Feeling Depressed Lately

If you are looking for trouble you will eventually find what you are looking for. Either you trust him or you don't. If you trust him cultivate your relationship with him while working on your self confidence. If you don't trust him, figure out if your lack of trust is from him or if it is in you. Lack of trust is only 1 of the death rings for a relationship.

I don't think this really has to do with your being hormonal but more to do with how you are thinking. Master your thought life. Especially if there are no grounds to believe he has been unfaithful. In other words Get a grip.

My mother taught me that you really don't want to be with someone others reject. She also went on to teach that the man is with you because he chooses to be with you and that matters. It really does have more weight and gives you the upper hand no matter who may come creeping out of the past. Also have convidence in knowing the kind of man you are with.

I guess the questions would be: why didn't he dump them? Why were they still on the computer? & why hasn't he "junk mail" 'd her emails?

After thinking on these questions, yes....I would be upset, depressed, &/or furious.

Are you married? In a fully-committed relationship? Boyfriend/girlfriend? What do you have holding you together? Is that where this insecurity is stemming?

What can you do together to address these issues & concerns? How can you work together to recreate Peace within your life? Time for teamwork to make it thru these issues.....Peace to you!

Sue H. hit the nail the head. WHY DID HE KEEP THEM!!!!!!!

I can understand feeling as if the pins had been knocked out from under you. I think the timing of the girlfriends getting in touch really is awful, and you might want to talk with him about how you would prefer he handle it - perhaps a form letter response saying I'm married, have a 6 year old, and my wife and I are expecting our second; glad to hear you are well, good luck on your life's journey. I also think that it would be reasonable to ask your husband to delete those emails with the nude pictures.

More importantly, I would also like to suggest, because the hormones ARE raging, that you consider finding someone to talk to about feeling depressed. There IS such a thing as pre-partum depression, and it can become magnified after delivery causing significant depressive symptoms. You might want to speak with your OB office and see if they can recommend someone. Good luck

Okay, I don't think it's related to pregnancy hormones. I think any woman who found stuff like that on his computer would be upset. How did she get his email? If he is on facebook, ask him to make his page private. I don't see a problem with that. Ex's are from the past and some things/people should stay in the past. My marriage was destroyed by ex's getting in touch. It started as a "Hey how are ya" to him meeting up with them cheating etc. So I may be a little biased. Although they even had a news segment awhile back about how many marriages are being destroyed by facebook and people reconnecting with ex's. I don't think people just randomly send pics like that if the conversation never made it seem like he may be interested in more, but that's just me. Just let him know how it makes you feel and that you prefer that he not speak with an ex. I have male friends on FB, who were never more than friends, and their spouses, or GF sent me requests also. I think it was a rule between them. I accepted them as I have nothing to hide. Maybe you guys can agree to something like that. As for the one who sent nude pics, he should tell her to leave him alone. I question why he saved the emails? Why didn't he block her from sending him messages. I have aol and I can do that, so I'm sure yahoo, gmail etc allow the same. Good Luck mama!