There is a littel girl my dd age in our neighborhood. we've made friends with her and I knew last weekend was her bday, I invited her over since it didn't seem as she was having a school/friend party she is turning 7 and in my dd's first grade class at school.
I picked up a small stuffed animal, a puzzle and a dollar candy from the check out. Less than what i usually do for a birthday but since there was no party i felt like it was ok.
She came over with a HUGE oversized buiilda bear with light up outfit, and a personalized audio message that said DD you are my best friend, PLUS she brought my son who is a year older and always nice to the little girl, TWO angry birds stuffed animals, the same two that he and i fought about as being too expensive a month and a half ago, when he was looking for a birthday presnt for a friend.
I'm so embarrassed at this over display and wondering if they are trying really hard to buy my Dd affection or should i say my family's affection maybe they are just very very giving??? but i feel uncomfotable toher than you shouldn't have what can i say??? with they get the hint from our little giftt???
They knew my dd's bday is in Dec. and we did not have a party either this yea and this girl brought a small $10 gift to school for DD. sooooooooo, i guess i don't know what to say, just accept it graciously or push that this is too much.
They were both wrapped nicely and my Dd's had a card in it. Plus the Huge Build A Bear had a recorded chip in it that said "YOU're my best friend, (my Dds name) My Dd was playing with it later and said, It's almost like the bear is telling me to be (this girl)'s friend.
You may want to check with the parents that these gifts were actually meant for your children. Some children have a habit of giving away their own toys without asking mom or dad first. I have had this happen with one of my daughters friends.
Just take it that your DD is really loved and liked. YOu cannot dictate what someone gives. If they find it in their heart to give that much, that's their choice. You chose what you thought was appropriate..that is also your choice. Don't compare. Every person's definition of a good gift varies. If this type of giving continues, then you can step in and say not to go out like that.
Tricky situation. Perhaps you just need to get to know the parents better? Maybe invite them over for dinner. Some people are just very very giving. There could be a bit of "wow finally someone's nice to our daughter. Let's make sure they know we appreciate them." But geez, they must not be tight for money or else they'd not have spent that much. Which makes me think they are just extremely generous. Is their daughter an only child? So maybe she gets everything she asks for? Maybe mom has a shopping problem?
What does your daughter think of this? Does she like the girl? Do they get along at school? Or is the little girl like a pesty flea that won't leave your daughter alone?
It was odd that this girl would bring presents for your children on HER birthday.I agree with the PP that you might want to ask her mom if those presents were meant for your daughter or did the girl just bring them herself.
Maybe she thought your daughter was having a birthday party?
She brought gifts for her own birthday for your kids?
Odd....but no O. has a gun to their heads.
Is it "too much" or just "more" than you bought her? There's a difference.
Gifts should always be accepted graciously....
I suggest that you accept the gifts gracefully. I also suggest that you get to know the mother. Only then would I say anything. Accept that they are generous which is OK even if you don't have the same values.
If you know the mother it would be OK to tell her in passing, "thank you for the gifts but I feel uncomfortable with receiving them." The conversation will develop as you talk.
I'm sorry that you are embarrassed by this. You might evaluate why you're embarrassed and work on accepting the generosity of others. We are all different. Giving your children gifts doesn't necessarily have an ulterior motive. I'm generous because I feel good about giving. I don't expect anything in return.
