Don't Leave Me!

Updated on April 25, 2008
G.S. asks from Tucson, AZ
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I have a 7 month, almost 8 month and she was sick for a week and 2 days after she got better she can't stand not being held or someone being close to her. If you get up she starts to cry. If you walk out of the room forget about it! She tries to follow. It's constant. She's sleeping fine at night, just during the day is nuts, she can't have anyone away from her. What's going on?

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J.K.

answers from Phoenix on

I've had the same thing happen when my kids have been sick. I just gave them a little more attention until they were completely 100%. Even when they are better, sometimes they still feel "out of sorts."

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S.F.

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She is just trying to recover from the shock of feeling bad for such a long time. Tell her everything is fine, put her where she can see you and chat with her while you go on about your business :-)

At that age you don't want to leave them out of someone's site anyway. I remember putting my girls in a laundry basket with some toys, strapping a belt to it and dragging them around as I did the laundry etc.... they loved it!

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K.R.

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It could have something to do with having gotten used to the extra attention from being sick or maybe she still doesn't feel completely well yet. But most likely it's the age. This is where seperation anxiety hits. I have a 10mo that still does this, it makes life difficult at times. It gets better, but as my ped put it, sometimes you just have to let them cry a couple minutes. As long as they are safe and all their physical needs are met, there are times you just have to do things, like go to the bathroom. Often I will pick my son up and take him into the new room with me, but others I try to occupy him with something and sneak out to grab something and hurry back. This will pass!

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K.S.

answers from Phoenix on

both of my kids go through the same thing. I am not sure what causes it but If I had to guess I would say they get used the tender love and care that comes their way. In real life, it is hard to pay that much attention to your kids, but when they are sick they need and deserve it (being sick is scary!). In any case, do your best to reassure her that you still love her, perhaps spend some special 1:1 time a few times during the day. let her know when you are going to leave the room by saying "mommy is going here or there". she will get over it but she is feeling insecure right now. Patience and time. Besides, she didnt learn how to be a sweetie pie by being alone, clearly she is loved!! She loves you back!!

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M.C.

answers from Portland on

It could be separation anxiety or that she's still not back to feeling her best, but it will pass. I find it helpful to wear the baby in a carrier like the ergo or a mei tai. They love being close to you, and they learn a lot watching what you do. It frees up your hands so you can get housework done.

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K.T.

answers from Phoenix on

My son is almost 9 months old and he just started doing the same thing. I think it is the age. I find if I really focus a lot of attention on him and then set him down he'll give me a little bit of time to do other things.

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S.S.

answers from Flagstaff on

Hold her as much as you can and she'll grow out of it. I use a sling that I purchased from slingbaby.com
Good luck! It's hard but worth it.

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