i have 8 and 9 year old girls who fight constantly(i am not joking about the constantly)i have 3 tvs all with cable and we fight over one...this goes on from the time they get up till they fall asleep. it is driving me nuts...i try to get them to spend as much time away from each other as possible.seperate activities etc...but as soon as they are together its instant fights...any ideas??
If the television is the issue, I say take it away from them until they learn how to behave and share. I am sure this can't be your only issue, but I am the mother of a 2 year old and not quite at that stage yet..lol. Just thought I might try to help on the TV thing..GL!
They are sisters, sisters fight. I think that you should set up a system where on sister gets the good t.v. for one show and then they switch. Also who is the adult? If it get so bad then take the t.v. away and make them read or go outside and play. Make sure these girls know how importantit is to have a sister, because when you and your husband are gone, all they will have is each other, so teach them to rely on each other and remind them how lucky they are to have siblings. My son had to wait ten years to finally have a brother! : ) Good luck!
Hi K.,
My mother has 6 children 4 girls and 2 boys. Of course we are all grown up now but us girls fought something fierce. My mother instead of keeping us apart would make us hug eachother for like 10 minutes straight telling eachother we loved eachother. This is somewhat like standing in the corner or a time out. Sounds kind of silly but it works. The next time they start to fight they'll remember having to spend all that quality time together! :) Now that we are grown we love spending time together. Hope this helps.
Unplug the main TV and send them to separate rooms
It's time to take both girls to fun activities outside of the home. For example, the nail salon (getting matching nail polish and toe designs), the movies together, grocery shopping, library, beauty salon, etc....Sounds alittle crazy to reward them right? Wrong, what you are doing is re-directing that behavior instead of spending way too much time focusing on it. They fight because each of them get on each others nerves (how dare them): LOL "Train" them to like eachother and encourage them to do so without saying so, and without focusing on their "bad" behaviors toward eachother. Bake Cookies together, paint, etc... I am a Very Big fan of re-directing childrens behaviors. We as Parents should have already figured out that in order for our children's behaviors to change, WE have to CHANGE ours...Good Luck. I'm sure you'll come up with some other ideas as well. As for the TV, Turn on a program, encourage both of them to watch it with YOU, (not eachother), pop some popcorn, make some snacks and sit in the middle of them and keep reminding them how much fun it is for both of them to watch TV with Mommie...How's that for RE-DIRECTION??
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