I had so many problems with my oldest, we went through counseling, meds, therapists, everything and this video was what they told us to use... we had to sit through the entire thing and we tried and tried... it did not help us with any of our children... we have found that "standing on the wall" helps us disipline our children... we stand them on the wall, they put their forheads on the wall and stand at an angle... it may sound a little harsh to some, but its what we found that works for our kids and it doesnt invovle spanking....