Tubal Ligation - Turner, OR

A.,
I had my tubes tied after the birth of my second child, the doctors tried to talk me out of it but I was adamant, and they did it. I have never regretted it, as a matter of fact it's the best decision I have made. I didn't end up staying in my first marriage and when I met my second, wonderful husband (he didn't have children) he married me anyway. This because he truely loved me. He has been a wonderful father to my two kids and we've talked about someday if we are in a better financial place we would like to be foster parents.
I felt strongly at the time, I was doing the world a favor, by not overpopulating it, and when there are so many orphaned children, I just couldn't have more than two. And I still feel that way. Go for it girl, your sex life will thank you also!

Hello A.,
If they told you were being rational over getting a tubule. Most insurance will not approve a tubule for any one under the age of 25. If you want a tubule go ahead, it is very different symptoms from the pill and the tubule is not 100%.
You could have heaver cycles and cramps.

Now for the story:
I got a tubule 21 years ago and also at that time lost 1 ovary and fallopian tub. (due to infection). After 18 years I got pregnant. The ovary grew back and the tubule came undone. I now have a wonder 3 yr old as well as 6 older children.
So what ever you decide. Do the research and talk to your doctor.
good luck

I had my tubes tied at 22. There were a couple of times that I wished I hadn't but it was and still is a good decision for me. I have three kids and had just gone through a divorce while pregnant when I decided to have it done. The only thing I have really negative to say about it is, for me, my periods got a lot more painful. I was not on the pill before I got pregnant, which was one dr's response when I asked why there was more pain. If you are done having kids it really is a good alternative to being on the pill the rest of your child bearing years.

My daughter also asked for a tubal ligation after her first child. She was 20. They also told her that they couldn't do it, not because she wasn't being rational, but because she was too young. They said and it turned out to be right that she could change her mind when her circumstances changed. That made sense to me because at 20 one hasn't had much experience, especially with babies and how not being able to have a baby could affect a future relationship.

And they were right. She married and now has a son at age 26. Again she asked for a tubal ligation and they agreed to do one after some counseling. She decided not to have it. And she's now divorced. She does have mixed feelings about having or not having it. She doesn't want any more children but she wants to still have that option if she marries again.

I'm her mother with a whole lot of experience with relationships and babies. I see that my daughter already has more than she can comfortably handle and should not have any more children. If the man that she wants to marry cannot see that another child will be too great a hardship on her then he's not the right one to marry anyway. A husband needs to put his wife's emotional health and how it will affect all children his top priority.

And so I agree that having a tubal ligation now makes more sense. You've taken care of a baby and you know by now whether or not you want more. Since you didn't mention a partner I would ask if there is one and what his wishes are. Tubal ligation is a decision to be made together if there is a partner in the relationship. Otherwise it's entirely up to you.

It is a serious decision because it cannot be reversed. It should not be made to prove the doctors wrong. Just a thought to consider. Sometimes we get caught up in our emotions and make decisions based on them instead of rational thought. I know rational is a buzz word for you. I've had many of those words myself. I married based on emotion and the thought that I had to be married (my buzz word) and I'm divorced because it was an irrational decision.

Personally I think you're a little young to get your tubes tied. But it's really up to you. I think the doctors are really only considering your best interests and realize due to experience that often time people do have a change of heart for a variety of reasons. My best friend wanted to get her tubes tied as well and they told her there's no way they'd do it at her age, she was about 26 at the time as well. Instead she was advised to use the Mirena 5 year IUD which has worked great for her.

Good luck with your decision.

Well my husband was going to get a vasectomy this next week and for some reason I had this overwhelming idea that I shouldn't do it. I don't want anymore children for sure. I've got four already adn the oldest is 7. I dont want to start over, but I couldn't help thinking I wasn't making the right decision. My husband has three of his own and I have one of my own, but we don't have any together. So I thought about that down the road and if I would regret it, and I also thought that what if my only birht child were to pass away, I would have an overwhelming need to have another child. So my advice is to weight the benefits and of doing the ligation and your current method. If there are any doubts, don't do it. It's very hard to reverse and very expensive and you don't want to have remorseful feelings down the road. You are still young and you never know how your feelings will change. For me I just didn't like the finality of it all, which suprised me. I'm 99% sure I dont wnat more kids, but you never know the future. Good luck wiht your decision.

