, I'd also try asking him if he's heard what you said.

Ask him.
We use YokaReeder.com- if you need help.
But don't talk AT him, talk with him.
best, k

When they get busy with something they tend to tune out everything else. When my son was that age I had to get his attention first, then ask him my question, then ask him to repeat what he thought I just asked him.
If I didn't do that then he didn't hear me.
It also cleared up any problems with hearing me but not understanding what I asked him to do. Sometimes I had to ask my question in a different way so he had a better idea of what I wanted.

You got good advice but just wanted to add that if you haven't, first would ask the parents what they think about it.
I am saying this because while mom is for most of it trusted to help us educate our kids, my SIL is not unless they are in a dangerous situation and we got into a conflict with her at one point.
It sounds that you're very involve in your grand kid life and this would not be a problem but if not something to considerate.
I also would want to all be in the same boat on how to approach his behavior and be very constant.
Whatever approach you want to try, it has to be constant and the reprecurcions right away.
I also agree that asking him to repeat what you say is a good idea, I always make my daughter to answer even with an "ok" when I say something because not only I want to make sure she listen but also I don't want the excuse of I didn't hear you.

There is a BIG difference between hearing and auditory processing. Find an audiologist to do an APD and also bring him to an occupational therapist to test for Sensory Processing Disorder. These children cannot prioritize which sense they should be using and when they should use it. Intervention gets them using all their senses together so they can get organized.