Hubby and I Caught! -Oh No!!

I always closed the bedroom door before clothes came off, but it was NEVER locked. She knew to knock if it was closed but sometimes she forgot. No big deal.
If she saw one (or both) of us naked (and she did), she saw. If she walked in on us in the act, (and she did), she saw. We didn't make a big deal out of it. No frantic grabbing for sheets to cover as though we were doing anything wrong. Just paused the action, asked her what she needed, took care of it, and got back to business.

Many people around the world have communal sleeping quarters, kids still get made, and grown-ups are functional.

So, I think, regardless of which daughter it was....she'll be OK. You, on the other hand, might need a drink! :D

So your 8 year old might have seen her parents, who love eachother, making out? You weren't nude, and you weren't "in the act."

I don't think there's a problem. Your daughter should know that her parents love one another, and probably already knows that you kiss and cuddle and touch. This is healthy relationship stuff. Unless she saw you two in the midst of a sweaty, body slapping, squealing, rutting session, I'd just let it go.

⊱♥Christy♥Lee♥⊰
Unless she saw you two in the midst of a sweaty, body slapping, squealing, rutting session, I'd just let it go.

I just choked on my drink! OMGosh THANKS for that laugh!!

ummm ditto Christy Lee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wouldn't say anything. What is there to say, really?

Lock your doors. We will never get caught, because we LOCK our doors!! It takes no effort, even in the middle of it all.

This reminds me of a story a co-worker once told me.
It seems their daughter (I think she was 6 at the time) didn't feel well during the night so she came to her parents bed and they settled her down and thought she was finally asleep.
So Mom and Dad feel amorous and so they don't disturb their daughter they use the floor next to the bed.
Well, satisfied after a good session, my co-worker looks up and there's his daughter looking at them and she says "Daddy - you're funny!" and went back to sleep.
It just so happens that was the night they conceived their next child (a son).

Don't worry about it!
They'll know but pretty much forget about it.
And when they are teens and eventually discover such a thing as sex exists, they'll think they invented it and then be super grossed out when they realize that "EWwww! Their parents DO it!".

I don't get the big deal. You were partially clothed.

I agree that it is a MUST to LOCK the door so this doesn't happen again.

Whatever you do, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it because the last thing you want to do is make your girls think the natural intimacy between mom and dad is "dirty" and "wrong".

you have such a great attitude. I have to share and i'm surprised you didint' get more stories and less lectures about the locks.

this just happened a few nights ago. I've been stressed and sick so we haven't done much lately but I was trying to make an effort.

It was late, kids were sleeping, I was on my back, my nightgown was down to my waist , fill in the rest, and I heard this tiny rustle, threw my hand out and poked my dd right in the EYE! Oh my goodness, totally ruined the mood, took her back to bed and she never said anything, I asked the next day why she came in thinking if she was troubled about it she could ask, but she didn't so i'm hoping it was too dark and we were quiet enough.
I think the noise is what I worry about the most.

anyhow lock the door ;)

I don't understand how people get caught.
We have 3 kids. The door is ALWAYS locked. ALWAYS.
So, my helpful idea? Remember that you have kids that walk about the house sometimes and LOCK your door.
Also, if you were partially clothed then your kid didn't see too much :)
L.

I don't think it's as traumatic as you're making it out to be. You survived your childhood incidence and went on to have a normal, healthy relationship. Somethings are better left unsaid, and this is one of them. Lock the bedroom door next time.

As you've been told, I wouldn't worry about it. As stated, you and your husband have a healthy relationship, and be happy she didn't see/hear you two fighting or something like that. I remember my then 13 yr. old daughter and her friend informing me that they heard me & my hubby the night before! Oh, my! Talk about embarrassing! I just mumbled something like, "Well, at least you know we love each other!" hahaha Ugh! At least they are young and you can use this as an intro to "the talks" and educating without mortifying :)

One of my all time favorite episodes of "Modern Family" is when their children have made a anniversary breakfast for their parents and walk in on them.. The children's reactions are priceless.. Of course they are older than your children..

I also witnessed my parents at about the same moment you and your husband were "caught" but I was only about 4.. It in no way traumatized me. As I got older and understood, I just realized they loved each other at that moment.

IF my parents had spoken with me about it I would have been fine, but they never did and I was ok without it..

