Would You Try to Stick It Out? Long

I would have quit the moment I found out how long the commute was.
If the pay was not as it was advertized, that would be another reason.
It's important to get things in writing before accepting an offer.
You'll be all the more careful next time around.

Wondering why you've stayed this long
Now if all those negatives PLUS maki g a boatload of money--maybe you tough it out.
If you can swing it financially with just the 2nd job, I'd have my notice in yesterday!

I wouldn't stick it out. It sounds as if you have plenty of valid reasons to leave the job. I would give notice immediately and simply tell them that the position isn't working out for you or your family. You don't owe them any more explanation than that.

I would also advise that since you have to spend so much on gas, you're basically working just to pay to fill the gas tank. It's not worth going through the two week period after giving notice. Giving two weeks' notice is a courtesy but it's not required. Especially in this particular situation.

When you give notice, simply tell them at the beginning of your next shift that it will be your final shift because the position isn't working out for you or your family. If you feel that you need to go into more detail, maybe tell them that it's several aspects about the job itself and the commute and it's affecting your family and that can only be resolved by quitting.

EDIT: Your goal here is not to make them happy. Your goal is to keep your family happy and for this job to benefit your family. It's not. It's harming you and your family. The only benefits are going to this company. Who cares what the boss thinks when you give your notice? You won't be using them as a reference and they won't be going on your resume.

R.:

For me this is a no-brainer. Quit. You have a 2nd job that has been helping you out.

You need to find the "right" job for you. Get your resume updated, yes, you need to include this job...however, when someone asks about it? You can tell them after experiencing the actual job, commute and costs of commute, it was not the right job for you.

Go to your local unemployment office and look at the jobs they have listed there. Talk to one of the career counselors and see what they recommend...then go to your local university and talk to the counselors there as well!!

Good luck!

Quit. You're taking home $300 less than anticipated, you're spending $100 weekly on gas, and you're miserable. There is not one positive thing in your post about this job, so why would you even consider staying? Quit. Today. Good luck, something better will come along.

let it go now!!!!!!!!!I am feeling sad for you by just reading all of that....

Resign immediately. This job is costing you your health, family life, etc. and you're not even being compensated to your original expectation.
You worked your shift, you got paid and then you are even. 2 weeks notice is a courtesy.

Normally I would say tough call but your situation is extreme and seems to be taxing you physically, emotionally and financially. You also received empty promises which do not measure up to your financial expectations. The commute alone is costly, particularly on lost family time.

Add to that harassment. Yeesh!

So yes, by all means, show yourself the door. You've "earned" it.

I would also consider "on-the-spot" hiring a red flag in future job fairs.

I do know how you feel though in terms of being semi-unemployed long-term.

Good luck and get out :-)

If you can ramp up on your 2nd job, I would definitely quit this one. It doesn't sound like there is a positive to this job.

i'm pretty cautious so my first thought was never never leave until you have something else lined up, but i have no idea at all how you would ever find something else while you were working this job.

I might stick it out until the month is up. if they are that strick about promotions do they also have some sort of a trial period set? I also would not burn bridges at all, even saying the commute is too long can make you look bad if you don't phrase it correctly. Perhaps saying you are looking for something with more flexible hours or something more suited to your experience or schooling. I hope that make sense, your reasons are valid to me but to a male boss, saying i miss my kids might not be taken the right way if someone else calls them for a referrence.

b ut the short answer is yea i probably wouldn't stay.

I would have told you to go to your supervisor about the sexual harassment and keep notes. When it didn't stop, I would have used THAT as my excuse for leaving. That way you could probably get unemployment AND you could sue them!

Jessica gave a good answer. The job is costing you money, time, sanity, and physical health. You don't even have to put it on your resume because the time is part of your looking for a job - it just didn't work out.

If you can take advantage of any of the seminars, info, etc. at your state job office (in TX it's called Texas Workforce Solutions), do that.

Also, google the personnel agencies in your area if you have office skills or other skills. Many services place in offices, in warehouses, etc. They may have short term jobs, or jobs that are temp-to-hire (I just got hired on one of those and now work full time for the company they placed me with). It's a good way for people to "test drive" each other work-wise.

