C.S.
My oldest daughter wears glasses and has to wear an eye patch most of the day, everyday (since she was 6 months old). While it is a fairly common scenario for some kids, she often is left out or ignored by other kids we run into in public. She is usually friendly and outgoing, and will approach kids at the playground, a lot of times only to have them stare at her patch and just not answer her, or worse, walk away. It's heartbreaking. I have always answered peoples questions and inquiries openly and with a positive attitude as I never wanted her to feel ashamed or embarrassed. But now that she is getting older (5 1/2), the kids we encounter seem less excepting. I have no way of knowing why they react the way they do, but I have to wonder if some of it is that they just don't know how to handle someone who looks different. I totally agree that approaching the other mother in a polite manner would have been OK. I, myself, would appreciate the opportunity for my daughter to meet, and possibly make, new friends. It also shows your daughter that you don't think there is anything "wrong" with the little girls, only that they are different, and that your not afraid of or uncomfortable with differnt. I guess it's kind off like a white elephant in the room. Once you talk about and acknowledge the difference, you can move past the ackwardness/newness of the situation and get to know the person for who the are, not what they look like. Kids are going to be curious about what makes us all different. It's what we do as humans-we categorize. However, the trick is to not belittle or make less than those who are not like us, but to find what makes us the same-our hearts, and our need to be connected. I really appreciate your question. It confirms to me that we all really are more alike than we think.