Just Curious - If You See a Nasty Response

Yes, I report those. Sometimes MP removes them, sometimes they don't.

I've said it before, and I'll say it again. This isn't supposed to be a Jerry Springer show.

Quite frankly, I don't care if others agree with me or not. But I will say that some of the people who yell the loudest that posters should be able to talk any way they want to here, are the ones who are the most mean to people, under the "guise" of telling it like it is.

There's telling it like it is. And then there's just being a jerk. And that's what I report.

Dawn

Nah, we're all adults here. I don't feel the need to tattle. If someone's selling something, maybe.

:)

Oh, I can report those?!

I just saw one of those not too long ago. I just thought to myself, this person didn't even bother to answer a very simple and direct question!

Example:

Asker: My husband travels for business. I would like to purchase a home alarm system. What would be a good choice?

Answer: ADT is a good choice.

Answer: I use Brinks.

Answer: I don't know of any home alarm systems. How 'bout a Rottweiler?

Answer: Phhht! I would never put up with my husband leaving me alone. I would never need something like an alarm system. What kind of a loser husband do you have that he would leave you home alone for weeks on end??

Is this what you mean?

Sometimes the "nasty" response is only nasty to the one reporting it or the one reporting it just disagrees with it and reports it so the opinion doesn't get read by others.

The mampedia police/censors pull responses they disagree with then fake a reason why. They have even agreed that a pulled response shouldn't have been pulled, but refuse to put it back if they don't agree with it.

Sometimes the answer is the one the asker needs to hear, but doesn't directly address the question asked.

But like others have said, you just put your adult pants on and ignore the answers you don't like and "flower" the ones you do like.

Good luck to you and yours.

nah. i have reported twice in all the years i've been here, and they were so full of expletives and ugly that i hope MP would have pulled it anyway.
on the other hand, i've been turned in and had posts pulled a LOT.
and me such a sweetheart!
:) khairete
S.

No I don't report nasty responses. This is an open forum and I think you're going to find all kinds on here. You take what you can use and disregard the rest.
For the most part this site has some wonderful moms with awesome insight and feedback, but occasionally you see the less tasteful. ;)
I don't even report trolls, I just ignore them. Its no fun for them when they don't get a reaction.
Hope that helps.

You can report anything you want. I could report this question. I would like to think they wouldn't pull it.

You shouldn't really report a question that just doesn't answer the question. Some of us just go off into left field, ya know?

You can also report answers that are just venomous even if they sort of answer the question.

Sometimes questions as you describe aren't reported because the person asking the question has already asked the question twenty ways from Tuesday. Not saying it is right but frustration is understandable.

I don't report a poster unless they are trying to solicit their own business, or if they make statements that walk a legal line (ie - racist statements).

If someone is nasty, I just gloss over it.... and hope that the original poster gets that the responder is clearly having their own set of issues that day. I see lots of mamas will address that person's response WITHIN their own responses..... Like "@sillyputty.... you didn't have to be so harsh....."

However - what YOU think is nasty may not be nasty to others. I'm not the mamapedia police, so I don't think it's my right to report something unless it breaks the "rules".

I have reported racist and anti gay answers. Which honestly, never answer the question that was asked.

I only report those who are truely downright cruel/mean.

A frank, blunt or harsh difference of opinion is not mean/bullying, etc.

I only report the ones that are blatantly and obviously offensive. There is a woman (a regular here) who lurks around my questions and posts sarcastic responses often, and never answers the question asked. Yes, I always report her, because she's doing it deliberately.

Other than that, again, if it's blatantly attacking or offensive, then yes, but other than that, I don't. I don't like it when people get report-happy, everyone has a right to a different opinion, and even off days. And some people feel really strongly about some things.

Reporting doesn't necessarily mean it will be deleted.
Just being nasty doesn't break the site Terms and Conditions.
The site monitors determine what is a waste of disk space, and we don't always agree.
But overall I think it's a good balance.
Sometimes some of the weekend troll traffic can be a bit much but they get deleted eventually.

I don't think I have ever noticed a really nasty response. Then again I am pretty thick skinned and usually not bothered, so I just assume others are the same way. I guess it would have to be really really bad and then I still would not report it as I would not feel it was my place. I have a very passive personality so maybe I am not the best person to answer this HA!

I've reported a couple times, but not about my own questions....
I've seen some down right, evil comments to a mom that was simply trying to ask for parenting advice. Or a woman that was in a semi abusive relationship... I understand people "having their own opinions", but sometimes women can cross the lines..

I've only been on here for 5 minutes. Friday night. Full moon looming. Wow.

I think reporting is needed for those that stalk or harass other members or just breaking the rules. Apparently there are some people that do break the rules and need reporting. Those that spew venom are just 'going off the deep end' need a chill pill.

Ive noticed over the years more and more responses from members that are just nasty and does not address the question and your like 'what the heck'. Similar to what ClarifiedMom said. I usually say thanks to those that actually answered my question and shame on those of you that read in between the 'non existent' lines. LOL

I posted a question a few weeks ago. I asked if people felt bullied on this board because many people are not reading the questions or they were reading the question but coming up with their own conclusions. Some people said we need to have a thick skin, a back bone, even the questions should be short to the point maybe you give too much information, or just deal with it. I got a lot of replies with that question.

I figure it doesn't matter how short or long your question is, there will always be someone unhappy and nasty ready to take you down with them.

No, do people really do that? I rarely see straight up nastiness here. In any event, I feel like this is just a message board, a place I come to unwind, and I don't really put too much stock into posters like that.

No, I don't. You never know what triggers someone to answer something.

I've reported a few people who answered using "fighting words" and name calling, but that's it.

Not too long ago, legislation was passed that kept ISPs and web site owners from being held responsible for libel and slander, espcially any communication mediums open to 3rd parties, however, it is currently being challenged. I'm sure if something passes where any forms of communication can be held responsible for 3rd party posts, things would be much different. In answer to your question, I'm sure the powers at be at mamapedia are aware of this and are trying to prevent anyone saying anything they can be held responsible for. Pure speculation on my part though.

There have only been a couple times ever that I thought what someone posted was just so inappropriate that I reported it. Otherwise I just move past it and ignore it. I have seen some teeter on the edge of being inappropriate though.
I have seen some very passionate answers that I thought were way off in left field in regards to the question. I do wish that some would take the time to think about their words before they posted them with certain topics but, alas, some ladies aren't that polite. If it's a "hot button" thing to me I always take a step back and think about my words before I post them, if I post them at all.