There are resume worksheets on line so you can tweak. Action oriented - what you actually achieved for the companies or volunteer stuff - is good. You want your resume to be easy to read and stand out - ask yourself "what did I do to improve things for the company".

Tell your friends, family, facebook, etc., that you are looking, and if you know what you are looking for, ask directly for help making connections related to that.

If they hired you when they didn't hire others, then you have SOMETHING that is marketable - work ethic, personality, smarts, whatever - you know you brought something to the table. It just wasn't the right table.

Good luck!

Give your notice. You were doing okay evidently before taking this job so quit. It's costing you too much.

Honestly?

I probably would have quit the first week and continued my quest to find something better for my family.

This job is not worth what you are sacrificing.

Wow! I probably would have quit already. Nothing at this job sounds worth it; money, stress, etc.!!! There are several sites on the internet that are legitimate for finding jobs; that's how I found a job in retail. I had no experience but the guy took a chance on me and I really enjoyed it. There's got to be something out there for you that would be a lot closer and with better hours.

Good luck!!

There is no way I would stay there. 6 days a week? You never see your kids? You have to take pain medication just to make it through? No. This is not a good fit.

In a nutshell, Yes, give your notice. You have listed very concrete reasons that this job is not working out for you & your family. You were able to "make do" up until 3 weeks ago without this job, so I will assume that you can get by until you find something else.

When you begin your new job search, you will be asked by employers why you left after only one month. Be concise with your answer. The 4 you listed above are great, but don't go into too much detail.

I was hired at a local job fair and the true scope of the job was not made clear at that time.
1. The actual commute once rush hour & traffic was factored in resulted in a 3hour commute each day.
2. My schedule was changed shortly after my hire, and wasn't allowing me to meet my family's needs.
Then point out that because of this, you are making sure to carefully screen companies before accepting any offers to make sure that it is a good fit.

Whether or not you give your notice immediately, or stick it out until you find something else is up to you... sounds like your schedule will make interviewing difficult at best.

Concerning to me is the sexual harrassment. No one wants to become the "problem employee" but regardless of whether your boss is a male or female, they need to know about the harrassment, & put a stop to it. And you are 100% in your rights to expect that, but you must bring it up to them if you have not.

Everyone's opinion of sexual harrassment is different, some people are more 'sensitive' to it than others. If you are not sure of whether you might be overreacting, run it past a few confidences - honestly - & see what they say. If the company has an HR department, you can also bring it up there instead of to your supervisor, if you feel your boss is part of the problem (not necessarily being harrassing, but by being aware of it & not halting the behaviors)

Best of luck, what a tough situation. T.

The ONLY reason to keep a job like this is if you cannot survive until you find another job. If that is the case, then keep the job until you find another job, but if you can survive-give notice now. 5 months savings? Sounds like you're losing money working there so you better quit before that cushion is gone!

Of course you have to do what is right for you but I would keep this job and look HARD for another job. When you go on interviews, be honest about why your current situation is not working out. That way, your prospective employer can appreciate why you would be leaving a position so quickly and also be able to warn you off of a similar situation. Again, be honest but don't complain - big turn off to a future boss! I would try to stick it out as long as you can so that you can have a financial buffer and also b/c it is easier to find a new job when you have a job - interviewers believe you when you say you want to work/will work hard. I've had a job that I just HATED and it is tough to show up day after day. I sucked it up for just under 2 years and then found my current job which I LOVE - that was almost 15 years ago! Hang in there, something will come your way! Oh, and when you resign, be sure to do it on good terms and explain that you were given another pay amount and also that you didn't do enough due diligence (understand how long the commute was, etc.). Hopefully you can leave without any hard feelings b/c you never know when you might need a reference or someone at that company is somehow related to a perfect job in the future. Don't burn any bridges!

Are there any postitives about the job? Perhaps making a list of all the pros and cons will help you make a more objective decisions. Based on what you said I think you've already answered the your question. Sounds like you are making huge sacrifices for not much, if any, gain. Good luck!

Hi, R.:

'Fess up to your employer what you shared with us.
Good luck.
D.