Just follow your heart, you know her best. Do not worry.

I guess we are the risk takers. Our door is usually shut but not locked if we are doing it in the bedroom. The only caveat to that is if it's like a weekend day and we retreat to our room for a daytime frolic between the sheets. Then we lock the door since the kids are awake and up and around. But sometimes we get down and dirty in the living room after we've checked on the kids and know they are asleep. So far, no incidents.

I accidentally walked in on my dad stark naked, things happen, life goes on.

I would leave it be. If you have not already begun the sex ed. conversations you should probably start now with the 8yr old. Good Luck, lock the doors and live and learn.

hee!
i'll never forget when this happened to us!
'DADDY! STOP WRESTLING!!!!!!'
:D
yup, let it go unless she asks, then keep it short, honest, and no more info than requested. i think it scars the parents way more than the kids!
:) khairete
S.

LOL!
This is funny. But I think it happens to most kids, doesn't it? I remember walking in on my parents, and leaving quickly. I was young, and didn't really know what was going on, but knew I shouldn't be there. And later, I learned more and realized what I had seen as a little kid - as a teen I thought EW, and now that I'm reminded as an adult I think - while I don't really want the mental image, it's good to know my parents have a healthy relationship.

But in general, I don't know what my mom would have accomplished by bringing it up. I'd let it go.

Lock on the door, at all times, always!

Personally, I think it should be a lesson learned that with ANY kids in the house, the best time for the nooky is when the door is LOCKED! Never underestimate the whereabouts of a kid in your house....at any age. Unless it is an infant in a crib and even that can be an oopsy-daisy if they figure out how to climb out of it!
I can appreciate your feelings right now though. It has happened to us all at some point and for those that haven't been caught in the act, you're damn lucky, good door-lockers, or you're just not having any good sex that's worth a drop-in by the kids! Hahahaha....all kidding aside.....it will be fine. Best things to do is do NOTHING!!! Say nothing, mention nothing, act like nothing in particular even needs to be addressed. Whatever or whoever thinks they saw something can do without a explanation of what it was they may have seen. Just gloss over it and let it go. Nobody will be traumatized or scarred for life. If you happen to get questioned, I would humorously dismiss it by saying something like...."What are you talking about? Were you sleepwalking again? OR...."Am I under investigation for something? Gosh...I hope not because I was just kissing Dad."
The ultimate goal here is BLOW IT OFF and act like it never happened....hee-hee.....but good for you and hubby that it really DID!!!

Think of the family on vacation at a mild temperature lake. The teenagers are swimming with their friends by a large in-the-water playground 100 yards away. Life guard is on duty so every one is safe. Picnic lunch is set off to one side and the ice chest is full of cold drinks. No need to bother mom and dad. (HA!) That's what YOU think! Mom's string bikini has "Accidently" come untied and dad's swimming trunks have settled on the lake bottom next to dad's. Mom is floating in dad's arms in a quiet, secluded cove of crystal clear water, with visibility under water of about 50 feet. Dad has found something interesting to kiss. And mom is feeling . . . wonderful.

The next thing they hear is an older teenage son saying "Mom, dad, I want you to meet . . . (a new girl he had met at the play ground.) And then he and she see mom and dare aren't in their suits . . . and all they can do is open their mouth laugh then turn red.

And yes, the bushes are so thick you can't see though them, but there isn't a lock on the lake. They are in the water. Mom is dropped in the lake as dad sinks up to his neck. Mom comes up coughing and snorting and because of that she comes up much higher that she would have had she seen who arrived.

He turns so red so fast he resembles a red fire engine and as soon as mom stops coughing and see who is there she turns fire engine red too.

UGH ! !

He came back after dinner and she never came back.

I guess every one has one of those moments. At least one . . .

As Jessica said . . . some people are just risk takers.

Good luck to you and yours.

Ughhhhh - invest in a hook and eye type of thing for your door. Cost is maybe $2. Best investment you'll ever make and make sure it gets locked before anything gets started.

I probably wouldn't say anything. But we always lock the door before getting it on and I recommend that from now on. I just would be too mortified if my kids caught us. I don't want to traumatize them :) Plus my sister lives next door and comes over all the time. I'm very open with PDA in front of my kids, but more like PG or PG-13 rated PDA.