And So I Did

Maybe you can tell her you saw her post about weeding out people and decided to do the same, as you have too many FB friends to keep track of and rarely correspond with them anyway. This way, she is aware you saw her post and it may make her feel better. Then I would do an "ignore" on her. Don't even wait for a reply from her. You've done the good thing by explaining that you're cleaning house, that's all that's needed, in my opinion.

Too many people confuse fb with real life.
I have numerous "friends" on fb that I have never met and most likely never will.
I don't expect everyone who truly cares about me to comment or like everything I post. I put it out there, and IF someone likes or comments on it, great, I made someone smile.If not, so what?
I have some friends who are real life friends, and who have a great deal of drama in their lives, mostly not of their own making. They vent about it on fb, and I post sympathetic comments when I can.
When I just can't deal with other people's stuff, I ignore it.
If you really want nothing to do with her, don't refriend her, don't offer explanations (you don't owe her any); just ignore her, and she will go away.

You took the step to unfriend her. If you feel inclined, you can tell her why you unfriended her, but people who make stupid announcements need to be aware of the consequences. If you really don't care to keep the friendship, then just ignore it.

Sounds like she's using FB as a way to validate herself - measuring her worth by who comments and how often. So she really didn't want to cut down on friends, she just wanted to get people to pay more attention to her.

You can either ignore the message/friend request (easiest) or you can reply and say "You said you wanted to cut down on FB friends and since I don't have time to comment on every single post by every single person I know, I'm not a good candidate for you. Your post telling me to "stop pretending" was one that I took seriously. You were extremely direct about it, and I took you at your word. You can't have it both ways." But this will result in a long-winded reply from her, perhaps with demands and insults, and it's up to you if you want to engage in that. The problem would be if she badmouths you to people you DO want to be in touch with.

Neither of you are the people you were when you were 8 yrs old.
That time is past and over - time to move on.
You're doing exactly as she initially instructed - stick with it.
She was probably shocked at how many people dropped off her list.
Life is too short for dealing with drama queens.
Get off and remain off that merry go round.
Ignore, block and walk away.

Whatever you feel like doing. It doesn't really matter either way, it sounds like. Apparently you weren't one of the "fake posers" she was referring to.

It depends on how many peripheral people you like having on FB, ultimately. If you refriend her, you could just say, "I thought I might be one of those fake posers you were referring to." At which point she will say, Oh, I didn't mean you.

I did this with my cousin, her FB is so full of BS & Drama and "why can't I take a vacation to the beach" and "woe is me, I cant afford to buy my kids XYZ". SO......to spare her feelings, I didn't unfriend her like I wanted, But I did block her. Every so often I will go to her page and "like" a few pictures.
You just have to decide, do you care about her feelings? If you do, Friend and Block.
If you don't Ignore and Block the request, I think you can even block all future requests

I'm on Facebook and when people put up posts like your friend did, there is no need for me to unfriend them or anything. I don't take FB that serious and I certainly don't entertain the drama that many people do.

I have seen some interesting dramatical posts like your friends and worse but I just ignore them all and look for the positive ones. Again it's not that big of a deal.

You got sucked in when you defriended her and since you did just let sleeping dogs lie. You felt some kind of way from her post but she wasn't even targeting you.

FB = Full Bull LOL

I think just ignoring people is rude and immature. If you don't want her in your feed any longer then simply explain that while you were once close, you have grown into very different people and you think it is time to let the friendship end. If she tries to cause drama over it then block her.

Honesty is the best policy.

And ANOTHER reason why I don't have facebook!!!

Tell her the truth. I've been working through this with my 15 year old son and his facebook account. Tell the truth. If you can't handle the drama, tell the person and walk away.

The drama on here is enough for many people. I can't imagine the drama on facebook, I see it in my son's account and roll my eyes. Tyler laughs at some of the stuff too. He keeps in touch with a lot of his military buddies via facebook. I look, that's it.

Take her invitation and RUN! Drop off the face of her dramatic earth!

