I received a call form my daughters school stating that 2 boys hit her on her bottom durning lunch. She went on to inform me that the 2 have been suspended for 3 days & would not return until a parent conference with the principle. I thought that was appropriate and just asked that they apologize to my daughter and she agreed. My daughter asked them to stop and they did it a few times until she hit them back.
My heart had a huge smile when the counselor explained that she became aware of the incident because 2 other 3rd graders from a different class witnessed the incident and told their teacher who in return contacted my daughters teacher.
How can I reward the young girls for being such leaders? I am thinking that I want their parents to know what they did so I plan to write it in a thank you card, any other thoughts on what I can do?
When we questioned our daughter about her speaking up she said that she was waiting until she got home to tell us (parents) what happened.
I think a thank-you note would be perfect. Address it to the young girls as well as their parents, so they see that their actions meant a lot!
I am a former school counselor and a current teacher. I think the note advice from Jen is spot on. The note should be addressed to the student and the parents. Include your contact phone number to as a follow up. It is a great bonding for you and these parents in future years.
I agree, I think a thank you note would be a terrific way to recognize them. I don't think you need to recognize with a gift or anything. A simple thank you note that is written from the heart will mean a lot and hopefully reinforce to these girls that standing up against this type of behavior is the right thing to do!
If you want to include something with the note, perhaps a small sweet treat that says how you feel:
"Life Saver"
"Smarties"
"Dove"
"Gold" - maybe there's a "golden name" candy I can't think of.
As a parent, I would be THRILLED to get a note that said how much of a great leader my child was. That would be the greatest Christmas gift ever. So please yes write a letter of thanks to the girls. Perhaps a second one to the parents thanking them for teaching their children to stand up for one another.
Thank you note to the parents is a great idea!
I just think the school will handle it. I'm sure they thanked the kids for making the right choice already.
IF your daughter knows the other kids, she can thank them herself, at school, in person. IF anything, mention your desire to thank the kids to the counselor and see what she says. After all, they did the "right thing" and while I'm sure you appreciate it...they were only doing what they should have, right?
