Should I Let Her Father Keep Her for a Few Days.

I believe this is normal for u to feel this way. your baby is only 20 months old. U have to also learn now to start the separation process what are u going to do when the child begins headstart, and daycare, and kindergarten. i know this is different because this is over a period of two nights. The separation has to start some where, talk to her a few times during the day to make u feel better. Even if she can't talk just get the father to put the phone to her ear and let her know mommy loves her and misses her. But u need that alone time, she also needs her mommy to be strong to be able to keep up with her. And Santa needs a chance to come down the chimney get out and do that X-mas shopping.

As moms we often forget that one of the best ways we can care for our children is by caring for ourselves.

As long as her father is offering ,and can provide a safe loving environment, let him take her. You will get a well deserved break, he will get a chance to get closer to his duaghter; they will have a chance to bond more.

You sound like you have a lot going on - give you self a break, and do something special for you.

WELL THE FIRST THING I WOULD SAY TO YOU THAT YOU SHOULD BE NOT ONLY BE HAPPY BUT PROUD THAT HE IS NOT A DEAD BEAT. THAT HE WANTS TO SPEND TIME WITH THE BABY EVEN IF IT'S A FEW HOURS. I'M A WIDOW AND MY SONS FATHER DIED WHEN MY BABY WAS 2 YEARS OLD. I WISH I COULD TURN BACK TIME. MY SON IS 14 AND MISSES HIS DAD. IF I COULD BRING HIM BACK EVEN IF WE WEREN'T TOGETHER AS LONG AS HE COULD BE AROUND FOR MY SON THAT'S ALL THAT WOULD MATTER. SOMETIMES WE DON'T KNOW THE VALUE OF SOMETHING TILL WE LOSE IT. IT'S NOT ABOUT US IT'S ABOUT OUR CHILDREN. AND YES YOU SHOULD LET HIM SPEND TIME WITH HER. ABSOLUTELY..... GOD BLESS HOPE YOU MAKE THE RIGHT CHOICE.

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If it will help and you and he have a decent relationship then go ahead and leave her with him. My daughter is 2.5 and has only seen her dad 2x, once when she was 2mos old, and then when she was 1.5. He's not around to help me at all and barley pays child support but we manage. I was at my wits end a while ago as well because I couldn't get anything done. My house was a complete disaster all the time. Life was very overwhelming. I work as a hairstylist and most days only get to do my hair and makeup when I get to work because she always gets into the stuff. Fun,yes..but big mess.

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Hope it goes well

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I understand I feel the same way about my son and he's two now, but you should let him take her, he should experience the same thing you do. The alone time will do you good trust me it's hard to let them go but you don't want to burn your self out that wouldn't do neither one of you any good. Good luck, and get ready for that trip to Cancun :)

Well L. i suggest that yougo ahead and let him care for her for the time being. As you may know it more streeful to take your child with you to do any tyoe of shopping and every mom needs their alone time so go for it. i mean like how hard could it be?

It's ok to let the father keep her for a few days, just make sure the reasons aren't petty.