Do All Birthdays Suck?

All of my anniversaries suck. It's actually become a family joke now. I agree with the other posters. Tell hubby exactly what you want, and have a do-over.

Also, sometimes I get in a funk if I haven't had a good cry in a while. I don't cry hardly at all, so sometimes I need that emotional release. Put on a good sappy movie, and cry away. You'll feel better, I promise! =)

Tomorrow will be better. Good luck!

Do a do-over next weekend :)

Happy Birthday! Sometimes other people don't do what we think they should do on our special day!! Sounds like the in-laws may have intruded in the day you had planned.

Make up for it tomorrow by going shopping by yourself and doing something to cheer you up!!!

I agree with Cheryl O. It takes some work to get there, but the first thing is to realize you are unlikely to get what you want unless you flat out say what that is.

Tell your husband you would like a "Do-over" after his folks leave. Then outline what you want from the day. Start enjoying making a plan and Tell your husband you will do the same for him on his birthday....... and don't balk if he says he wants to go to a sports bar with his buddies!

I know you don't feel like going to the movies right now, but make yourself. You'll feel better after a couple hours away from company. Have a "do over" of your birthday after they leave.

You know, you are the third person this week that has said pretty much this on here. I was one of the others. I don't know what I expected. I don't usually expect anything and I'm not usually disappointed LOL. I think you should take some time after they leave and do something nice for yourself. :)

Happy Birthday!!!! My birthday was yesterday, and this was the FIRST year I actually enjoyed it... why?? Because, instead of looking at how old I feel now, I looked at ALL I have accomplished & everything I love about my life!! What a turn around from previous years. Try and look on things with that perspective. Also, the people around you that love you want to celebrate with you today. Tell your husband what you REALLY want is some time to yourself next weekend as your gift. That way, your family celebrate's with you & you get some quiet time too. Win/win!! ENJOY your day!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

If you don't tell people your expectations, they can't be met.

I know what you mean though, when I did not tell my husband what I expected for my birthday - i was totally disappointed. For my husband, birthday's are just another day - for me? It's a national holiday!! LOL!!! I expected to be treated special...sleep in, breakfast, special dinner, etc. I would go to bed depressed because it was just another day...

So now 14years later - yes, 14 years of marriage - my husband FINALLY got it right! I got to sleep in, Edible Arrangements, a present, a beautiful card and a dinner made special for me by my men - I felt loved, cherished and valued!!! bottom line - special....

So please go to him and tell him - today was ABOUT ME!!! I want X Y AND Z...tell him so that he KNOWS!! next year - about a week before your birthday - tell him - My birthday is next week. I have these expectations. Most men will listen!!

GOOD LUCK AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!

Leah, plan to have a good time. don't wait for others. for my 30th, I actually threw my own party.. :) ok sounds odd, but I did it and had a blast. .why not celebrate you....... once you do, others will join in.. sometimes people aren't clear on what is fun to you unless you spell out EVERY last detail.... sorry, it's just the way it goes.... plan to have some fun and you will.. what do you like to do? how about you all go out to a nice dinner, inlaws and all... have some friends join in.. if not that, a nice massage? a girl's day out...
decide you are going to have a fun day, selfish or not and just do it... hey, this is the last of your 20s... make it a good one! in fact, make it a GREAT year... celebrate now, celebrate you...

First of all, Happy Birthday! I've been there and know how much of a bummer it is when your birthday is an afterthought. One year, my husband completely forgot. He came home from work asking what I was making for dinner! This was after a day of work, pick up the kids, dealing with homework, etc. He got a clue when I said, "I am not cooking on my birthday." But then, it was just a mumbled "Happy Birthday" and that was it. When I was annoyed, he got angry at ME for being annoyed and "so sensitive" about my birthday! Sheesh. To this day, I'm PO'd at the whole thing.

Next year, I'd plan a special day for yourself. Plan a getaway with a friend and make your day the way you want it.

Sorry your birthday didn't go the way you wanted. I always used to get that feeling about birthdays/ holidays. I always envisioned things going differently then they never turned out the way I wanted. Make sure you get to do at least one fun thing for you! You should definitely have a dO over next weekend and plan it to be what you want! Happy birthday & hope you end up doing something fun to celebrate!

Eh....
Happy Birthday!
Sometimes birthdays are just another day in paradise, know what I mean?
Sometimes spur of the moment things are better than "real" plans, anyway.

I agree with Abbie...make yourself go out and take time for yourself. I also second the idea of having a "do over" birthday...I've had loads of those ; )

It's hard to really relax when you have people staying with you, even if you really love them...

Twenty-nine is a difficult age - we tend to doubt everything - did I marry the right person, why did I have kids, should I have done something different with my life? It's sort of the woman's midlife crisis (I got this from Dennis Prager, my favorite radio talk show host).

I would encourage you to do things that help you to appreciate the life that you have right now. Think about the things that you and your husband did when you were dating and the reasons that you married him. Think about special things that you can do for your kids that would encourage and make them happy (not buying things - maybe just taking time to play a game with them or write them a note to stick in their lunch). Don't get too wrapped up in your feelings - you have to fight them if you're going to be happy because your feelings will almost always make you feel sorry for yourself. I find that when I stop thinking about myself and start thinking about others it ends up making me happier in the long run.

Happy birthday! I hope the rest of the week goes better for you!

I say that you should figure out a day where you can have your husband care for the kids, and it will be a day where you can relax by just hanging with some friend or family at a spa. You could also just chill at your house. Let the hubby take the kids out for some fun.

My did, It was this past Saturday and it was Ok, nothing great or celebratory----just another day and another year older.

Look up, say thanks and then go do something that makes you feel good for the moment and that a brings a smile onto your face!

PS. HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!!!!

2 words- RETAIL THERAPY!!!! It does wonders, (I always print off some good coupons first, so I don't have to feel soo guilty) Go spoil yourself girl~ and cheer up! Some people don't get to see their 29th birthday--
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! :)