My Ex Boyfriend Send Me a Facebook Friend Request I Accepted and Now His Wife

Updated on February 06, 2017
A.C. asks from Herndon, VA
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replies to my comments like for example his birthday greeting I sent 2 days ago so should I continue being Friends on Facebook or should I delete him I am not interested in him I just care for him a friendly way she thinks I want him back

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S.T.

answers from Washington DC on

why do you think she thinks you want him back?
if you comment on his FB page, why shouldn't she reply?
i'm betting dimes to doughnuts you're one of those folks who often posts memes about you 'hate drama.'
heh.
khairete
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B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

Why are you friending a married man?
Usually an ex is an ex for a good reason.
Just unfriend and block him and be done with it.

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J.C.

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Yes...unfriend him.

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H.W.

answers from Portland on

I would never want to deal with someone's upset spouse. Just unfriend, block and move on with your life.

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L.U.

answers from Seattle on

Why get involved in someone else's drama?
Obviously that's what this is. The EX boyfriend (he's an ex for a reason) has friended you and his WIFE doesn't like it.
Excuse yourself. De-friend. Move on.

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T.D.

answers from Springfield on

sounds like a bucket of drama. unfriend and be done. move on and forget about him and his wife

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D.D.

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Unfriend and block. He's looking for something since he friended you and you don't need to be involved in the drama this is causing his wife.

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J.F.

answers from Las Vegas on

Even if you just care for him in a purely friendly way, just as someone from your past, does not mean you have to maintain any kind of contact, social media or otherwise.

His wife is giving you clear signals that your presence is not welcome, even in just the social media world. So, why would you even want to continue this?

As we go through life, people move in and out of our day to day worlds. It's just the way it goes.

Social media has given rise to this artificial notion that we should somehow maintain contact and connectedness with everyone who has ever crossed our paths in life. That's just not so.

Defriend and be done with this. Defriending doesn't mean you wish him any ill. It just means that no grown adult has time for such drama, nor should she wish to cause even unintentional harm or distress to another person's life.

Let it go and get on with your day.

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

If she's having a problem with it, then either unfriend him or at least stop posting comments. You don't say what the nature of her replies is like - is she testy, accusatory, or just making comments so it's clear to others that she knows what's going on?

There could be more to this - maybe she's insecure, or maybe he's friending lots of other women, or maybe he has behaved badly. If you can see other comments that are public, you might scan them and see if she's being nasty or defensive to others as well.

Otherwise, I'd get away from the drama.

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W.W.

answers from Washington DC on

welcome to mamapedia!

Really? You need to stop. Wow. He's married. You are his past. Now his wife? No. She doesn't trust him and she's going to blame you. block them both. You are going to get into a very sticky and messy situation that will not end well.

If you still "care" for him? Let him go. He's married.

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M.G.

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If you are uncomfortable, unfriend.

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C.N.

answers from Baton Rouge on

One of my friends on Facebook is a former FWB. He and I have known each other since we were ten.
His girlfriend sometimes replies to comments I post on his page. So what?
She knows I don't want him in my bed anymore (I'm happily married, and they are heels over head in love), and even if I did, he wouldn't cheat on her.

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L.J.

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I am friends with several ex's. I let their girlfriends/spouses know from the start we were always good friends and it didn't work out with us in a relationship. That I was in no way interested in them in that way but I did miss their friendship.

And I always included their spouse/girlfriend in comments. Such as wishing him a happy birthday, you could say "Wishing you a very happy birthday, hope you and girlie go do something totally fun".

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J.M.

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Are her replies to your comments snarky or negative? Did she tell you that she thinks you want him back, or did she tell him? What does he think about this?

I am FB friends with one of DH's ex girlfriends. Sometimes we (nicely) joke about him, and about MIL too. He thinks it's funny that we're friends. I hope to meet her IRL some day. She's married and neither of them want the other back. I'm FB friends with a few of my exes. They say happy birthday or comment on my posts sometimes. DH doesn't care.

Even though I think it's a sign of huge insecurity for people to be possessive and weird on FB, if there is going to be ongoing drama, it might just be best to unfriend him. But I'd tell him why. I'm guessing you're not the only one she's insecure about.

R.A.

answers from Boston on

I'm friends with most of my ex's from HIgh School.. on Facebook and otherwise. They are all married with kids. I don't often post on their wall or send them a greeting or meme or bs like that. We have moved on and have our own lives. Do I care that it's his birthday or he had lunch with a friend somewhere? Not really. But we acknowledge each other. Some I've even become friends with their wives. That's just the way I am though.

If she seems threatened pull back. Unfollow him and move on. Who really cares?

C.T.

answers from Santa Fe on

I would unfriend him if my spouse was bothered by it. I wouldn't really care to be facebook friends with an ex that much anyway.

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