I was 22 when I got my tubes tied. I had to do alot of convincing and go through alot of counseling because I was so young. But I've never regretted my decision! I always knew that I wanted just two kids, and that has not changed (I'm 32 now). My experience with the actual proceedure was good, although I had it done right after giving birth to my daughter. They were able to go through the belly button instead of a major cut. (Keep in mind that this was 10 years ago, perhaps their technology has advanced.)
In terms of whether or not the decision is a good idea... only you can know yourself. For me, I'm glad that I did it!

If you really don't want any more kids I think it's a good way to go. Don't let anyone tell you you're too young. Everyone is in different places at different ages. When I was your age I was just having my first child. I wouldn't have been ready. It sounds like you might be. I had a tubal after the birth of my 3rd child. I knew I was done. I was 30 when I had it done and it has been a great thing for us. No more worrying about birth control. My periods changed after the birth of each of my kids. After my third and my tubal the only difference in my periods was that I started spotting. I never used to spot. My cramps are not worse and neither is my bleeding. The only problem I had with the actual procedure was coming out from under the drugs they used. Since it was after the birth they kept my epidural in and used a much stronger version of the drugs. When I was coming out from under the drugs I felt like I was dying. You won't have to worry about them doing it the same way since you won't have just delivered. It was definitely a good decision for us.

Its definately a personal and difficult decision to make, but if you know you do not want any more children, then it is probably the best thing to do. I had my tubes tied a year after I had my son and I know it was the right decisions for me. It is a easy surgery; the worst part for me was the medication they used to put me under - it just left me realy groggy and out of it for a day and a half. my email is ____@____.com if you have any questions.

A., I am not sure of your status as far as marriage or wanting more kids in the future, I was 22 when I had my tubal and soon after got divorced 9 years later meet a wonderful man that I am now married to and decided we wanted more children together, we went thru 5 cycles of IVF but we finaly are PG and due in Sept, I made a mistake by having it done and regreted it always, Think it thru a make sure you don't want any more children before you jump into it. There are options for later on if you change your mind that you can try but they are so expensive, Wish you all the best.

Well I can relate. My husband (40) and I have been married for 7 years. We agreed BEFORE we got married that we were not going to have any kids. I had varicose vein surgery last fall and he was scheduled for a vasectomy mid-Dec. THE NIGHT BEFORE his vasectomy, we agreed to discuss the issue ONE MORE time and canceled his appt. the next morning for that morning and then talked for another few weeks. Jan. I went to see what my Dr. would say about conceiving, with given physical issues. Needless to say I got pg. 1st try at 39!!! WOW! What a change of heart and no one really saw that coming! Believe me, we thought we were really sure and then life circumstances really changed, prompting us rethink our life plans completely.

Another story: My husband has sister that was in the service and was told at 25 that they would not do her tubes and then found out at 35 that they could have. She had them done right away and has not regretted it and is still single at 40+.

So there you have two different stories! One in which after 10+ years there was no change of heart and another in which there was.

Have you considered other forms like IUD? All I know is that if you try a tubal reversal later, it may or may not be successful. If you have a partner, I would suggest vasectomy as it is a lot easier for them to have the surgery than you.

Best wishes for a decision that brings you peace and no regrets either way you choose.

I had my tubes tied at 23 after giving birth to my third child which my now ex-husband. A year later I found out he was sleeping with the babysitter. Now I am with a wonderful man and we are looking to get married, the only problem is he has no children of his own. I wouldn't mind giving him one but to do so now I have to either get my tubes untied or have IVF. Both are very expensive and only have a success rating of 60% at best. You never know where life is going to go. Get an IUD if you never want any more children you won't have them. If you change your mind someday you still can.

I had my tubes tied 6 months ago and have had NO problems with my periods. They are the same as they were before I had my tubal. It's your choice... dont let any doctor talk you out of it!

It's totally up to you. I would suggest asking your doc about an IUD. They are very safe now, and, depending on which you one get, they last fo 5 or 10 years. It'd be less of a procedure than a tubal ligation, and is actually just as effective at preventing pregnancy.

