Eight Year Old Son Seen Naughty Pictures

Updated on May 29, 2008
T.L. asks from Elmwood, WI
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Hi Moms
I am wondering how you would handel this.
My son seen some pictures of naked ladies on a calendar one of his classmates brought to school. I asked him if he had any questions about what he had seen. He said no so I said well if you ever do please come talk to me or your dad about it. Is this enough or should I do something else. The school has already punished the other child and I talked with his mother and she was EXTREMLY mortiffied and very sorry. Thanks T.

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Thank you for all your advice. I have not done anything further but it helped to know that I did what alot of other parents would have also thanks again for all your support.:)T.

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A.B.

answers from Minneapolis on

I think you did well too. I am assuming that the pictures were just of naked women and not pornographic. There is a HUGE difference. The important thing, also, is the inappropriateness of where he saw the pictures. Things that are not a big deal in the home are legally inappropriate in other places like school. I think it's good that you talked to him, but keep your husband in the loop. There are different perspectives for men and women on these topics sometimes, and this is important in SOOO many things.

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M.K.

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I haven't read the responses, but it's what I would do. Don't give too much information yet, but leave the door comfortably open to questions.

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C.K.

answers from Minneapolis on

Kids are usually too mortified or uncomfortable to ask their parents questions about sex--I know my friends and I were. I wouldn't count on the fact that he will come to you; you have to go to him.

The issue with these kinds of instances is that the boy with the calendar was punished, so now they are all thinking that there is something wrong with the naked body or sex or being curious. I would use this as an opportunity to talk about the differences between men and women, and tell him your own views on those kinds of pictures, how to be respectful to women, etc. It would be great if this came from your husband, too.

If they are looking at naked calendars at school, they are definitely talking about sex. Who do you want your son to get his knowledge and values from--you or the boy on the playground?

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A.P.

answers from Minneapolis on

I think what you did was just fine. Leaving the door open for hime to discuss anything is probably your best option. I think drawing to much attention to it with out him having questions about what he saw, maybe negative. I think you did well, I would have handled it the same way!!

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A.

answers from Minneapolis on

I would leave it up to him. I think you did well. Their is plenty of time to talk about the birds and the bees in the future. My son had a similar thing happen and we always leave the door open for him and make sure he knows that being naked isn't a bad thing but that he's too young to know everything about the opposite sex.

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S.G.

answers from Rapid City on

I think you did fine also. I do wonder what kind of message it was with the other child getting into so much trouble and that not being addressed. Does he know that while the naked body is natural and beautiful, they shouldn't be shown in public, that the body is a private thing and he shouldn't let his be photographed. I would go more into why the pictures aren't approprate and not so much into sexuality at his age.

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