My cousin is getting married next summer and she is concerned about involving her soon-to-be SILs in the wedding. She and her fiancée have decided they do not want them standing in the wedding because there are issues with one of the sisters and didn't want to have 2 out of 3 in the wedding. She is looking for a special way to include/acknowledge them as a special part of their big days. She asked for my advice but I are really horrible about this stuff. I know you all have wonderful suggestions. Has anyone dealt with a situation like this before?
Thank you in advance!
Ug. I'm lucky that my fiance's sister and I get along really well. She is going to be one of my bridesmaids... BUT my sister and I were not involved with my brother's wedding. We didn't feel slighted at all. We understand that this day is about THEM, not US.
A lot depends on the type of wedding she is having. You can have them involved in various ways depending the wedding plan itself...
Make them each a hostess - handing out the programs at the church, greeting guests at the reception and directing them to: their seats, the guest book, the gift table, appetizers, drinks/bar/restrooms, etc. They can also serve the cake after it has been cut.
Have them do some of the readings for the ceremony, or recite a poem of her choosing.
She could ask them to gather pictures/memories of their brother through the years to create a slide show. Often the couple will have a slide show playing during the meal with pictures of them growing up and as individuals, and then closing with photos of them together over the years.
They could be in charge of creating a gift basket and selecting the music for an anniversary dance. Either in lieu of, or in addition to, the boquet/garter toss, it is nice to have a song played where you invite all married couples on to the dance floor for an anniversary dance. The song will play and the DJ (or whomever) will ask couples married 5 years or less to sit down. It goes on until only 1 couple remains who have been married the longest. The get the gift basket and the opportunity to give the couple a bit of advice if they'd like.
She could ask them to together, or individually if easier, write a toast to their brother for the reception.
Lots of ways they can be included, just get creative! Good Luck!
Hi mommy!
I included siblings (ex' and mine) with the readings for the service...
I also had one sing (they have a great voice...and was a special song)
Best Luck!
Michele/cat
I guess it depends on the type of service.
There's nothing that says ushers have to be male.
They can still wear beautiful dresses and be in charge of the guest book, they can make sure corsages and boutinneires are fastended and adorned correctly. They can help seat guests. They can have a part in the reception and be in pictures as part of the wedding party.
There are lots of different ways to include them.
I hope it works out for the best!
She could have them walk down the aisle during the processional, and then just sit in thr front row. Usually the parents get "special" seating as the ceremony starts, and just have the sisters come first, then the parents, then the bridal party. Also, make sure that they get a corsage along with the mothers.
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She could ask them to read a special poem or passage at the reception or ceremony.
thankfully my fiance only has one sister. she is going to be in my wedding party. she's like a little sister to me already. however, my own sisters are not going to be in my wedding party. i was trying to find a way to include them without having them stand up with me (that would be wayyy too much drama with one of my sisters). i'm happy you asked about this, because i want to include them too. i was thinking as ushers/hostess, but this gave me many more ideas. thank you.
Have them do a reading or sing if they are good. We had a lot of candles and included a friend to be the candle lighter. She got to dress up and light them all when everyone was seated. Good luck!
