My father in law sends out an email today for my mother in laws 60th birthday plan which is next may. He wants everyone to go on the Disney cruise. He writes, of course you will be expected to pay your own way and since he is giving us a years notice he expects all of us to be there...no exceptions.
I laughed out loud when I read that email. He talks out his butt all the time. This is our family 2 mbership are drs for the navy and they have 2 small children 4yrs and 10 months. Even though she is in navy she hates cruises bc she gets sea sick. Both those parents are overly paranoid about their children and I can't ever see them taking a 2 yr old on a cruise for fear of him falling overboard nor would they be able to plan far enough ahead of time to take off work. Then there is my family. My stepson's mother doesn't allow us to take him out of USA so 1 strike against us plus I'm due with baby #3 this aug making 4 kids total for us. I also don't want to go on a cruise with a 5yr, 2.5 yr, and 9 month old. Then the 2 youngest sisters with no kids. Do they really want to go on the extremely overpriced Disney cruise when they don't have kids nor the extra money for it.
At this point, I think I just might lose my mind after baby#3 comes. I have already accepted we are not traveling at all that first year. Ill be lucky if I can get my 4 yr old to school everyday.
Just thought it was funny. I love the part where we all have to pay our own way.
That sounds pretty unrealistic! Tell him to rent an awesome, huge rental house on a beach somewhere instead. You can all show up for that!
Only if the 5 yr old, 2 1/2, and 9 mth old stay in HIS room!
That is funny! You really wonder what world they live in. I hope we are not as unrealistic and demanding in 10 years!
I would reply letting him know that you are giving him a year's notice that you will NOT be there!
Just an FYI..we just go back from a Disney Cruise and they do not allow a child in swim diapers in an of their pools. They must be fully potty trained to get in. There is a small area with a few sprayers for children who are in swim diapers. I would personally wait until all kids are old enough to swim as it will be hard with some getting in the pool and others not being able to. Just thought I'd share that thought! Btw I agree that your fil is being unreasonable!
Wow. This site (almost daily) makes me think my in-laws are saints!
How...crazy!
I'm laughing too. Yeah, not happening!
You'll just have to have your husband send his dad a funny note (cc'd to all other family members involved) detailing all the vomiting over the side of the ship that there would be, having to leave one kid in the US because of that pesky court order, the idea of 2 children five years and younger taking over the ship, and the 9 month old crying night and day. "But thanks for the funny invitation, Dad! We laughed for hours!"
I'm sure your FIL will not like the email he'll get from your husband, but such is life.
Hmmmm...maybe he can just plan the rest of your life for you while he's at it? (Rolls eyes)
How tacky to demand you pay your own ways for a family cruise trip HE is planning!
I'd nip this O. in the bud and have your husband (and his siblings) tell him right away that this is NOT going to happen.
Okay your FIL sounds like a douchebag! I'd tell him in response that if you make the cruise you expect him to pay all the kids' first semester tuition of college, no exceptions!
When I saw the title to your post, my first reaction before I ever read it was "Bullsh*t, I hate my MIL"....LOL
Well, I suppose you could do a tour of the boat before seeing them off from the dock...
I hope your husband sent back an email that said:
ROFLMFAO What's the real plan?
"Dear Dad (/FIL/Whatever) - I'm so glad you love your wife and want to take her on a cruise for her birthday! Of course, there isn't any possible way we'll be able to join you. Why don't you take her on a grown-up cruise, just the two of you? You can have a great time together! All the rest of us will be glad to see you off and welcome you back. Love, K.."
Hey, its a great family vacation and a wonderful way to celebrate a significant birthday, but to require a "command performance of attendance" is too much--even with a years notice. Maybe he should start saving and treat you all to a cruise to celebrate her 65th birthday.
Yeah...I'd be giving a year's notice that I'm not going to be there.
This would be my response:
Dear FIL,
Sounds like a lovely dream. Let us know when you have made the real plans since I doubt ANY of us will be joining you on that cruise. No exceptions!
Love,
DIL
Oh just be glad that he is telling you NOW that you will have to pay your own way. My MIL is notorious for saying she will pay and then at the last second tell you that you have to pay. Examples:
She recently went on a vacation with my mom. When she offered my mom this vacation, she said that the entire trip was on her and that my mom wouldn't have to pay for a thing (My mom doesn't really have extra money for vacations and probably wouldn't have gone if she knew that she was going to have to pay). My MIL got the plane tickets using her air miles. Then she tells my mom that she (my mom) has to pay for half of the hotel room and for her food and activities, etc. That's fine. It's totally fare. But if my mom had known that she would have had to spend the money on that, she wouldn't have agreed to go in the first place because she can't afford it. My mom then felt that she had to go because the plane ticket had already been purchased, so she went and spent money that she shouldn't have spent.
Another example:
She offered to pay for my husband and I to go on a honeymoon. She said that she would pay for the plane, hotel, and the car rental. She gave us plane tickets, hotel reservations, and a car rental reservation... Telling us that all was paid for. However, as we later found out as we were standing at the desk of the car rental shop... The car rental had not been paid for (The hotel and plane tickets were, thank god). We ended up having to use the money we had brought along for souvenirs to pay for the car rental.
Again... Be glad he fore-warned you about having the pay. Lol
Dear FIL,
My husband and I along with our children have birthdays coming within the next year. In lieu of the your typical birthday gift, I am requesting you put money into our vacation fund. We are hopeful that there will be enough birthday money in that account to cover the cost of a Disney Cruise you have selected.
Sincerely,
Your loving DIL
Kindly respond with all the reasons that effect your family (husb, kids) on why you will not be attending. Allow the others to speak for themselves.
I actually love my in-laws, but yeah, family can be comedy gold!
RSVP back that you cannot attend due to a 5 year old, a 2.5 year old and 9 month old because of A) school for the 5 year old, B) the 2.5 & 9 month old are too young to enjoy a cruise, and C) you just had a 3rd baby and finances are tight.
Ridiculous. Don't you just love inlaws who plan everything for you? I have some of my own...
