Menopausse.. Maybe??

Updated on April 08, 2010
A.H. asks from Scotch Plains, NJ
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I started getting my period much less when I hit 40.. like every 3 to 4 months.. told i was pre-menapause. at 45 i stopped all together.. last year.. at 46 i got it again for only 4 months and again stopped totally in August 09. It's now April.. and yesterday.. i started leaking.. like clear liquid.. a lot... clear, not smell not sticky... i actually put a pad on.. it was like a faucet on low.. like staedy drip.. I called the dr.. and he said wow.. your pregnant!!! not what i wanted to hear.. told him.. i had many miscarraiges when i was 29 and 30.. like 4 misses... have since adopted... and never gotten pregnant again since then. we don't use protection or anything.. it's just not in the cards... i am going to see the dr... at 1 today... i am a nervous wreck.. how could this be... could it be something else.. today.. i am just wet to touch.. not leaking... i don't feel any different.. my stomach isn't hard.. it's like jelly... i'm on the chunky side... please tell me i'm not pregnant.. my husband is almost 50 and so am i... i have a child going to high school next year.. and on top of it all.. i have panic attacks and take xanax..... please say a prayer for me.. and give me ideas of what this could be other than being pregnant....

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woo hoo... not pregnant.... I;m happy.. but I know if I was Pregnant.. it would be good too. I had a cyst on my ovary that ruptured.. I am fine.. and I will be fine.. thanks everyone for thinking of me.. allie~~

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D.F.

answers from Houston on

oh sweetie, if you are pregnant it is for a reason. God wanted you to raise anther child. BUT I seriously doubt it. Our bodies are so weird, we go through so much. Just try to stay calm and hope that whatever the outcome, YOU WILL BE FINE!! You are going to be okay!!! Good Luck and God Bless! Don't forget to post and let us know what the outcome is!!

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C.P.

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Please wait till the doctor gives you a pregnancy test before you start worrying. I was on the opposite end and went into premenopause at age 32, and was told I would not able to have children. We were told by doctors to not even bother with birth control as my chances of getting pregnant on my own were less than 1%. Four IVF attempts and several losses later, I (unexpectedly) have twins on the way at 40.

My own reaction when I found out was to throw up, sheer terror, not knowing how I could handle this (I already had a small child). Time has gotten me used to the idea and I now feel blessed - I just keep telling myself, "God never gives us more than we can handle".

So if you are pregnant, don't despair, give yourself a few weeks to come to terms with it. Granted, terminating the pregnancy is an option but that can carry huge psychological issues for years (even if you think you want to), as well religious ones (immediate excommunication from the church, for example).

I recommend talking with Dr. Joanne Stone at Mt. Sinai in NYC - she is a specialist in high risk pregnancies, including advanced maternal age (35+), and she can go over all risks (for mother & child) and options with you. She is also highly regarded for CVS testing, which can be done at 10 weeks, and will help give you a clearer idea of risk factors for the baby, including testing for conditions such as Down's Syndrome which is more common past age 35.

You might decide to bypass CVS and amnio testing altogether, like we did (there's a small chance of miscarriage from the procedures) and only do prenatal non-invasive screening (bloodwork and ultrasounds).

This is a difficult situation to be in, my thoughts are with you.

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I.M.

answers from New York on

A.,
Although you could be pregnant, I doubt it. Just don't stress or panic about it. If you happen to be pregnant, things will work out; I'm sure of that. It is good that you are going see the doctor, that's the best thing you can do. In the mean time, just relax. God will give you the strength and wisdom to raise a child if he is blessing you with another one :) Trust in God, everything will be okay. God knows the desires of your heart! He knows what you can handle or not! And no matter what, He will always be with you.
Please let us know how you make out at the doctors.
I'm praying for you.
Blessings!
I.

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K.M.

answers from Memphis on

I could be that you are pregnant or it could be something else. You are right to see the dr. because it could be a sign of other problems some of which could be quite serious if you are not pregnant. Until you see the dr. there is no way of knowing for sure. I know a woman that was told she couldn't have children, after many years of fostering, adopted and three years later got pregnant. She is only in her late 30's though. I also had a co-worker who thought she was going through menopause only to find out she was pregnant at 48. She went on to have a perfectly healthy baby boy. She had two teenage stepchildren and a 7 year old son. She was appalled to find out that she was pregnant. But, the baby was a complete joy and she is now thrilled and happy to have him.

Whatever happens you will be ok. I was born when my father was almost 47. I thought is was great. He was healthy and active and was always able to play with me and my siblings. Age is only what you make it.

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D.S.

answers from Tulsa on

I can't say if your pregnant or not but I will tell you not to panic if you are mine was out of high school when I got pregnant with my 2nd if you find out you are and want to talk send me a private email. ps doesn't sound pregnant to me but I am not a doctor

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