I only have a handful of people blocked...the people who are so into drama, and I don't want to think about them - but like I said, I think it's 4 total.

I have a friend from 6th grade who is like your friend. We don't agree on anything (she is a mom but her parents raise her son whereas I am a very involved parent, she is on one side of the political spectrum (extreme) and I am the other - but she posts all day, I don't post hardly anything political, she was a Christian and is now an atheist who tells everoyne God is evil, etc). I unfriended her after she was rude to my mom and my brother...two years later she requested me again. I accepted, but ended up hiding her from my news feed. She pops up on my posts sometimes, but nothing more than that.

Your friend sounds immature.

I am on FB all of the time. I have blocked very few people, but mostly I just hide them.

I have one guy on my page that never says anything positive.I even mentioned it to our daughter.

During one of the elections he was beginning to sound kind of scary. I sent him a message and asked him if he was ok? I also pointed out that I had NEVER seen a positive post on his page. He wrote back that he was sorry, he had not realized it, That over all he was happy. So now he still piles on the doom and gloom and how the whole country is going to hell, but he also posts music, some of it even tolerable. Ha!

When someone wants to friend me. I warn them when we become friends that I post a Lot! So to please hide me and if they need me or want to tell me something they can message me or post on my page.

I have a lot of people tell me they like my post and read them all of the time, but they feel bad because they do not comment or hit "like" I told them I do not keep up with who likes anything and if anyone posts that is great, but I in no way keep up with all of that part of the page. And I certainly do not take it personally.

Ignore and move on. When people post that they want to get rid of their fake friends, I let them decide if they want to unfriend me. If our friendship is based on how many of their posts I like, I have a different definition of how many that takes to be a real friend.

I would message her back with something like: I read your recent post and agreed that it was a good time to pare down MY list of FB friends. I'm only keeping those with whom I have a real friendship. Best of luck to you.

Done.

I would just ignore the message and decline the invite and be done with it. But that's me. If she messages again, block her.

Tell her you're basically tired of FB drama and you're now using it to keep in touch with family.
Then BLOCK her!

I'd ignore it totally. For heavens sake. You did what she asked.

If she writes you a private message asking if you unfriended her and you REALLY think you HAVE to answer, then just private message her back saying that she put a request on her facebook asking people who don't comment on her posts to drop her. You did what she asked. And then leave it at that.

Don't refriend her.

I have unfriended people with whom I had nothing in common, and where I felt it would be better to have the sort of friendship where I wasn't privy to their innermost thoughts and feelings. Only one or two have ever even noticed/commented, and in those cases, I simply let them know why I had unfriended them. In most cases, it's not that I wouldn't sit down and have coffee or lunch with the person, it's more that the kinds of things they posted made me sad, or angry, or just did not serve to put me in a positive frame of mind. The things people post on Facebook are not always the kinds of things you would talk about if you had lunch with someone, right? Religion, politics, rants about people I don't know who annoy them in real life. No thanks.

If I were you, I'd just message back and say why. I would just keep it non-emotional. Something like, "Mary, it's good to hear from you. From time to time, I go through my friends list and remove anyone with whom I haven't had any real-life contact in a while, and who hasn't seemed to comment on any of my posts. I hope you're doing well and enjoying living in Chicago." And just leave it at that.

re-friend and block.
life's too short.
or if you're REALLY done and want her to know it leave her unfriended and block her. might be risking teh dramaz, though.
khairete
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This one is easy. Reply, "You posted on my wall telling me to unfriend you."

Her reply to that (apologetic, playful, hostile, etc) will let you know whether or not you should refriend or just block.

That kind of post is likely one of those stupid things people cut & paste all the time. Anything that mentions "My real friends will..." or "Only people that care..." are usually brainless shares from something they read. I just scroll past them.

Don't accept the friend request. Her posts annoyed you and you blocked them. Why put her back?

If you want to send her a message, say you saw her post and realized you hadn't commented in awhile, so you were helping her pare down her list as requested.