Sons Disrespect Towards Mom

My son is 14. If he is generally and has BEEN generally respectful of you the majority of his life, try not to sweat it too much. His hormones are raging, he is trying to distance himself from his "mommy" and grow up, and well, he's a teenager, pretty much sums it up.

If he has always had disrespect issues, then that is another matter. But if this is him flaking out on you in just the recent history, try not to over think it.

My husband took my son for his first driving lesson today (without telling me first) in MY car. He just turned 14. I have a 6 speed manual transmission.

There are a LOT of changes that are coming over your son. Try to relax and let a little bit go...

13 is a tough time for kids changing from child to apprentice adult.

Your son will switch from dad to mom as he ages. I always insisted my kids respect my wife and treat her like the queen of the castle.

My children saw me treat my wife with love, honor and respect her. I have always opened doors for my wife. I've always given her flowers and gifts and cards. I have repeated written her love poems. My kids have read the G and PG rated poems where I expressed my love for my wife.

Leading by example has paid off royaly. My kids love and respect their mom and treat their wifes and husbands with love and respect. There were even some dates that ended on the first date because the date didn't act like a gentleman.

Good luck to you and yours

I've always heard that boys want/need to be with their dads more as teenagers. When they're littlle, they're in the stage where mom rules and they wish they could marry mommy. When the are teens, dad rules. It sounds quite normal.

I think it's more common for boys to treat their mothers worse than they do their fathers. It's partly because they are somewhat more intimidated by their fathers.

But, men should never sit by and let their sons treat their mothers with disrespect. If your husband is ever present when your son is treating you poorly, I hope he puts his kid in his place. This subject has been a big issue for me, and almost ended my marriage. So if your husband doesn't automatically tell his son to respect his mother, I suggest you tell your husband that you expect him to stand up for you.

Get this under control now, because it might be a little rocky for a few years as your son enters this charming teenage phase. And a man keeping his kid in line is a very simple thing and can change a family's whole dynamic.

Insist that your husband control your son's behavior toward you.

I sometimes see a bit of this from my boys, but I chalk it up to the fact that as a SAHM I am with them all of the time, whereas they only see dad on weekends during the school year because he works the evening shift. It's sort of like they take me for granted because I am always there for them, taking them everywhere and doing everything for them, but time with dad is more "special". I can understand it.

Oh heavens yes . . . and as another mom mentioned the problem probably lies with your husband and not your son. Husband should not tolerate that behavior towards his wife.

Son just feels alot more comfortable with you, and confident that you'll love on him no matter what. And he wants his dad to respect him and think of him as a "man." Men don't whine to other men for the most part.

I have two sons . . . JMO based on my own experience.