Out of Hand Three Year Old!!

We had alot of the same issues. My peditrician told me that 2's are terrible and 3's are worse. I've noticed that the closer she's gotten to 4 the better behaved she is. Also, I got alot of help from the book, "Parenting the Strong-willed child." We saw a huge difference after implementing that program.

HI, Uh I feel your pain. Well I believe I have heard of the terrible three's too but what worked for me w/ my children is discipline and consistency. Try time out and try the treasure box.
Kids love the treasure box. You can go to the dollar store or Party City and buy a bag of mix candy and toys and that will be his rewards every time you get him to due something good then you can move to the end of the day.
Also try to reward 50/50 of he does something good make a big deal out of it that he does not get confuised because he hears you complaining all day long about his bad behavior.
However keep in mind it is very important for you to take it serious and be the parent because now is not late to fix them but remember they get older.

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I used a book by Thomas Phelan called "1-2-3 Magic" Amazon.com is where I got it for cheap. Also, consistency is the key. Good luck.

Three years old has been my hardest year with all my kids. They are becoming little opinionated people and don't do what you want them to do so easy any more(if they ever did) My kids also started giving up their naps and that made them a real handful at the end of the day, tired hungry, demanding and aggressive and that's how my precious little daughter is right now if she's skipped a nap. I have to watch her with her siblings very carefully.

Is he getting enough outside playtime? Boys I found especially needed to be "worn down" a bit or I paid later with their "energy" levels. Library time followed by park play was always nice. The weather is getting good for that. I would even make my son do an obstacle course on the swing set after sitting in school all day. They get the energy build up if I didn't.

I do insist on quiet time and she does seem to do a little better now that I have helped her establish that routine. She gets to have some books and/or a toy and she lays down. I have started putting on the timer so if she doesn't fall asleep in 30 minutes she hears the timer and knows it's okay to get up. If she falls asleep I wake her in about an hour and tell her the timer went off and it's time to get up. If she sleeps any more than that it's so difficult at bedtime. Also,if she hasn't napped I try and make sure she's eaten dinner early, a bowl of cereal if necessary, that way if she falls asleep any time after 6pm she's down for the night. If they're giving up their naps they need to get to bed earlier or they become overtired, and oh those second winds are brutal.

Hopefully you will have a handle on this stage soon,
LaurieK
www.mymonavie.com/LaurieK

Hi. I also have a strong willed 3 year old. I agree with the other moms that you have to be consistant. If you let things go occasionally he will know that he CAN wear you down if he tries hard enough and you will eventually give in. Also as hard as it may be sometimes, try not to lose your cool. If he sees you getting mad, he will assume this behaviour is acceptable and will emulate it. Additionally, talk calmly, but firmly, when reprimanding him. We use the "time out method", and some days hes in that "naughty spot" quite a lot and other days not at all. We are always sure to remind him why he went there after his time out is over, and make sure to praise the good events. Remember that you are his mom and its your job to teach him proper behaviour. So as much as you may not like to "punish him" or what ever you want to call it, if he doesn't learn it now, it will only get worse. good luck to you and know you are not alone :-)

hi my name is T. I have 7 17 to 1 and this works with them try 30 sec, and it starts as soon as he takes it, make him stop freeze were he is or sit were he stands stop what you are doing untill he dose this will show him you mean it. take his vaforit toy away untill he takes it, then as you start to have more control you can do other things but stick to the 30sec.
like 15/30min choir age a properit this works with older kids to. also be consitant no matter if you dont think its working because kids are smart they know when you will give up and try something new. because you dont think its working.