Dyslexic 6 Yr Old

J C is 100% right. If they can't meet her needs, they have to pay for a school that can. We just had this problem. The school district refused to pay. Got a lawyer and won! Go get 'em Mama!

I am also very confused by your statement that the school can't meet her needs. By law, they have to. She is entitled to an educations, and the public school must provide it .or have a partnership with a school/personal who can.

My son has been diagnosed with ADHD, Social Pragmatic Communication Disorder, Oppositional Defiant Disorder and we're keeping Anxiety in the back of our minds as a possibility. (Sorry, no experience with Dyslexia). His issues at school are behavioral and not academic - at least not right now. His school tried several different things and nothing was working. We were so frustrated! Our little guy just kept getting into trouble, and nothing we did at home seemed to matter. Finally the school asked us to consider an alternative arrangement. Turns out our school district is part of a coop of several school districts in our area, and there is another school (that's part of the coop) that has resources more catered to his needs. (Who knew?) Our district provides transportation. Our son is in a classroom with 7 other kids (only 7!!!) and 5 adults. Wow! He's only been there a few weeks, but this sounds like an arrangement that might really make a difference for him.

You have to talk to the school. Start with your daughter's teacher. Ask about the resource teachers at the school. Can she be pulled out for extra help with reading and math? That's the first place to start. Is she receiving speech services? That might sound weird, but speech teachers have training in social skills (Social Communication Disorder). Our son's speech teacher works with him on his social skills. That should probably be included in her IEP.

You have to keep talking to the school. Your daughter's teacher may not fully understand her needs. That's fine. She (or he) likely has very little training. But there are people employed by the district that should understand her needs and have some very concrete ideas of how to help her.

The school really should be doing more. I don't know that I would give up on them just yet.

I would think it would be really hard to find a school that had more resources to meet your daughter's needs than your public school. In PA the school must meet the needs of the child. If they can't then they must pay for a school that can.

I suggest you contact the NY department of education and learn your daughter's rights. They should be able to tell you what she is entitled too.

Could you please elaborate about the IEP and how the school can't address her needs? Is it "can't" or "won't" or a matter of disagreement between your and the schools' assessment and plans?

I know it happens: it happened to us, but in our daughter's case, it was because her diagnoses were complex medical situations that the school had never heard of/dealt with. They could not and would not comply with physicians' orders. I should have sued, but my husband was deployed and with all the new diagnoses, appointments, and mountains of information, I just couldn't deal with one more thing.

But most public schools should have the means and tools and resources to deal with dyslexia, and your daughter's other diagnoses.

What needs is the IEP missing? How have you provided input? What are the IEP meetings like? Is the school making an effort that you feel is inadequate? What about your daughter's physicians/therapists/counselors? Are they contributing to the IEP goals and standards? Are they satisfied with the IEP and her progress?

Why isn't it the school's responsibility to suggest an appropriate school for her? That's what is done in my state and probably every state. You have to push and advocate, but the public schools have to pay for a child to go to an appropriate alternative school, including paying for transportation via minibus or certified driver in a van.

And if you're looking for resources specific to Manhattan, put "Manhattan" in the title of your question so it stands out and so it goes to people who live in that area. You'll get more targeted responses.

Her IEP should absolutely provide any realistic need she has so that she can be successful in school. Please google IEP and 504 plan to see that she's on the right one. The school should have the funds to get her what she needs. If they don't then you might need to seek the assistance of an attorney.

Cyber School. she can do it from home and only deal with you so no anxiety

if you want answers that refer to manhattan you need to re-do your question and target it via the appropriate button to only go to that geographical area.
if you just want answers as to how to get your daughter educated you need to give more information. why can't the public school address her needs? your daughter sounds like a super high-maintenance student so it may be that they need some time to figure it out. since your daughter was 'just' diagnosed, aren't you being a bit h*** o* them expecting them to just have all the resources you desire at their fingertips? schools have finite resources and a lot of kids with a huge variety of 'needs' that each parent thinks is paramount.
if you want to homeschool i could make suggestions about that, but no, since i live in MD i have no idea how to find you a school in manhattan that would address the needs that you haven't described here.
i do wish you luck.
khairete
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I highly suggest finding a local mom's group on Facebook to join to ask. You will have a much larger audience of local mom's who know your area a whole lot better. This is a national site with mom's from coast to coast. It's possible that there isn't anyone in your immediate area here or if they are they may not feel comfortable sharing that on a public, anonymous website.