My Two Year Old Hates Me!!

Welcome to the world of the terrible two's. She wants what she wants and she will befriend whomever will give it to her. What a smart girl! Your job as her mother is to hold your ground and continue saying no when appropriate, as you are not supposed to be her friend. This will pass. Hang in there!

This is definitely a phase, but you need to sit your family down. You are the mother! They should never scold you infront of your child (or at all really). And they should never undermine your authority. Children will definitely wax and wane on who is their favorite, but they aren't doing it to be mean. You are the mommy and she loves you....don't forget that.

It's called the terrible twos. It's completely normal. She's figuring out who's going to give her what she wants. Whoever says "no" is the bad guy.

You are Mom. You stick to your guns and make the rules for your daughter. Perhaps sit down and talk with your family and explain that you don't want them spoiling her or scolding you for your choices on how to raise your daughter. That if they disagree with you, they should talk to you another time, out of her presence. But that your rules stand and are NOT up for negotiation.

Your daughter will soon learn that she can't "play you" by sticking with the people who will give into her. If it's important to you to put her to bed, talk with your sister. Make sure that she's "busy" when it's bedtime. Then you can put your daughter to bed and spend some quality time with her.

Parenting is never easy, But I think well intended family can make it a whole lot harder. Just talk with them. And you go enjoy your little girl.

what you are going through is normal.but you must speak to your family about chastising you about what you are doing with your child.no are doing nothing to hurt or neglect her so they should have nothing to sya bout when you tell her no. and i would let them know that ido not appreciate that. when children see that the adults don't agree they play on that. you must have a united front when it comes to children. good luck

Hi Y.. It doesn't sound like she doesn't like you, it sounds like she figured out how to get her way! If other people give her what she wants, she'll use them as a means to her goal. (that wasn't meant to be mean-sounding. She's two and in the Me-now phase)

Maybe you can talk with your family to find a compromise where you're all in agreement? It's not my place to say if you're too strict or they're too lenient - but talk it out between you and negotiate with different events. You'll come up with a solution based on your collective wisdom and then everyone will be working together.

Remember to expect your clever daughter to try even harder for things to be back to where she got her way. Kids are meant to be manipulative. Learning how to get what you need is a good thing. The family has the job of keeping good boundaries and training them to understand what is helpful. However at two this is down the road.

Watch for other times in the day besides where your daughter is working at getting what she wants. You will find lots of indications that you are her mom and she loves you very much!!

Your family should never undermine your authority in your child's life and naturally she will want to be with the people that dote on her and never tell her no and give her everything she wants. Wouldn't you? Please understand that as a mom there will be times and should be times that your darling daughter will not want to have anything to do with you which means you are probably doing a good job.

Our children need to learn how to deal with "NO". Often life will deal us a huge no and we all need to know how to handle that. It starts now and goes to different levels and stages as we grow and develop. Ask your family if they are willing and able to handle her behavior when she is not 2 but 12. It is all the same tantrums but they mature too unless nipped in the bud and the child learns how to deal with life's no or/and disappointment.

Well your the mom and what you says goes. I have found with my MIL she never wanted me to discipline my kids( just scolding) I her opinion my kids should never be discipined under any circumstance. Which is nuts!
Politely respond to your family thanks for your imput but I know whats best I am her mom. But remember they love your daughter also. Does your sister live with you. How does your daughter have access to her aunt that often ..unless you live together? If you live with your family remain calm but tell them that your the mom and you need to spend some special one on one time with your daughter. Or better yet if possible try to get by on less info. Take your daughter and just the two of you go somewhere like a park, friends house or whatever.

As the other have said, welcome to teh terrible twos. It doesn't get any better when they are three either.

First of all, its normal for children to bond with another adult. Even healthy. My kids preferred my sister over me for a long time when they were this age. Took me a long to to understand that this is healthy and helps them learn to build healthy personal relationships with people other than mom and dad.

That being said, get away from your family. I was the oldest of seven kids and all my brothers and sisters were terrible at giving in to my kids behind my back. I had no authority and my son called me "hey you" or "wendi" because that's what he heard all my brothers and sisters calling me. Family time is important and they need that social bit in their lives, but you need time with just you and your child. Lots of it so that you can become "mom" again. When my family relocated to another state, it ended up being a blessing. I missed my family, I was married and couldn't of course move too, but it took away the competition and unintentional sabotaging by my family. After a year my son was calling me "mommy".

Now I'm not saying move away, I'm saying spend less time with them. You will have to put your foot down and tell your mom that you are the mother and she needs to back off. And make sure you tell your siblings the same thing. And if they cannot respect that fact, then you will need to spend less time with them because they are spoiling your daughter and it'll be ten times worse when she's a teenager if she doesn't learn to respect you now. Right now she is learning that mom's rules don't mean much, you do not want that to continue. If she cries calling for someone else, do not give in. Our children learn very quickly what will set us off and we cannot give into jealousy, anger or fear when they try to push our buttons.

Just stick to your guns and eventually you'll get past this trying couple of years and it does get better.

my four year old tells me he wishes his Nana (my husband's mom) was his mom. she lets him do whatever he wants and never scolds him. i, on the otherhand, am always setting boundaries and i am the chief disciplinarian. it is probably just a phase that she is going through. unless there has been a major life change, a new home, schedule change, etc. i wouldn't worry too much about it. you can always talk to your pediatrician if there are concerns. Good Luck!

You're her mother. You're at the top of her list for

1.) Love

and

2.) Security of that love

Because kids know that moms love them the most and love them no matter what, they treat their moms the worst sometimes.
You're the adult.
If she says she doesn't love you (and even if she doesn't say it out loud) you just tell her "That's OK, I love YOU enough for both of us!"