Hi A.,
I had my tubes tied right after my daughter was born. She's my third child but my second living child. We lost our first child to a chromosonal disorder called trysome 13. When my daughter was born I demanded I get a tubal. My Doctor asked me every prenatal visit if I was abosolutely sure I wanted it do it. I was almost 30 at the time and I was high risk with the previouse problems. I wasn't going to take anymore chances.I got two beautiful children and I was satisfied. So if thats what you really want and you and your husband wants the same thing then don't let any doctor tell you different.
But... my doctor also said that I could not under any surcumstances reverse it. Good luck.
K. G

Well A., I am 27 and just had my second child and a tubal ligation on 3/13/07. I had a c-section with both kids and feel that the healing took a little longer with having the tubal also. But I was up and walking around a few days after the procedure. Granted you can't walk all day long, but I could still take care of myself, my 3 year old, and my new baby by myself. If you have any other questions about this just send me a message!

I had a tubal ligation when I was 24. I do not recommend it. Before I had it done, I never had menstrual cramps or PMS and I had very light/regular periods (every 28 days on the dot for 3 days). Now I suffer from extreme cramps and PMS as well as very heavy periods that last anywhere from 4 days to 7 days and for a long time they were very erratic. Sometimes I would get one every 2 weeks, other times it would be 2 months before I had one.
I have been told by a gynecologist, my family practice doctor and a naturopath that I am pre-menopausal due to having my tubal ligation. Apparantly some women have 2 blood supplies to their ovaries, one of which is from the fallopian tubes. Some women only have one blood source to the ovaries, through the tube. I am apparently in the latter group. When I had the tubal ligation, it cut the only blood supply to my ovaries, so now they have begun to atrophy. This causes the pre-menopause, which in turn causes the PMS, cramping and erratic periods. According to the doctors, I should begin menopause within the next few years - by the time I am 35. I have been using estrogen creams to try and prolong it (the cream also helps to regulate my periods). I have also found out that I will be more prone to certain cancers once I go into full-blown menopause. If I had known this was a possiblity when I was 24 (I am only 33 now), I would have opted for an IUD.
Another downside to having the ligation is it is very permanent. I thought I would not want anymore kids, but about 3 years ago, I began to want another baby. I cannot have one and it played havoc with my emotions. Wanting another child and knowing that you cannot have one due to a choice made years before is very difficult.
I could go on and on about this, but I will end here.
I suggest you research this online prior to getting it done. Make an informed decision. I did not have the luxury of the Internet 9 years ago. I wish I had.
Good luck with your decision, because in the end,it is all up to you.

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A. A.

My only comment is that you will get much heavier periods and cramping. Everyone I know who has had a tubal ligation has this problem.

HI There,
personally I have a good experience, i am 23 yrs old and at first they didnt want to do it beacuse of my age, I sat down with my doctor i told him look this was my 2nd pregnancy and i thought about it before i talked to him, i knew me nad my husband didnt want anymore children. Me and my husband have a really rough relationship and i had a high risk pregnancy.
I told him if i didnt get my tubes tied that i wouldnt be able to go through another pregnancy. that I would be fine with my 2 boys. right after the birth of my second son i got the precedure done. So far no complaints, and me and my husband dont worry and we enjoy our relationship... Cause we know everything will be okay and we dont have to worry about pills or condoms all the time it's actully pretty nice to have that feeling... I feel after the surgery that my periods are a little stronger but i'm not sure if thats from the surgery or the pregnancy...
but if you feel thats what you want i say go for it
what do you have to lose you wont have to worry about taking a pill everyday

I don't have much advice about getting them done, as I am pregnant with my second child right now. I do have to say, RESEARCH, RESEARCH, RESEARCH!! If someone denies it again, you will have that research under your belt to prove them wrong!! I'm planning on having one right after this baby is born!! Let me know how it goes, and any complication (God forbid), you have!!!

have you thought about having your hubby (or partner) get snipped? it's much cheaper and apparently (from what my friends have told me) less painful for him than it would be for you. the recovery time is significantly shorter too.